A note to Annora

[PinkOrchid]

 

[James G 5]

Also, we really like each other and don't have a problem expressing it. <snip> We tend to be polite, and sometimes overly so, because it's often hard to read someone's full meaning without the advantage of tone of voice or body language.

Dunno, I think a few people here REALLY don't like ME

And I've been rude & had folks be rude to me more than a few times LOL

But overall, you're on the button


And you gotta cute ass

 

[tendril]

Well said PinkOrchid.

Ever worked in the Peace Corps?

 

[CelticFrog]

Dunno, I think a few people here REALLY don't like ME

And I've been rude & had folks be rude to me more than a few times LOL

But overall, you're on the button

James, I think that even people who may not "like" each other per se at least have (or should have) a healthy respect for each others' opinions and perspectives.
When I first started getting into the boards more and delurked at the beginning of this year, I thought I didn't like you. Mostly because you could present your case and opinions so well and I felt belittled. NOW, however, I read your posts and can nod and appreciate what you've said without feeling like my views and opinions have been attacked.
Attacks, though rare, do happen on this board occasionally but are generally either smoothed over relatively quickly or simply cut off. When they continue and spill over into other threads is when most people get irritated with them and would prefer said attacks to move to the General Board, where personal attacks, insensitivity, rudeness, and nastiness are all welcomed with open arms.
Respect is given here when it is received. The majority of litsters who frequent the How To... board are respectful and honorable. I think that's what makes it possible for this board to be so helpful, informative, and definitely a great place for ideas!
Ang

 

[James G 5]

When they continue and spill over into other threads is when most people get irritated with them and would prefer said attacks to move to the General Board, where personal attacks, insensitivity, rudeness, and nastiness are all welcomed with open arms.

No, tell us how you really feel LOL

 

[ReadyOne]

Gee, I seem to have missed another great debate.

But Pink's message could very well be made a "sticky" thread. Well done!

 

[MyEros333]

Hmmmm...I must say that I've only recently stumbled into the How To section and WOW! night & day difference with the GB where I've been hanging out until recently.

For one thing there's a much lower troll population I've noticed. I haven'd spotted any HT trolls yet...not genuine trolls anyways...the GB seems to grow them Texas-big and mass produced. Yuck!

I do have a tendency to put my foot in my mouth and come off sounding (and sometimes temporarily being) opinionated. But if I rib anyone it's in fun and I never mean it seriously...and I'm always open-minded so I doubt I'll ever jump right out and point out a person as wrong...I'll just show them the flip side of the coin at times to highlight overlooked areas...doesn't make the other person wrong at all. (Grin)

I do try to be diplomatic...so I can REALLY appreciate this thread existing. It's handled as delicately as having to point out to someone that they've got severe B.O. hehehe...which is to say extremely delicately and fairly. And in direct regards to what I read in the thread it all refers to...it was all in the subtext where the rift was imagined and then began to form...so without pointing fingers....I really like the way it was stated in this thread.

Rich
(Newcomer to the HT)

 

[Lust Engine]

Dang...get caught up with working like a dog the last few days & I miss out on the How To Board drama. Not that there's much because like Orchid said, we're a pretty vocal & sharing group of horny folks. But if there's someone who stomps in here & wants to be a troll about things- don't do it. Take it to the GB. This is a helpful section of Lit and granted there's always going to be flirting, erroneous advice and some mild hijacking, but over all we all lend our experiences & advice to help one another. Let's keep it that way.

 

[peachykeen]

Dang...get caught up with working like a dog the last few days & I miss out on the How To Board drama.

I know, right? Now I'm dying to know what I missed!

As always, PO is right on. I post mainly on the GB but also here and although I am always true to myself and my personality on both, I definitely let the more cynical sarcastic bitchy side of me have more free reign on the GB, and (hopefully) let my gentler, less abrasive side be in the fore here on HT. The GB is an anything-goes, occasionally anarchic circus, complete with sadistic clowns and egomaniacal ringmasters - and I love that about it. It's isn't for everyone. But the How To board has a very specific purpose and it's important that it be a 'safe place' where people feel they can come with their questions and concerns, however small or obvious they may seem to others. That doesn't mean we can point out bs when we see it or say things that people might not want to hear, though.

On a related note, since something someone else posted in this thread jogged it in my mind, personally I have always wondered why people seem to equate 'liking' someone with 'agreeing' with them. There are loads of people here that I like but whom I don't always agree with. What would be the point of having a discussion with a bunch of people who already think pretty much the same thing you do, anyway?

 

[Bobmi357]

(checks the scorecard) Damn, what did I miss now?????

Personally I like the how to board because there is a lot less fighting, backstabbing, rubbernecking, neckbiting than the GB or the other boards.

There might be a few here that I might disagree with, but at least we all act like civilized adults instead of raging lunatics.

Another nice thing about this section is the fact that we don't seem to have people posting JUST to bump their post counts, or because they like to seem their names up on the board.

It is a shame we can't have a little more idle chatter in here, but then if we did, it wouldn't be a "how to" section anymore. Would it?

 

[sheath]

It is a shame we can't have a little more idle chatter in here, but then if we did, it wouldn't be a "how to" section anymore. Would it?

