A new revelation, My wife's into pain

[bholderman]

As it turns out, my wife enjoys pain with sex. We aren't talking excruciating pain. That was solified as she received her first tatoo and found the pain made her horney as hell.

So, a general question, she wants more biting, scratching, etc. and even mentioend asphyxiation (I'm not wiling to do that one). But what other techniques might actually catch her off guard, since more than likely she would be expecting the typical stuff as mentioend above?

 

[myinnerslut]

As it turns out, my wife enjoys pain with sex. We aren't talking excruciating pain. That was solified as she received her first tatoo and found the pain made her horney as hell.

So, a general question, she wants more biting, scratching, etc. and even mentioend asphyxiation (I'm not wiling to do that one). But what other techniques might actually catch her off guard, since more than likely she would be expecting the typical stuff as mentioend above?

a medium/hard slap on her ass during sex or a light spanking (adjust intensity accordingly) during foreplay

 

[lil_slave_rose]

As it turns out, my wife enjoys pain with sex. We aren't talking excruciating pain. That was solified as she received her first tatoo and found the pain made her horney as hell.

So, a general question, she wants more biting, scratching, etc. and even mentioend asphyxiation (I'm not wiling to do that one). But what other techniques might actually catch her off guard, since more than likely she would be expecting the typical stuff as mentioend above?

that's really hard to answer as i don't know her, or what she likes. everyone is different. my favorite toy that Daddy uses to inflict pain on me is a Flogger, though like your wife i also like to be bitten, scratched, smacked, ect...but there is just something about hearing the flogger coming at me and then feeling that sting that just does it for me *grins*...i guess all i can say is experiment and see what she likes...talk alot, see what she's wanting, how far she's willing to go, that sort of thing. i'm not sure i'd just get out the flogger and start swinging though, cause she may not like it *shrugs* i'm not much help, sorry. maybe someone else will come along soon and give some more ideas.....

 

[CutieMouse]

A well timed smack on the ass might work. You could introduce clamps (use clothespins if you like; maximum time for nipples/labia is usually 15-20 minutes, but they can also be used at the tops of the ears, septum, backs of the arms/etc) - remember they hurt a bit more when they come off, than they do while on. Over the knee spankings can be fun - use anything from your hand to a ruler or wooden spoon. Stress positions can slowly create some pain sensations (holding a certain position for X amount of time). I've heard wax play is interesting (research it to avoid burns); ice can be painful under the right circumstances (avoid frostbite, though).

 

[sister76]

As it turns out, my wife enjoys pain with sex. We aren't talking excruciating pain. That was solified as she received her first tatoo and found the pain made her horney as hell.

So, a general question, she wants more biting, scratching, etc. and even mentioend asphyxiation (I'm not wiling to do that one). But what other techniques might actually catch her off guard, since more than likely she would be expecting the typical stuff as mentioend above?

Yeah, I wouldn't do asphyxiation for any reason, but maybe orgasm control. For me the is the epitome of male domination. It's a lot of fun and has changed my life a lot for the better. Hope you have fun. If you want to know more, pm me.

 

[Elenia26]

I vote for spanking too. I love spanking, especially combined with a rough finger fucking.

Hmm.

*wanders off to find SO*

 

[His_pita]

Spankings, nipple pinching, clamps, pussy slapping, hair pulling, biting all over. Pain is so arousing!!

 

[NemoAlia]

Oooh pussy slapping! A spanking is something I usually expect, but I'm never prepared to get slapped there. And it doesn't have to be hard to be effective.

 

[SweetErika]

You might also try pinching her labia and other bits. As was said about the pussy slapping/spanking, it doesn't take much, so start lightly and increase the intensity slowly.

The sensation of asphyxiation or breath control can be had by putting a hand firmly over the mouth (you can leave the nose free as a "safety valve") and also resting a hand around the neck. At least these are sufficient for creating the illusion of having control of my breathing being taken away for me anyway, and we like that I can still breathe if/when I need to and the fact that it's much safer.

Some report certain gags doing the same kind of thing, but I'm not into them at all, and the fact that a person--rather than an object--is controling my breathing is the whole appeal for me.

 

[RJMasters]

psuedo Aphixation....

You can wrap your hand around her neck and just firmly hold her neck so as to not really cut off air or blood circulation...but enough for her to feel the strength of your hand around her neck.

Holding her down like that and then drilling her good and hard at just the right moment will yeild some very good results I'd wager.

A good fist full of hair at the right moment can yeild just enough pain and deliver an overwhelming sense of control...

A good ol fashion belt works wonders too, put her on all fours and use it on her ass and the back of her thighs. Sometimes the best approach is the direct one, though I guess in a way you would still be beating around the bush...

Spank her pussy. A simple flip of the wrist is plenty, no need for any arm motion...the impact of a cupped hand on such an exposed position with her knees pulled up and spread, will likely deliver small jolts through her entire body and after four or five of these she will probably be dripping. I find rubbing with my full hand and then delivering a swat and then going back to rubbing again really works well. If you position ourself to her side you can also hold her down with your free hand(see psuedo aphixation above to make this even more intense.)

ginger is always a good way to heat things up, and hot wax too.

 

[His_pita]

^^^^^^^Swoons!!

 

[RJMasters]

Erkle impersonation...

Did I do that? ^^^^^^

 

[VelvetDarkness]

If you really don't want contact asphyxiation then telling her to hold her breath when you know she's about to come is horny.

I'm wondering whether she wants dominance as well as pain or just the pain itself. You can happily spank her ass without any real transference of power if that's all she's looking for.

The other question is whether being dominant and inflicting pain on your lady is a turn on for you. If you're indifferent to it maybe you can barter for a reciprocal treat of your own.

 

[bholderman]

Thanks all, got things pointed in the right direction last night.