A Newbie Sub Needs Help...

[tythisredheadup]

First off, I must say I am new to the lifestyle. I have never experience any of this, but I am certain of what I want.

I have been talking to a man for a few months now. We have not met yet, but have chattted quitw a bit online and on the phone. I feel very connected to this man. He knows some of the deepest, darkest things about me.

The problem is, one day he behaves like he's interested, the next day, not so much. This leaves me very confused. I don't know what to say or what to do. I am wondering if he is just toying with me or he is making sure this situation is absolutely what I want.

Any thoughts?

 

[MissTaken]

I would suggest that you ask him. D/s is nothing but frustration and mind games if there is not open communication.

Then, from my own experience, people do connect well over the copper wires and too often find out that that connection fades in real life, face to face contact.

You are wise to question his motivation and commitment and if he is serious about you, he will understand and appreciate that you do.

Best wishes,

MissT

 

[tythisredheadup]

Thank you, Miss T.

I have asked him and the answer is the always the same. "Yes, absolutely". But it is his actions, or lack there of, that concern me. I am not used to men being non-chalant about sex.

Life is a learning process, this is just another chapter.

 

[FungiUg]

I have found with online interaction, it's very easy to read the wrong things into what people say, or how they say it.

Also, keep in mind that people's moods vary. So he may have days where he is full-on, inspired, horny, wanting... and other days when he is laid-back, replete.

Then again, he might be bi-polar. Or his wife could be borrowing his account.

You just never can tell! That's why meeting in person is so important.