I like this board because I think we can do a little bit of both. The idle chatter is great, and often threads dissolve into that when we run out of advice to give. But for the most part, when it's time to get serious, this is the place to go.

I agree with peachykeen, that How-To serves as a 'safe place' for questions. We might get highly opinionated, but in the end, every question is okay. I feel open and welcome, and as such, I'm not afraid to post my most personal and/or embarrassing questions.

This board has really helped me.

S.

 

[MyEros333]

Yes, the more time I spend in HT, the more I enjoy it. The people here do tend to be much more civilized and give some really good advice as well as look up extra things on the internet for quotes and even links.

On the GB, there's a whole lot of petty, bitter people I noticed. I never tangled with any of them personally but wow some of those people should have to wear signs around their necks saying "DO NOT DISTURB...I'm disturbed enough already!" hehehe

Seriously though, this seems to be a very friendly & open section. I guess that's in part because people come in here with an open mind, wanting to be advised instead of just tossing out their personal opinions with a "deal with that" attitude towards what they just said.

So I think my lady & I are going to settle in and get comfortable around here.

Rich

 

[MagicFingers]

PO + LE

POLE, That's good.
PO, You are so loving and caring that I just can't imagine anyone getting upset with your advice or comments. I always enjoy all of your comments, and LE's and Sheath's, and many others here. "HOW TO" is definitely my first and favorite thread here because everyone is so helpful and caring. And I add my small knowledge whenever I can jump in.
P.O. You said it all so eloquently, elecuntly, eliqunitly, ...well, that if she doesn't accept it, it's not your problem but hers.
MF

 

[Lust Engine]

I like this board because I think we can do a little bit of both. The idle chatter is great, and often threads dissolve into that when we run out of advice to give. But for the most part, when it's time to get serious, this is the place to go.

I agree with peachykeen, that How-To serves as a 'safe place' for questions. We might get highly opinionated, but in the end, every question is okay. I feel open and welcome, and as such, I'm not afraid to post my most personal and/or embarrassing questions.

This board has really helped me.

S.

And I also think that most of us in here are intelligent enough to realize that when someone gives an opinion and we disagree with it, it's perfectly fine. It's an open debate at times but no one really gets their feathers too ruffled in here giving or receiving advice.

 

[English Lady]

Well advice is just that,advice.

Its not instructions or demands,nobody is making you take the advice.


You can take what you want and leave what you want. thats one of the great things about this forum. you are able to get lots of different angles from many different people on a problem you can't see the answer to.

 

[James G 5]

And I also think that most of us in here are intelligent enough to realize that when someone gives an opinion and we disagree with it, it's perfectly fine. It's an open debate at times but no one really gets their feathers too ruffled in here giving or receiving advice.

Uhmmmm
Wanna bet?
As for the "liking=agreeing with" that was mentioned, I can disagree with someone & still like them, but when someone defends or presents an opinion or position others don't like, they will often take it personally to the point of not liking the person saying it *shrug*
This board's a lot better than the GB in that respect, but it happens

 

[Mstrskey]

Whoa!! What'd I miss here?

I stay away for a few days and miss out on all the drama!

In all seriousness tho, PO is dead on the money! As always! I tend to come here more then the GB because I enjoy the friendliness of this forum more then the Clique mentality I seem to find on the GB. Not to say that I haven't found some great threads and posters there, but this suits my personality a bit better. I have found that even when I don't agree with what another poster has said, or if they disagree with me we are gnerally capable of stating our case in a civil manner and respecting the others opinion. That type of mutual respect, combined with some of the amazing posters we have here makes this a welcoming place. Sure we're supposed to be an advice forum, but we don't let that stop us from fooling and flirting within our threads and that's why I love it.

Oh and James....even when I don't agree with ya darlin I always like you. You're one of the better posters on any forum, ( even if you do make me feel like a dumbass sometimes!) and your arguements are always well thought out a presented without resorting to flaming or name calling. I respect you for that if nothing else....plus I've always had a soft spot for the kinky ones!!

 

[James G 5]

Re: Whoa!! What'd I miss here?

I stay away for a few days and miss out on all the drama!
Oh and James....even when I don't agree with ya darlin I always like you. You're one of the better posters on any forum, ( even if you do make me feel like a dumbass sometimes!) and your arguements are always well thought out a presented without resorting to flaming or name calling. I respect you for that if nothing else....plus I've always had a soft spot for the kinky ones!!

Where, uhm, EXACTLY, is that spot?
And thanks for the kind words...I never MEAN to make anyone feel like a dumbass, I swear
I just wish people wouldn't take me attacking their POSITIONS as me attacking THEM
But I still like the board and ALMOSt everyone here

 

[Mstrskey]

Re: Re: Whoa!! What'd I miss here?

Where, uhm, EXACTLY, is that spot?
And thanks for the kind words...I never MEAN to make anyone feel like a dumbass, I swear
I just wish people wouldn't take me attacking their POSITIONS as me attacking THEM
But I still like the board and ALMOSt everyone here

I dunno if it's a good idea to tell you where that "spot" is. I have a feeling you'd find a way to make me squirm and like it!

 

[James G 5]

Re: Re: Re: Whoa!! What'd I miss here?

I dunno if it's a good idea to tell you where that "spot" is. I have a feeling you'd find a way to make me squirm and like it!