A New Subby (f)

[queenietouch]

Hey!

I just found out a few months ago that I'm extremely submissive. I was wondering what I should do to make myself a better submissive/slave for whatever master I end up with.

Would anyone be able to give me advice on how to be a good subby? I have a thread on BDSM Personals looking for a trainer/master, so I'm wondering if I should just wait until someone responds or if I should study up now.

Advice/Instruction Welcome!

Thank You So Much!

 

[Stella_Omega]

Read books like "The Topping book" and "The Bottoming Book" and "Sm 101" and "Screw The Roses (Send me the thorns)"

Do not believe that every man who calls himself a Dom really is one. Many Doms are men who think they've found a way to excuse their bad habits by labeling them. A selfish man is a selfish man, regardless.

Do take as much time and care in approaching a BDSM relationship as you would any relationship. Calling it D/s is not a magic formula for happy ever after.

If you happen to be a dater-arounder, continue to be one. There is no law that says you have to be a monogamous submissive. Don't let them tell you there is.


I'm sure there's more...

 

[queenietouch]

Well, the reason for the help ad here is because I tried it 'the easy way' and immediately got a psycho that threatened my family etc when i didn't choose him (he had been top two before the guy i wanted came along and i decided to stop looking). The reason im not still with the one i chose before is because i found out he was married etc and i didnt feel quite comfortable with that.

To avoid the problems from the past i figured i should ask more experienced people. A kind of reaching out to find help and wisdom. (Where can i find those books btw? i didnt see them at borders.)

 

[Stella_Omega]

Well, the reason for the help ad here is because I tried it 'the easy way' and immediately got a psycho that threatened my family etc when i didn't choose him (he had been top two before the guy i wanted came along and i decided to stop looking). The reason im not still with the one i chose before is because i found out he was married etc and i didnt feel quite comfortable with that.

To avoid the problems from the past i figured i should ask more experienced people. A kind of reaching out to find help and wisdom. (Where can i find those books btw? i didnt see them at borders.)

Yow, and yikes! I see I am advising someone who doesn't need that advice anymore!

You can find the books at amazon.com. And there is a ton and a half of info listed here;
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=266656 including more reading recommendations...

I've been meeting people through fetlife.com, which is a sort of outright pervy version of facebook. I've found "munches" and parties and demos in my area, met people and been able to do some picking and choosing.

 

[Stella_Omega]

She's a frikken idiot then. Her parents have to know this is website is legal 18 and older only.

 

[graceanne]

Hello Everyone i just though i would put a a quick world and let everyone one that this girl is not 18, she has another account. called Cyber_slave, she is really a 16 yr old girl with navy parents, who watch every one she talk to, so if you message her, and talk sexual or trying to be her Master, you will have the Government Coming Knock at your door, i Say this to you cause it happen to me, but i was lucky enough to be a marine and have proof that i havent been sexual with her, when i talk to her, cause the parents watch everything she writes, and save all the message we send her, so stay away guys, She underage

How do you know what?

 

[graceanne]

She's a frikken idiot then. Her parents have to know this is website is legal 18 and older only.

I want to know how this guy knows this? She's got a different name than the person who he met on the other site (cyber slave), she has no av or signature line. Her profile states she's from California, and what her brithday is, and that's it.

Just because he says she's under 18 doesn't mean she is. Doesn't mean she isn't, either.

 

[graceanne]

am talking to the guy who was try to be her master there pm as we speak, and from what he telling me is that once the girl find someone who she interested in she tell her parents and the parents trace the guy IP to find out where he is at, and have the FBI show up to his house, to arrest him, he tells me he was in jail all day today, because of her.

Really? You just said, a bit ago, that she did this to you. Now you're saying she did it to some guy you're talking to. Which is it?

 

[graceanne]

what this post here is what i copy and pasted from where i saw the guy posting at in another forum area.

It's a pretty good idea to make sure people know WHEN you post something that you are posting it from someone else.

Beyond that, while I'm not saying she isn't a fake, how do you know this guy isn't a fake? Why would you automatically assume he's telling the truth, and she's lying?

 

[Stella_Omega]

What bullshit.

 

[graceanne]

What bullshit.

Someone is full of bull, that's for dang sure. Drama, drama.

 

[graceanne]

I call a troll.

All three of our newbies have joined in the last two months. Newbie number one and three have the same number of posts. Newbie number three has only 14 posts and a good half of them have been warning people that someone is a fake. (Cyber slave, and newbie number one).

On one post newbie number three say newbie number one and cyber slave have the same IP. How did he get access to her IP?

 

[graceanne]

You know what graceanne, if you dont believe, the reason i have a new account is cause literotica, banned my other on. I know what hell i been through because of that Women, and am going to me contact the FBI back in the morning to let them know that she back at it again. So i don't care if you don't believe me, Am just warning everyone to not fall for her tricks, cause she will do what she to me to them to. So yea.

