A question about rape motivation

[LupusDei]

Then there is the issue of date rape. That can be more convoluted, but I could write a novel on that. In some cases, IMO, it's not really rape in that the woman maybe was a willing participant at the time then changed her mind later. Please note, I am not saying this is common but it could happen.

True story. We were very close, so it was me who had to deal with the mess, acutely.

Any rape is awful, but date rape is what oftentimes left me most baffled, in some ways hardest to rationalize. It is exceedingly cruel and irrational to rape a girl who was likely about to accept sex anyway and perhaps looking forward for ongoing relationship. Then, it might be the issue, that the rapist doesn't want anything of that. Still, those cases are the most about sex and lust as such.

It is wrong to even attempt a comparison, but it may be even more damaging in ways a random act of violence, exposed uncontrolled animal drive, situations with clearly abused power imbalance, involving a complete stranger might not be, as it involves betrayal of already existing trust. Then, I believe, perfect stranger's scenarios are rather rare, at least in comparison to frequency of many other scenarios at least in modern world, being more a thing of wandering armies of the past.

 

[DarkPleasures]

Unfortunately, it is impractical to attempt serious discussions on general board, the way it is right now. Moreover, this discussion is intended to be used for writing, or so we may hope and react accordingly.

Including a genetic story idea wherein rape motivation would be important might have pinned the topic on the board undoubtedly, but also would significantly narrow the scope of the question, what might be good, but not necessarily what OP interest was.

I was curious because one guy was acting like BusyBody or similar GB trolls here.

 

[CuttingEdge]

My ex-wife was raped, and it was because the man was not getting sex from his wife, and held no regard for women. In that case, it was indeed all about power, because he resented not being able to get sex in his marriage. She had control, and he resented that, so he took it out on several women. Our divorce had a lot to do with her being raped.

My current wife has a rape fantasy, but that is based upon her upbringing where her mother berated her so her mother could feel better about herself. For my wife, her rape fantasy is not so much because she loses all sense of control, but because a man wants her so much, even if she says no, he cannot hold back himself despite possible legal repercussions, and just takes her anyway. She likes rough sex, so that part appeals to her, but it is about being desired.

Considering a woman is subjected to over 600 images per day of what the ideal woman should look in the minds of society, is it no wonder a rape fantasy is one of the most popular for women. They do not want to be actually raped...they want to be wanted!

 

[Yerkiddin]

My current wife has a rape fantasy, but that is based upon her upbringing where her mother berated her so her mother could feel better about herself. For my wife, her rape fantasy is not so much because she loses all sense of control, but because a man wants her so much, even if she says no, he cannot hold back himself despite possible legal repercussions, and just takes her anyway. She likes rough sex, so that part appeals to her, but it is about being desired.

Considering a woman is subjected to over 600 images per day of what the ideal woman should look in the minds of society, is it no wonder a rape fantasy is one of the most popular for women. They do not want to be actually raped...they want to be wanted!

I think I may have the same sort of fantasy for the same reason. I grew up thinking no woman would want me. Being taken by a gang of women or even just paid by one I thought was attractive would be a real ego boost.