A new talent or skill

[sub princess]

Dom/mes, Masters/Mistresses, have You encouraged or even demanded that Your sub/slave learn a new skill or talent to please You?


submissives/slaves, have you learned a new talent or skill to please your Dom/me, Master/Mistress?

 

[lovetoread]

submissives/slaves, have you learned a new talent or skill to please your Dom/me, Master/Mistress?

Patience and silence. Both of which I didnt have much of.

 

[Quint]

On the service side, I'm going beyond my college skills at mac n cheese and actually learning to cook. My diet is much healthier than his and so he opted to change--by leaving me in the kitchen where I belong. It's fun and I'm enjoying it thus far...and it helps that he actually wants to ease my burden by doing the dishes afterwards, too! (Shhh don't tell anyone.)

On the sexual side, I never really learned how to deepthroat. It was never a priority and I would not want to try it just for my own sake. Terrible gag reflex. It's getting amazingly better, with T's not-so-gentle guidance.

Those are pretty basic and I look forward to the future and new ways of growing. Good thread, sub princess!

 

[sub princess]

Thank you lovetoread, and thank you Quint. i was feeling very inquisitive (nosey) tonight, so i decided to start a not so serious, but still sticking to BDSM thread.

So after asking this question, i had to sit down and think about my answer. This first thing that popped into my head immediately was that i have learned to 'listen'... not just 'hear' what Master is saying, but to really listen to the words and the tone, and to focus on what it is that He wants me to take from His words, not what i think was the relivant part.

Secondly, i think i have learned to be more accepting of myself, and my place in this world. i see beauty where i had not before, now that my eyes and heart are open to recieving that beauty, and in turn reflecting it back at the world.


With Master's encouragement, i have rekindled my love of art, painting and sketching, something i once did with passion, but tossed aside when 'real life' came calling. Master requires that i do artwork for at least three hours a week, whether it be painting, sketching, or a new discovery, writing.


Yes, i know these are all things that are actually more beneficial to me than Him, but the way He sees it, if i am a better person, if i am more fullfilled, than of course wouldn't i be a better slave to Him? i would say most definitely, because everytime i discover something new, learn to be more accepting of something, or find or rediscover a passion, i have Him to thank, and my devotion to Him only grows stronger.


There are other things, daily things i practice, they are called my disciplines, and they include such things as posture practice (walking around for 15 minutes with a book on my head), which i practice twice a week, 'official sexual technique practice,' which i practice every other day, orgasm control, asking permission out loud to do various things, and a whole list of other things to teach me the behaviors that are most pleasing to Him.

Since i am still just starting out, i have a great deal still to learn, and i look forward to all of it, i love to learn new things, discover new skills, or maybe even try something i had never thought of before, and what better reason is there than to please my loving Master?

 

[FungiUg]

Dom/mes, Masters/Mistresses, have You encouraged or even demanded that Your sub/slave learn a new skill or talent to please You?

You betcha! Of course, the skills are sexually related...

 

[catalina_francisco]

Dom/mes, Masters/Mistresses, have You encouraged or even demanded that Your sub/slave learn a new skill or talent to please You?

It really depends on what you are defining as new skill or talent.

I have trained my SO to behave in certain patterns. I have made her follow my rules. She has learned to perform new sex acts.

But what we mostly spend our time with is in just talking and learning more and more about each other.

In reality I learn as much from her as she learns from me.

F.

 

[Etoile]

Daddy planned to have me learn to cook, but my first efforts failed so miserably that we've gone out to eat ever since! Daddy also tried to have me learn regular expressions but I've forgotten them.

 

[Netzach]

Sexual techniques have been refined to those that get me off best, most frequently, and most emphatically.

Of course, I did have a fair amount of raw talent to work with initially, and a whole lot of lack of inhibitions and creativity. Not exactly a struggle.

Time management is an ongoing lesson. For both of us. If anything I'm like Quentin Crisp in the Naked Civil Servant, only two tap dance lessons ahead of my student.

I've expanded WHAT he's willing to eat a great deal. Food, I mean food, you perverts!

Not really a skill, so much.

I think he reads books, and better ones, and has become an NPR listener because of me, and I consider all of these good legacies to pass on.

Of course, the best part, has been teaching the talkative control freak to bite his tongue, relax and go along for the ride, sometimes, anyway.

 

[s'lara]

This was good topic which received little discourse. A related thread on this matter concerned Dom/me Skill Sets and was a very interesting read.

