OldDog_NewTricks
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First, if this has been discussed before I don’t seem to find anything on the subject.
Second, this question may enter the LGTBQIA+ community (I think I that have all the letters) and I have no experience in that arena. So, if I say something that may be offensive, it is absolutely not out of spite, but out of my own ignorance. Please be patient and help educate me with that so I can better myself.
I am working on my second story, well…revising and re-writing. It isn’t necessarily about an embarrassed nude male, but more of a nervous nude male. The thought occurred to me that a woman who may flash her breasts or even her genitalia in public, may be seen by some as daring, risqué, or maybe brazen. But a man that engages in the same behavior (genitalia), will almost always be seen as sick, perverted, or deviant. Two lesbians who share a sensual loving kiss (not fiery passionate, but with a little tongue) in public are usually seen as “acceptable”, but two gay men doing the same thing are usually seen as “abhorrent”.
Why does it seem that the same behaviors and/or actions by men and women are seen as nearly polar opposites? Why does it seem that lesbians are higher on the “socially acceptable” chart than gay men? Especially from the “straight “ community perspective, or am I assuming too much?
And more for my education, if the word lesbian refers to gay women (is gay women the correct terminology?), then is there a word for gay men? And if there isn’t, why?
I guess it all just seems a bit one sided in favor of the women.
Any insight?
Second, this question may enter the LGTBQIA+ community (I think I that have all the letters) and I have no experience in that arena. So, if I say something that may be offensive, it is absolutely not out of spite, but out of my own ignorance. Please be patient and help educate me with that so I can better myself.
I am working on my second story, well…revising and re-writing. It isn’t necessarily about an embarrassed nude male, but more of a nervous nude male. The thought occurred to me that a woman who may flash her breasts or even her genitalia in public, may be seen by some as daring, risqué, or maybe brazen. But a man that engages in the same behavior (genitalia), will almost always be seen as sick, perverted, or deviant. Two lesbians who share a sensual loving kiss (not fiery passionate, but with a little tongue) in public are usually seen as “acceptable”, but two gay men doing the same thing are usually seen as “abhorrent”.
Why does it seem that the same behaviors and/or actions by men and women are seen as nearly polar opposites? Why does it seem that lesbians are higher on the “socially acceptable” chart than gay men? Especially from the “straight “ community perspective, or am I assuming too much?
And more for my education, if the word lesbian refers to gay women (is gay women the correct terminology?), then is there a word for gay men? And if there isn’t, why?
I guess it all just seems a bit one sided in favor of the women.
Any insight?