A question for ladies under 30.

[Paradox]

I know that a lot of older guys have fantasies about being with younger women. What do young women think about being with an older man? I'm not talking about a five year difference, I'm talking about someone old enough to be your father. If you're interested in older men, is it usually because of a "daddy" thing? I'm really interested in knowing. You can respond here if you want your answer to be part of a larger dialog, or you can send me an e-mail if you want to keep it more private. Either way, I will appreciate your responses.

Thanks

 

[Guest]

 

[ReturnedOne]

Suzy,

Being quite a bit outside the age difference you mentioned, I would invite you to an afternoon/evening's discussion of the advantages/disadvantages of being with an "older" man.

I will be in Germany, Austria & Switzerland between 16 July and 27 July. What are the possibilities of such a discussion between the two of us?

Edward

 

[MissTaken]

Breaking the rules of the thread.....

Well, I am not so young anymore.

When I was 27, I had a very nice and fulfilling interlude with a man 18 years older than I. The relationship remained casual as was our initial intent.

There certainly were many advantages and good times.

This had nothing to do with a "daddy thing". Rather, sexy voice, nice eyes and very nice ass........that is what did it for me. *wink*

 

[Paradox]

Hey, this is my thread, Ed! If you want to contribute to the discussion, please do so. If you're just trying to pick up chicks, start your own thread.

I'm not really mad, but your message kind of misses the point.

And, ladies, if you are willing, would you tell how old you are and what you consider an "older" man?

I'm 48, by the way.

Paradox

 

[Guest]

 

[Paradox]

Thanks Suzy, Taken... anyone else want to comment?

 

[SexySecretary]

Paradox's Question Answered in Truth

Paradox, you will love this. I am 23 and married to a 41 year old man. When we're having sex, he'll ask me "Who's your daddy, baby?'

It turns me on big time to hear that. But it's not a daddy thing for me. I just love my husband with all my heart. He calls me his butterfly.

And the sex is out of this world, by the way.

Have a comment? Contact me at waterlily2000_23@hotmail.com.

 

[rambling man]

I'm in my late 20s but even at this age, I have found that with some women, the confidence and experience in someone a little older is a definite turn on. I think some women feel secure with an older man, too, feel maybe they can rely on him more. There may be authority turn ons that are not exactly the daddy thing.

Unfortunately, I can't take advantage of the opportunities, being married and all

 

[SallyIsHere]

it's not age

It really have nothting to do with age, more to do with maturity, experience and common interest. Some younger men have that, some don't. I would rather be with an interesting 50 year old who has something to say than with a 20 year old with a backward baseball cap, constant hard on and a tendency to say "hey dude" all day. Yet there are dirty old men and wonderfully sensitive and sensual young men. Don't judge by the cover. I have had sex with a chubby middle aged man who drove me crazy with desire. I have had sex with a young man with a 6 pack stomach and big dick who was as dull as dirt and treated me like I was just another warm hole to cum in.
Sal

 

[Paradox]

I agree, Sally. It is the person inside that really makes the difference.

Up until about two years ago, I assumed that I would never really have any interest in a much younger woman. I wondered what we would talk about. But, I didn't really know many, either. In the last couple of years, I've been able to meet and interact with more and I've started thinking, what if...?

Maybe part of my facination is unrealistic (and this is part of what I'm trying to discover with my original question), but I like to think there might be a qualitative difference between a young man and an older man that is attractive to some women. And, from my side, there is curiosity. To be honest, I wonder if I could satisfy a young woman as well as a young man could. Or, could I satisfy her more? Maybe someday I'll find out.

 

[Guest]

Well, sometimes it is the Daddy thing but for me personally it is the maturity thing. Older men are past their big ego stage and are more likely to go out on a limb for love or a relationship. They have had sometime to figure out what and how women want what they do and are more ready to give it to them. They are not so interested in playing games and who dumped who crap. They make a younger woman feel appreciated and attractive when maybe those of the opposite sex in her age range do not. I dated a guy who was 50 yrs old and he was so in touch with me and able to talk to me about his real feelings without me having to probe that I had sex with him the first night and I had not had sex with anyone in 6.5 years before that! He made me feel sexy, accepted, liked as a person on the inside as well as the outside, and we had more fun and I have never laughed and enjoyed sex more. I am so very glad that he was the one I had sex with for the first time after that long dry spell. I did not meet any men in my age range who made me feel a 10th of what he did, which is why it had been so long for me. I did not feel attractive to my age group and was insecure after all that time. Hope that answers your question!

 

[Guest]

lemme see. I am 20. my current bf is 4 years older then I am. But...
i do like older men in egenral- like 40's or so- not the smooth ones- i'm all about sci-fi guys, music men, guys who know what they're doing in general and ARENT looking for a young girl- but find a greta woman in a young body.
my credentials? senior year in high scool i was deeply in lust (and love) with my physics teacher- he is in his 50's.
anyone who knows spider robisnon i am all for the jake type fellow. its hard to explain but i tend to get fascinated by these somewhat less then extremly outgoing older men.. yum......

 

[TuRLoCK]

i am 27 and my husband is 52. i look at it this way, he has had about 40 years of studying, joyously, the art of pleasuring women, and at the moment, i am the sole beneficiary! he is really helping me to explore my sexuality like no one else has. but it's not a daddy thing for me. his life experience gives him a texture and confidence that younger men don't have. and he is very secure with himself, which is a turn on. and besides that, he has the most incredible blue eyes and gorgeous,thick,silver hair and a nice ass! we met online by the way...