Why'd you get banned? It's really hard to get banned from lit. I mean REALLY hard.

See, she's talking about a psycho. Now, honestly, I'm not saying your lying. I actually think you and she are the same person, and that person is a troll. But, then, I'm paranoid when it comes to trolls; I see them EVERYWHERE.

That said, we'll be careful. Most of us are, anyway, cause being careful with online is beaten (excuse the pun) into us.

 

[chy_girl]

But it's too early for any holiday breaks! Freaking, over-achieving, internet swirlys... Don't you have midterms to study for or ID's to fake or something?

 

[Stella_Omega]

buuuuuullllshiiiiiit...

 

[graceanne]

More things that aren't adding up.

First off, no one has proof that the newbie is this cyber slave. They say that the IP's match up, but I'm still not sure how they go her IP.

Here he's saying that 'the government' and lit are watching her. That's kinda weird.

Plus a cyber_slave joined lit about the same time as queenie, and they're all over her threads, too.



Plus, why would opirus want to jump on this? Does he know william? Or are they the same person, and one is an alt?

Another thing. There was a long time regular on this forum who three different women had to put restraining orders on (can't say who, cause I promised) and lit didn't ban him, nor did the FBI contact lit to tell them they had to. I wonder if anyone has . . . nah, I'm not gonna bug laurel over trolls.

 

[graceanne]

buuuuuullllshiiiiiit...

QFT..

 

[graceanne]

But it's too early for any holiday breaks! Freaking, over-achieving, internet swirlys... Don't you have midterms to study for or ID's to fake or something?

Like.

 

[graceanne]

Like i said before i don't give a fuck if you don't believe me. i dont have to prove shit to you. or anyone, i know what going to happen to the girl once i contact the FBI in the morning. I dont care how long you been one here, i really don't give a fuck, This has nothing to do with you so how about you Step the fuck out, and FUCK OFF.

My goodness. Is the poor widdle twoll getting cwanky? Look at you, using your big boy words! I'm so impressed!

News flash, dumb ass. This is a public forum, and a public thread. I can post anything I want, anywhere I want. If you don't like it, there's a nifty little function this forum has called 'ignore'.

Seriously. I wish there was some way to keep bored teeny boppers off this forum. *sigh*

 

[graceanne]

More that doesn't add up. Op says that he's just copying what william says. But here he says that he's talked to her.

 

[chy_girl]

OH! I got it!

He's a super secret, undercover first year uni student who has discovered a super cool, brand new way of conducting research that is better applicable for today's technology-focused society. And he's doing it for a combined sociology and psychology project (that he forgot to get prior authorization from the instructors to double up on) and we're the unsuspecting lab mice... I mean research subjects.

See! That makes a very neat and tidy pile out of the BS so we can send it back in the direction of the GB.

You know, this could be a totally fun game...

 

[graceanne]

OH! I got it!

He's a super secret, undercover first year uni student who has discovered a super cool, brand new way of conducting research that is better applicable for today's technology-focused society. And he's doing it for a combined sociology and psychology project (that he forgot to get prior authorization from the instructors to double up on) and we're the unsuspecting lab mice... I mean research subjects.

See! That makes a very neat and tidy pile out of the BS so we can send it back in the direction of the GB.

You know, this could be a totally fun game...

I think you spent too long trying to understand the mind of the troll.

Troll rule number 1. They don't have minds.

Troll rule number 2. They don't have reasons.

Troll rule number 3. See rules number 1 and 2. Rather, rinse, repeat.

 

[chy_girl]

Like i said before i don't give a fuck if you don't believe me. i dont have to prove shit to you. or anyone, i know what going to happen to the girl once i contact the FBI in the morning. I dont care how long you been one here, i really don't give a fuck, This has nothing to do with you so how about you Step the fuck out, and FUCK OFF.

Dude. If this has nothing to do with gracie - and by extension, the rest of us - try shutting up. It's that whole cause and effect thing.

 

[graceanne]

Dude. If this has nothing to do with gracie - and by extension, the rest of us - try shutting up. It's that whole cause and effect thing.

hey, that makes too much sense, you'll confuse the troll!

 

[chy_girl]

I think you spent too long trying to understand the mind of the troll.

Troll rule number 1. They don't have minds.

Troll rule number 2. They don't have reasons.

Troll rule number 3. See rules number 1 and 2. Rather, rinse, repeat.

But gracie, I didn't spend *any* time trying to understand the mind of a troll. I'm simply bored and have a wild imagination that likes to run loose every once in awhile.

*shrugs*
It was either invent a story about Mr. Troll Toes or make up a story in my head about what the big kid's rat is inventing in a secret underground room of his rodent condominium... Mr. Troll Toes sounded way more fun.