A Little Question

[00Syd]

The two Masters who own me have such different opinions about eating me out. Master also likes to do it...he enjoys making me suffer while i try not to cum without permission...or making me suffer by cumming so much it hurts. Master2 HATES that i am not good enough at orgasm control, so he never does things that will let me cum.

i guess every Dom or Master has his own path.

Exactly. Why can't every submissive have their own path, too? D or s, some people just enjoy different things, and enjoy different things with different partners.

Like HM, doing what makes him happy is very rewarding, but sometimes having things done for me is nice too. I'm also somewhere in between 50/50 and 99/1 on the power scale. It might be something like 75/25.

 

[Netzach]

What if the dominant WANTS to do what the submissive WANTS of his own volition? Like, my BF enjoys eating me out. And I want him to do that. And he often does it without my even asking. Am I topping from the bottom?

Sounds like this crazy ass thing called enjoyment.

 

[00Syd]

[sarcasm]

Do you really give a shit? I wouldn't... I would keep that man trapped between my thighs till he was begging for air.

[/sarcasm]

HAHA, I would say "are you kidding?" except that I know you are.

Honestly, whenever he does that I can't even really touch him. I get all like, well, I really want to touch him and maybe pull him a little this way or that way but I just CAN'T. The most I'll do is rest a hand on his shoulder and maybe squeeze it a few times. Once I pulled his hair by accident and I just sat up and was all "sorry sorry sorry sorry!"

 

[00Syd]

Sounds like this crazy ass thing called enjoyment.

I know, I'm just crazy like that.

 

[Netzach]

I usually start worrying T's nipples with my toes. Which he likes way too much to put a halt to. It feels considerably more appreciative and less controlling than my usual impulses.

Which he also doesn't put a halt to, but that's beside the point.

 

[00Syd]

It seems there wasn't one this year.

You should start it so that I can have my two seconds of internet forum glory

 

[HottieMama]

HAHA, I would say "are you kidding?" except that I know you are.

Honestly, whenever he does that I can't even really touch him. I get all like, well, I really want to touch him and maybe pull him a little this way or that way but I just CAN'T. The most I'll do is rest a hand on his shoulder and maybe squeeze it a few times. Once I pulled his hair by accident and I just sat up and was all "sorry sorry sorry sorry!"

Yes, I was completely kidding. However, like Netzach said, it is one of those enjoyment type things that I don't even question. Like you though, I can't touch my HusDom or "encourage" him in any way when he's going down on me...just feels too strange to do that...

 

[00Syd]

Yes, I was completely kidding. However, like Netzach said, it is one of those enjoyment type things that I don't even question. Like you though, I can't touch my HusDom or "encourage" him in any way when he's going down on me...just feels too strange to do that...

It totally feels weird to, and I just can't do it, but sometimes I think that maybe I SHOULD encourage him a little bit when he goes down on me because I know that he's got a little dollop of switch in him, and has some fantasies about being forced to eat some hot bitch out. But if I did he would probably just slap my hand away and be like "WTF, HO" because, surprise surprise, that's not our dynamic at all. ...yeah. I worry about the stupidest stuff.


Eghhh... I'm tired. I'm going to bed now y'all. I'll check out any titillating updates in the morning.

 

[HottieMama]

and be like "WTF, HO"

*cue Diet Pepsi on monitor*

 

[MisterSir]

i guess every Dom or Master has his own path.

Imagine, if you will, a choir of heavenly angels singing in chorus as light breaks through the grimy windows of this long-since abandoned ice-cream parlour that we call "home" for finally, it appears that reason has bashed it's way through.

I'm only being a little bit sarcastic.

 

[Anticipating]

Thank you all for your opinions; I am trying to take them all on board.

Sorry if I didn't explain things too well, just a bit shy

I have spent so long getting to this place maybe I am looking at things very naively. He has given me so many details; phone numbers - full address - full name which has been verified; I don't think he is married but hey time will tell. When I said 'going silent' I have said things that displease him at times and he will not contact me for a day or wait for me to contact him, apologising.

I thought once I accepted who I was and what I craved the rest would be easy; how wrong was I

Thanks guys it is so nice to be able to chat with peole & get some advice.

~x~

 

[HottieMama]

When I said 'going silent' I have said things that displease him at times and he will not contact me for a day or wait for me to contact him, apologising

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Some Doms do use the silent treatment as a means of punishment. You need to decide if that is ok for you, or if that is a hard limit. For me, the silent treatment is a hard limit. I learned through trial and error that even if someone is livid with me, I would rather they speak to me.

 

[Anticipating]

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Some Doms do use the silent treatment as a means of punishment. You need to decide if that is ok for you, or if that is a hard limit. For me, the silent treatment is a hard limit. I learned through trial and error that even if someone is livid with me, I would rather they speak to me.

