A Question About M2F Transgenders

[kurrginatorX]

It seems to me that all--and by "all" I do not mean literally all, just the ones I have spoken with--transgenders use their transition as a means for profit, that is to say, prostitution, instead of looking for solid relationships. I do understand that the medical bills can be expensive, but even still, just wondering how one could place true love on the backburner as opposed to finding someone who will be by their side for years to come.

 

[KimGordon67]

It seems to me that all--and by "all" I do not mean literally all, just the ones I have spoken with--transgenders use their transition as a means for profit, that is to say, prostitution, instead of looking for solid relationships. I do understand that the medical bills can be expensive, but even still, just wondering how one could place true love on the backburner as opposed to finding someone who will be by their side for years to come.

Do you think it's just maybe possible 'the ones I have spoken with' is not a representative sample.

Also, are you suggesting that sex work and a long-term relationship are mutually exclusive states? Sex work is a job - long-term relationship are relationships.

Also, are you suggesting that a long-term relationship is some sort of goal we should all be aspiring to? (And, as a sub-suggestion, are you suggesting this the case, even it means we can't pay the rent.)

And in answer to your actual question - you do get that trans people are fairly consistently discriminated again, eh? That would include within mainstream employment options.

 

[coati]

It seems to me that all--and by "all" I do not mean literally all, just the ones I have spoken with--transgenders use their transition as a means for profit, that is to say, prostitution, instead of looking for solid relationships. I do understand that the medical bills can be expensive, but even still, just wondering how one could place true love on the backburner as opposed to finding someone who will be by their side for years to come.

Sounds like either your main social contacts involve sex workers, or you are just basing this on your exposure to porn.

What you stated does not reflect the very diverse trans population at all.

 

[kurrginatorX]

Well, you both have attempted to make valid points on the limited information I have provided. First, to coati, this has nothing to do with porn. Also, seeing as to how I have attempted to meet trans women through various venues (ie: legitimate dating sites and Craig's List)--I've had contact with about 100 in all--I would say this is, indeed, representative of the trans population, at least here in South Georgia.

To Kim, again, I think I have contacted enough to say it is representative in this area. I am not suggesting that sex work and LTRs are exclusive, but let's be honest here: I do not want to date a prostitute. Insofar as the LTR being an "aspired goal," when someone puts on her profile that she is looking for Mr. Right, etc., blah-blah-blah, once the doorway to conversation opens, "I expect roses" should never be a topic of discussion. Your talk about discrimination has nothing to do with this, so don't make that an issue.

Want to know the real issue? The real issue is this: A woman will post that she is looking for someone who will accept her as she is, treat her the way she deserves to be treated, accept kids if she has any, and be the steady rock upon which she can lean to bring stability to her life. Once she is presented with this, however, she will be like, "Oh, yeah, I said that, but he must look like Adonis, have plenty of money to buy me whatever I want, and have a cock the size of Texas." She generally ends up choosing the "bad boy," and because of her (and his own) narcissism and superficiality, she gets what she asks for in that she is treated exactly the way she deserves to be treated: like shit, and she keeps coming back for more until she has been whored out, played out, used up, and thrown away, and only then does she accept what she said she wanted in the first place: a nice, decent man.

This is where my inquiry about Trans women stems from. They all say they want love, but in the end, it's always about something else. Admittedly, I may have spoken to 100+ of the worst ones, or, just or, I may have truly tapped into a group that is indicative of their ilk. Either way, I suppose it's a dead issue. I'm sure I'll be trolled for what I have written here (oops, there go my ratings points), but hey, the truth hurts sometimes, right?

 

[coati]

You sure do generalize. Have you considered that this might have something to do with your personality? Your complaint sounds remarkably similar to the complaints of incels.

The trans women I know are whole humans, not sex objects. And I did not meet them on "dating sites". I met them at typical venues for other humans, like stores, music festivals, and discussion forums.