a question for the dom types

[slvjenn]

Another thread got me thinking so i must ask...

I usually do things because i want to...I want to please, I want to do what I'm told. I want to be told...

Some submissives need to, or want to be forced to do things...

So, my question is, how are the 2 different for you as a dom?

Would you rather your submissive did things that you told them right away, without force, or would you rather have to "beat it" out of them?

Why, or how, is it different on your end?

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Well, it depends...a little bit of play resistance is fun, because it is play. Serious resistance I take as a challenge, to carry us to another level.

 

[T.J. Jackson]

I would rather have her just accept what I want and accomplish the given task without going through and forcing her to do it. Saying that doesn't mean I am not willing to make her do it, I do still make her do things I want done. LOL, it goes in streaks, lately she has been a bit rebellious. She wants to obey and serve but she also is trying to balance too many things at once and it gets a bit overwhelming at times. THAT is when she gets rebellious.

 

[boppermeo]

Hi, i agree with Mayberry. i read one of your stories. i liked it alot.
Boppermeo

 

[Richard49]

playfull resistence is fun

real resistence is NOT ok
and I will usually walk away

 

[Shadowsdream]

playfull resistence is fun

real resistence is NOT ok
and I will usually walk away

I will piggy back Richards reply.

and add..
Games bore Me..you want to submit or you don't...if you need to you will...if you want to you might...
Without the need it is only a half loaf for Me.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I'm not as quick to walk away as you folks are...but I agree that if it a constant struggle for control, it isn't worth my time. I understand that it can be hard to submit, but if you want to make everything a discussion, you simply aren't commiting yourself to the relationship.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Another thread got me thinking so i must ask...

I usually do things because i want to...I want to please, I want to do what I'm told. I want to be told...

Some submissives need to, or want to be forced to do things...

So, my question is, how are the 2 different for you as a dom?

Would you rather your submissive did things that you told them right away, without force, or would you rather have to "beat it" out of them?

Why, or how, is it different on your end?

I would not have a sub who did not do what I said. If he does not obey, then he can go away.

 

[slvjenn]

hrm..maybe i had the wrong idea on how many others are...

 

[Netzach]

I want to be served and heeded and I don't want to have to force anyone to do that.

I don't even want to have to go through the issue of describing the minutiae of what that means. I will not tell you how to wash your face or the floor, or what time to get up, or if I want tea in the afternoon. If someone cares and is attentive, and thinks, uses the common sense they were given, they will learn me and my likings through observation. They will serve me, not passively wait to be told how to do things, they will be an active, creative, thinking agent.

If the submissive can't imagine what serve and heed might mean, then he or she might want to do some basic reading, thinking, and meditating on the concept of service. If they need to be given permission to leave the house before they can pick up the peanut butter from the co-op, then they are not the right submissive for me.

 

[psiberzerker]

I like a challenge, not rote aquiescence. Submission doesn't turn me on, because dominating someone with out will is easy. It's personal preferrance, really, and I've known plenty of people who preferred to BE Dominated rather than just submitting to keep me happy.
It's not an issue of force with me, though. I'd rather coerce, convince, and dominate mentally than physicly force submission. I pride myself on my intellect, not my size, and physical power.
Occasionally, I get beaten at my own game, and I love that too. I may be a Dominant, but I can be Dominated. The role reversal is real that way, and extremely erotic. That's what makes the game fun, the chance of losing, the surprises, and upsets.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

OK, yes, all submitting all the time is not fun...buut teh resistance, if any, should be natural, not a head game, and not something that overcomes the need to serve.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Without the need it is only a half loaf for Me.

Is it that much? Without the need, it is not worth my time.