A question about relationships and music

[S.Daedalus]

I heard a debate on the radio while driving in my car the other day.

The argument is that if a couple does not have similar music taste they will never last. It is a small thing to think about, but a rather large thing in the scale of a relationship.

Just curious as to your opinions on this topic if you have any.

I'm a huge music fan, it is such a passion of mine, so my taste are very selective. But I wouldn't go so far as to say if my girlfriend had different tastes then me that it would cause a huge strain on our relationship. Donno, my ex liked lots of music I hated. She's now my ex...but obviously not for those reasons, but it makes me question.

Anyways, indulge me...if you will.
thanx for replies in advance
-Stephen Daedalus

 

[Lasher]

Sounds like a bunch of horsehit to me.

 

[Nora]

My hubby's the local classical guy. I loathe classical music. He's not all that fond of the music I enjoy. We've been together 10 years.

 

[WaxNWane]

I vote it's bunk. Plenty of people don't really care that much about music, let alone what their friends listen to.

And even if music is that important to a person, if you can't compromise or respect someone else's tastes, it's not the music that's causing the relationship to crash.

That said, I could never date a girl who liked Celine Dion.

 

[Kitte]

I think it is important to have some commonalities. So you can at least listen to something you both like in the car but I think variety is good.

 

[Guest]

Sounds like a bunch of horsehit to me.

Yep. I agree.

My tastes are amazingly eclectic and I have several degrees in music. I know at times I play things my husband isn't particularly interested in.

His tastes are also varied, and just because I don't wish to listen closely to the Neil Young music he enjoys - voice grating on my ears - lol - doesn't mean we can't handle our differences!!

 

[Nefarious]

I'm with you Daedalus

My longest lasting relationships have been with women who had musical tastes similar to my own. My shortest relationships have been with those whose musical tastes were unlike mine.

Music has always been important to me, and it is only natural that the musical compatability of a significant other would also be important. Similar musical tastes represent a kind of cultural common ground. I've always been a blues/classic rock kind of guy, and being realistic, I can't really expect to have much in common with somebody who's into, let's say, hip hop or speed metal? Our musical tastes link us to certain segments of society.

I'm not saying that a fan of Bach can't find hapiness with a fan of Christina Aguilara. I'm just saying that the likelyhood of having common cultural landmarks is reduced, maybe enough to make a difference.

 

[Nora]

That said, I could never date a girl who liked Celine Dion.

I have to agree with W&W. I could never date a girl who liked Celine Dion either.

 

[lilsas]

My Boy friend likes all music Rap and heavey metal are his favorit i like country and classic rock , but man o man when he turn's on that rap and starts singing that crap iam ready to walk out the door lol so maybe there's some truth in it

Waves at Nora

 

[Nora]

My Boy friend likes all music Rap and heavey metal are his favorit i like country and classic rock , but man o man when he turn's on that rap and starts singing that crap iam ready to walk out the door lol so maybe there's some truth in it

Waves at Nora

hahahhahahah!!!!! I had NOOOOOO fucking clue who you were 'til I saw the typo in your sig line! ROTFLMAO!

*hugssssssssssss sasketoooooooooooooon* lol

 

[Aphrodisiac]

The argument is that if a couple does not have similar music taste they will never last.

The first time I met the man I am with ... we agreed that we have such different tastes in music. We don't really have a common ground, he makes fun of the music I listen to and I can not help but poke fun at his musical selections but as for it effecting our realtionship in any way ... its not true.

 

[redathena]

i think it depends on how important music is to you. i think i leaned (in my management class, of all places) that two people with dissimilar interests cant maintain a relationship for too long. you can have dif tastes, but if music is the most important thing in your life and you're with someone who just doesnt care about it, it wont last.

red

 

[Hornymama]

well I,m a big country music fan, my husband hates it with a passion. We've been married 20 years . Seems like a bunch of bull to me.

 

[ranajja]

It depends...

...on how important your music is to you

...how open you are to other kinds of music

..how tolerant you are/how quickly can something you hate get on your last nerve.

Stuff like that, I'd imagine.

 

[Faffster]

I think that it depends on to what extent you love music. There are people who just listen to music, and there are people who live for music. They base most of their life around bands and lyrics. I know a few of those people, to them everything can relate to a song. For those people, if they had a significant other who listened to a different type of music, it would definatly put a damper on the relationship at times.

 

[lilsas]

LMAO Oh For Fucks Sakes Leave it to me , Well ya Should Know it was me by the nick too Hey When do I Get this Virgin thing out from under my name?

 

[Cheyenne]

God, I hope this isn't true.

Although I have promised to try to learn to like opera. (Personally, I'll be happy to learn to tolerate it. Liking it is probably out of my reach.)

 

[Guest]

No two people enjoy exactly the same things - food, TV, movies, books, people, sex, sports, beer, music . . .

It would be next-to-impossible to find someone exactly like yourself - and if you somehow did, the relationship would be very boring.

I think the only way differing musical tastes could ruin a relationship is if the couple had NOTHING else in their lives but music -

 

[Countess DeWinter]

Re: It depends...

...on how important your music is to you

...how open you are to other kinds of music

..how tolerant you are/how quickly can something you hate get on your last nerve.

Stuff like that, I'd imagine.

I would have to agree, ranajja, especially about the tolerating part.

Hubby and I started out liking very different styles (I was into opera, classical, and good hard guitar rock, he was into headbanging metal and Nirvana) but as the years have passed, our tastes have merged. But only because we both learned to tolerate what the other loves and to choose something else that the other hates.

Usually, we listen to a radio preacher and either agree with him or yell together at the radio when we disagree. Still fun

 

[Trail48]

well I,m a big country music fan, my husband hates it with a passion. We've been married 20 years . Seems like a bunch of bull to me.

I like country too.....those eyes are just great

 

[Hornymama]

I like country too.....those eyes are just great

lol thank you.....again
And I love that song..Can't Hide Beautiful

What others do you like?