Thanks

Here is an example: I said something flippant yesterday, thought he knew it was said in jest but he is angry with what I said and I've said sorry a couple of times and now he want answer my texts or my phone calls...... maybe it is his way of getting out; I don't know - this is all so confusing

x

 

[be_ignited]

Does he tell you that you've upset him, and then go silent, or does he just refuse to answer your messages?

 

[Anticipating]

Does he tell you that you've upset him, and then go silent, or does he just refuse to answer your messages?

No he told me in no uncertain terms that what I had said wasn't ok and I have tried to say sorry and explain that is in jest but he has just ignored me

I am trying so hard not to be 'needy' and just hoping this is a punishment; I've asked so many times if me being inexperienced is a problem and he has always said it pleases him; as he can 'develope' me.

 

[00Syd]

Y'know, this just makes me think that his priorities are weird. Like, Seb (my bf) has only gotten actually angry with me a few times, and he always explains why, and he has only ever gotten angry for good reason. Saying something in jest or kidding around... really isn't a big deal. [unless, of course, this is a "no joking around," "serious business" type of a relationship. And if that's the case, you need to decide if that's right for you, and if that's the type of relationship you want to be in.] Whenever I mess up, I beat myself up about it way more than he ever could, and so Seb usually lets me wallow in my own misery for a while and that's usually punishment enough. Do you beat yourself up for doing whatever it was you did to "mess up"? If so, his added "silent treatment" might be a bit much for you. But again, that's something that you have to decide for yourself.

And I really think that (as soon as he starts talking to you again, anyway), you should talk to him about this. You should feel free and comfortable to discuss any part of the relationship that's making you unhappy, uncomfortable, or sad with him. If he doesn't want to talk about it, or doesn't think your opinion matters, or in any way dismisses your concerns, that should be a red flag. The power in the relationship might be unequal, but that doesn't mean that you aren't allowed to be happy in the relationship, too! Why bother being in a relationship if it doesn't make you happy, y'know?

So I say talk to him and express your concerns. See what he says.

 

[HottieMama]

And I really think that (as soon as he starts talking to you again, anyway), you should talk to him about this. You should feel free and comfortable to discuss any part of the relationship that's making you unhappy, uncomfortable, or sad with him. If he doesn't want to talk about it, or doesn't think your opinion matters, or in any way dismisses your concerns, that should be a red flag. The power in the relationship might be unequal, but that doesn't mean that you aren't allowed to be happy in the relationship, too! Why bother being in a relationship if it doesn't make you happy, y'know?

THIS. PRECISELY!

 

[Anticipating]

Well a little update..... basically I've been take for a ride! It looks like some of you were right and he wasn't actually interested in the real thing or something wasn't right. I still haven't heard a word from him even though I have tried to contact him; so I guess that is it..... feel pretty foolish & stupid.

Thanks everyone for their help

x

 

[BiBunny]

Well a little update..... basically I've been take for a ride! It looks like some of you were right and he wasn't actually interested in the real thing or something wasn't right. I still haven't heard a word from him even though I have tried to contact him; so I guess that is it..... feel pretty foolish & stupid.

Thanks everyone for their help

x

I was afraid that was the case. I'm sorry, though. You'll learn from the experience and be stronger.

 

[Anticipating]

I was afraid that was the case. I'm sorry, though. You'll learn from the experience and be stronger.

Thank you, feel such a fool, it's taken me so long to get to this place and find the courage to actually do something about it now I am just so confused.

x

 

[MisterSir]

Thank you, feel such a fool, it's taken me so long to get to this place and find the courage to actually do something about it now I am just so confused.

x

Some people who will respond to you, I'm sorry to say, are just jerks. Others aren't quite so bad but act in a very jerkish manner from time to time. Still others don't get to the stage of being jerks because they don't respond to begin with. All three types of people suck but, sadly, they are pitfalls you have to live with if you want to get anywhere by using the Internet. Best of luck for the future, you'll probably have more luck than I.

 

[Anticipating]

Some people who will respond to you, I'm sorry to say, are just jerks. Others aren't quite so bad but act in a very jerkish manner from time to time. Still others don't get to the stage of being jerks because they don't respond to begin with. All three types of people suck but, sadly, they are pitfalls you have to live with if you want to get anywhere by using the Internet. Best of luck for the future, you'll probably have more luck than I.

Thanks; I know deep down I can't just give up, if I learnt anything from the last couple of weeks; it's the fact that this is what I want... I felt alive and so responsive.

 

[MisterSir]

Thanks; I know deep down I can't just give up, if I learnt anything from the last couple of weeks; it's the fact that this is what I want... I felt alive and so responsive.

Feels good, right? Try to hold on to that memory. It might help things during the drier spells.

 

[Anticipating]

Feels good, right? Try to hold on to that memory. It might help things during the drier spells.

lol now that made me smile and yea it did feel good... so good

 

[FurryFury]

Feels good, right? Try to hold on to that memory. It might help things during the drier spells.

That's the key. Remember the good times, learn from the bad, go on. Better things will come your way.