 

[Guest]

yummmmmm

It has been a fantasy of mine, to be thrown over an older man's knee, and spanked. "Daddy" daydreams float through my mind quite often. The strength of an older man-the wisdom of his body- the cracks on his rough, aged hands... Ooooooh, baby!
Yum!

 

[sweetest_soul_2]

Older Men

I think the question you are really trying to answer is if you should feel guilty or insecure about having sex with a younger women... I am 24 and curently involved with a man eleven years my senior... I do not feel the age difference in my case... As long as the girl is of age and has no past problems with abuse or insest, take it as she is interested in you as a person and not a number or situation for political correctness... this world is mighty fucked up... and if you can find someone whom you are attracted to... that you connect with on many levels other than sexual ones... and that isn't using you for one reason or another... count your self lucky and tell the world to kiss your ass(aka friends and family)... You are taking a chance when you are in a relationship with a 45 yo as well as a nineteen year old... There are pro's and con's to any situation... Emotional baggage vs. emotional maturity... Relationships are all about working together... and working through the problems that arise in your own personal situation... So do what you gotta do Bud... be true to yourself and look for those answers inside... I wish you luck and happiness at any rate. *smooch*

 

[Paradox]

My question doesn't really have anything to do with guilt or insecurity--well, maybe a little insecurity, but not the kind you're talking about, Sweetest. I'm not in a relationship with a younger woman and don't foresee one on the horizon.

My question grows partly out of my experiences on chat lines. I most often go to a "40s" chat room. Every now and then, I am hit on by a young woman. If they are in their mid to late 20s, they seem to be genuinely interested in older men. If they are in their late teens to mid 20s, they seem more interested in a daddy. On the occasions where I have been in a chat room more specifically oriented to sex chat, the younger women sometimes reject me when they find out my age. Apparently they think an old guy like me just couldn't keep up with a young hotty. HUMPH! What they don't know...

And, then there is this waitress I have a crush on...

I'm enjoying this conversation. I hope we can keep it up. Lots of people are looking, so there must be others interested. Guys, you can participate, too.

Paradox

 

[Danus]

inverse

Hi

I'm a male and have experience the other way around... I am 24 years old, and i just separated from a lady that is 40 years old after 2 years of living together... I must admit she was very open and sexual and loved to try new things, except 3somes and group sex etc.... but we ended up not getting along.... not strictly because of her age though.... anyway just thought i'd add.

Danny

 

[Guest]

about older men...

When I was younger, around 16, I was very open to accept people as who they were. I had a relationship with a 30 y/o man. It wasn't very sexual, but more of a platonic one. I found it most intriguing talking and carrying on with an older man. I was mature for my age, and I thought that we connected very well because of that. I felt that I needed a confidant, and an older friend.

 

[Paradox]

Okay, men. In an e-mail, one of the female respondents asked what it is that attracts older men to young women. Any of you want to take a stab at answering?

 

[sweetest_soul_2]

ROTFLMFAO

T and A of course!!!

 

[Guest]

Why Older Men Like Younger Women

I believe men are initially visually stimulated by women and that is why looks are important to men.

First, younger women do have great T & A, but there is more to it than that. Its not simply having T & A, but the symmetry that accompanies it. I have met many women who considered themselves "fat" just because they weighed over a certain amount on a scale, but I still considered them attractive because there was a symmetry to their shape that was pleasing regardless of the weight factor (this is within reason of course).

After that, believe it or not, what counts most is her face and facial expressions. We probably do more communicating with our faces than any other part of our body (whether we realize it or intend to or not). Some women can give a summary description of themselves just by the facial expression they normally wear, and their words usually confirm what their faces say.

The girl who introduced me to this site (and who has stories posted here) was a coworker of mine. She is 18 years younger than me and I can tell you in my case this is why I am attracted to her (nothing has ever happened between us except mild online flirtation but that is her choice, not mine). This girl I'm acquainted with regularly expresses confidence, poise, and a good sense of pride and self-worth in her face. At other times her smile and eyes can melt your heart. When she laughs, its like something magical fills the air around her, and when she is angry she is just as beautiful too.

Looks aside, the next thing about younger women is that usually they have not become embittered by their negative experiences with men and with life. They are more optimistic, more adventurous, more carefree, and yes, even a little more naive (as opposed to cynical). Plus, they are fresh. They are not "worn out" by life and they are still interested in sexual experimentation.

I think another factor is that after a man has had some years to mature he remembers some of the mistakes he made in his youth and missed opportunities. If he has learned to become a skillful and sensitive lover, he wants to share his acquired talent as a gift to a younger, less experienced woman, and give her a good foundation and starting point for her blossoming sexual experience and life. ~ loveseeker79

 

[Paradox]

We need some more guys to weigh in on this topic. Are you attracted to younger women? Why? Have you been with a woman more than 10 years younger? How about the guys in their 40s and 50s who have been with women in their 20s?

Inquiring minds want to know.

 

[Cookiefour]

Just wanted to say that I've always been intrested in older men. The men around my age just don't do a thing for me. Sadly there are no older men around here for me.

 

[masterseeker]

Hey, I am 18 y.o. and just seperated with a man who was 35 years older than me. We seperated because I felt he was treating me like a daughter. I find older men attractive because they have been somewhere and now how to please women. I do have a problem though. I will only date men who are 30 years or more older than me. So I guess that means right now the youngest man I'll date is 48. I am intrigued by older men.