A New Experience for Dom Female

[AdultDub78]

Hello. I recently signed up and this is my first post.

I want to start off by asking this question. How many dom females would turn away from a male sub who is in a wheelchair? Or would it be a new experience? My first experience in the lifestyle was introduced to me by an older woman. I am 29 she is 56. We met online and became friends, she learned I was in a wheelchair and soon after I learned she was a dom female. To make a long story short, she thought it was a great change in her experience that I was in a wheelchair. I have some limitations but for the most part I am independent. She thought that my limitations gave her more control which was a complete turnon for me as well. What are your thoughts? Would you be uneasy? Would you want the experience?

 

[BiBunny]

I'm not trying to sound dismissive of your concerns at all, but if you were the type person with whom I could connect, I wouldn't give a shit at all about the outer trappings. That's all our outsides are, anyway, right? Just trappings. It's the mind and heart that count.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Have to go with BB, even though I am not a Domme. I have topped and would have no problem topping someone in a wheelchair, nor would it be the first time I was in a relationship with someone in that situation. Sure there are facors which have to be taken into consideration in terms of what can be done, what is safe, how things work for each involved, but it is not impossible.

Catalina

 

[Caitlynne]

I can see how it could enhace the control factor. A Domme could create a real atmosphere of dependence with a sub in a wheel chair if she wanted to.

 

[MadManMaestro]

I have to say I know where you're coming from society kinda puts this imprint on you that if someone is in a wheelchair they should be treated differently and you should be on your toes around them so if someone anally PC about things I could see how someone would be uncomfortable whipping a sub who's in a wheelchair or handicapped in some other way.

 

[AdultDub78]

Glad to Hear This

Glad to hear it wouldnt bother you guys. This one lady was completely turned on but I have received mixed reactions due to the fact I am in a wheelchair. Everyone is different and we all like something different, but when someone looks past certain factors it says a lot about those people.

 

[bw08641]

I have never dated or been involved sexually with someone disabled or in a wheelchair either one. But I know a women that has no legs but to me she is as sexy as anyone I've ever seen and if she were interested in me, I would take her in a minute. But the thought of Dominating her would also be exciting!

 

[SubKekiLee]

I agree with BB.... OUTSIDE is OUTSIDE... I Dont care about the cover of the book, I care about the inside the plot who they are.. ;0)

 

[Art H.]

I'm not trying to sound dismissive of your concerns at all, but if you were the type person with whom I could connect, I wouldn't give a shit at all about the outer trappings. That's all our outsides are, anyway, right? Just trappings. It's the mind and heart that count.

Being in a chair myself, I must concur on this with you Bi

 

[Art H.]

I have to say I know where you're coming from society kinda puts this imprint on you that if someone is in a wheelchair they should be treated differently and you should be on your toes around them so if someone anally PC about things I could see how someone would be uncomfortable whipping a sub who's in a wheelchair or handicapped in some other way.

Madman, people who tiptoe their way around me, I find thusly unworthy of my time AdultDub, I say that you are just another guy and truly hope you find a great Domme

 

[DeservingBitch]

Assuming you are a person I am interested in, it would depend on what your limitations are in relation to what I am looking for. But this apply to anyone I would consider playing with or taking as a sub, wheelchair or not.

 

[AdultDub78]

thanks

thanks for the input!

 

[Primalex]

I want to start off by asking this question. How many dom females would turn away from a male sub who is in a wheelchair? Or would it be a new experience?

What are your thoughts? Would you be uneasy? Would you want the experience?

No idea if it helps, I only know the opposite side: male dom, female sub in a wheelchair. I didn't feel uneasy, but during our playtime we didn't focus on her disability either, it was more SM than bondage/restriction-based. Also I don't think a bondage-based play with such a person would be that interesting for me. And "using" someone in a wheelchair is for me not very different from "using" someone who is tied up physically or mentally. The major difference is most likely how the sub views the experience.

 

[unpredictablebijou]

I wonder if some of the reaction a sub in a wheelchair might get initially from a Domme might not be so much judgment or discomfort as just a sudden awareness of one's lack of knowledge?

To wit: I can see myself, faced with that situation, being totally into the idea, but getting a blank look on my face for a minute while I think - man, there's a lot I don't know about how to do this. I'm going to need to ask a lot of questions. I've never worked with someone in a chair and I don't know enough about what needs to happen. What should I ask first, I wonder?

I suspect that would be my initial response, coupled with the usual positive arousal and a certain excitement about the fact that I'm about to learn some cool new things, so that next time I work with someone in a chair I'll be a great deal more educated.

I suppose the first place I would start asking questions would be about how much someone's ability is part of the kink. That is, are we going to focus on the aspect of different ability here, or is it something that isn't that important?As example, I know someone with a shoulder injury who can't be bound with hands over head, but it's not like we focus on that aspect in the scene. I'd see that as greatly different from using the aspect of disability as a specific facet in the scene.

So as a domme I suspect the look you'd see on my face would be quite positive, but possibly unreadable. Not judgment, just awareness of my ignorance.

just a thought.

bijou

 

[Lady_In_Black]

It wouldn't be a problem, in many situations for me. Everyone has things they cant or wont do because of who they are, I don't see it being an issue.