To further add to sub princess' original topic, please feel free to respond to the following:

1. What skill do you possess that is most important to your Dominant?

2 What skill set do you bring to the table when meeting a possible owner?

3. What skill set do You (the Dominant) require from your sub/bottom as a minimum requirement?

4. What skills would You (the Dominant) train Your sub/bottom to perform that weren't already present (i.e., skills aside from sexual service, complete submission, etc.)?

5. For those who answered over a year ago, what newly acquired skills have entered your world? Are they still working out? Do you now have a catalogue from which you can pick a skill to offer/use?

lara

 

[TigerClaw]

It is amazing to see words and intent from so long ago and only now to know the meaning. Questioned at the time. Swept under the rug. To now know a second master was being followed secretively.
The patience and silence of her plans and the unmentioned betrayal to me of what I offered. To late to know, she should have been out the door so much sooner.

 

[graceanne]

Well, as many know, K and I are new to this, and so I'm working on 'respect'. In other words, not hanging up on him when he pisses me off, not telling him to kiss my ass when I'm irritated, etc.
Sexually 'learning' isn't an issue, because we've been together for 7 years and I've always let him lead, and learned what he wanted me to. And it's not like I had to unlearn bad habits, cause he's the only guy I've ever been with. *shrugs*

 

[TigerClaw]

This was good topic which received little discourse. A related thread on this matter concerned Dom/me Skill Sets and was a very interesting read.

To further add to sub princess' original topic, please feel free to respond to the following:

1. What skill do you possess that is most important to your Dominant?
she should be loving with a submissive side. Truthfulness.

2 What skill set do you bring to the table when meeting a possible owner? She should have Truth, Honesty, Communicative and of course Love.

3. What skill set do You (the Dominant) require from your sub/bottom as a minimum requirement?
Truth, Communicative, Submissiveness. If she is interested but not showing submissive charactoristics I will not initially think of her as a possibility

4. What skills would You (the Dominant) train Your sub/bottom to perform that weren't already present (i.e., skills aside from sexual service, complete submission, etc.)?To say what she means or wants.


5. For those who answered over a year ago, what newly acquired skills have entered your world? Are they still working out? Do you now have a catalogue from which you can pick a skill to offer/use?



lara

 

[rabblerouser]

1. What skill do you possess that is most important to your Dominant? Mental skills would be patience, critical thinking and willingness to serve. Physical skills: aside from the obvious (sexual/sensual skills), I've used my carpentry and wordworking skills, and I also taught her to scuba dive. (I'm scuba instructor)

2 What skill set do you bring to the table when meeting a possible owner?

See above. I think the most important skills are the sensual ones and the ones that allow me to bring home a paycheck!


3. What skill set do You (the Dominant) require from your sub/bottom as a minimum requirement? Not applicable to me.

4. What skills would You (the Dominant) train Your sub/bottom to perform that weren't already present (i.e., skills aside from sexual service, complete submission, etc.)? She's asked me to learn her native language to make communication easier. She figures, the more languages we have in common, the easier communication becomes.

5. For those who answered over a year ago, what newly acquired skills have entered your world? Are they still working out? Do you now have a catalogue from which you can pick a skill to offer/use? Again, not applicable to me.

lara [/B]

As far as the original question, I'm learning German (slowly!) and I've learned to give a good manicure and massage.

 

[Bandit58]

I've learned to take care of Master's health needs. To give insulin injections, to care for Him if He has a hypo (low blood sugar), to set up His CAPD machine for overnight dialysis.

In fact I had a crash course in the effects of the hypo, cos He had 5 in the first 4 days of my first visit to Him

I've learned to cook using a microwave.....I did have one when I was married, but only used it for reheating because my ex hated food actually cooked in it When I left him I spent two years in a microwaveless wilderness Now I can whip up a meal in less than 20 minutes (grilling the meat and cooking the veges in the microwave)

Deepthroating.....that's coming along with practice.......I can do it if He holds still and lets me control the depth but once He starts moving I lose the pace and end up gagging Still, practice is fun I should explain that it's only 2 1/2 years since I gave my first blowjob, and went weeks in between practices before I came to live with Master

 

[Quint]

We shan't say anything about how the "learning to cook" has gone. Not a word.

I've become much more familiar with music theory, especially vocal. I can accurately and articulately offer my opinion of a person or group's tone, technique, and so forth. I'm also becoming more adept at singing as well. Overall, not bad for a choir teacher's mate...it's extremely important to both of us that I am able to share in his passion. I've always loved music on an aesthetic level and been able to communicate about/with it; I've just grown a college vocabulary with which to communicate.