a little help needed

[ScotsHighlander]

Being fairly new to the bdsm life and being a dom i was wondering if there were any others out there in a similar situation to mine. I would like someone to bounce thoughts off of and to talk about being a dom. I do have a submissive female who now wears my collar and is very obediant to only me. But sometimes i really need to have somebody to talk about things like she does about being a sub.

If there is anyone out there who could help or point me in the right direction i would very much appreciate it.

 

[CutieMouse]

I'm sure there might be some Doms here who would be willing to chat via PMs, but for the most part people with questions kind of just toss things "out there" to the BDSM Talk community, to have an open dialogue and get multiple perspectives. I promise BDSM Talk posters really are a helpful, pleasant group, and if you ask a question it'll get answered.

 

[Shankara20]

I second Cuties suggestions. This can be a very supportive community here. Give a little background about your concern then ask a question. Stay close to the thread that you posted your question in - people enjoy interaction and responses. Some come here, start a new thread, post a question and hardly ever return. It is difficult to develop a trusting relationship that way.

There are many good people here that are willing to offer their points of view.

Welcome and all the best finding what you are looking for.

Shank

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I third CM's suggestion, and also my PM box is always open...

 

[liberatedslave]

There's also the 'distance domination support' thread & LadyAria's 'ask a Dom/me' thread. Posing personal questions always feels awkward but once you take the plunge you'll be glad you did & realise we're all in different models of the same boat. The only other thing I'd consider is whether your sub also posts here & can therefore get a head start on you by reading along.

Of course I'm sure she wouldn't dare...

 

[Marquis]

There are plenty of doms on this board willing to answer questions, just post them here and we'll do our best. I rarely respond to PMs.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Ask away!

 

[ScotsHighlander]

Thanks to everyone who has replied to my thread. I know being farely new to this scene i have alot to learn and have been looking at different bdsm sites for info. My problem stems from my other half having no interest in this life style and my sub being married. The guy she is married to loves to watch and will participate if i let him, this being a second concern. He loves to watch and it can be a bit off putting, have any of you been through these kind of things yourself ? If so how do you get over the hang up of being watched by your subs hubby ???

 

[liberatedslave]

Sounds tricky but many dominant men who's partners refuse to get kinky would think you're in a fairly enviable position. If the hubby only joins in when invited is he really an issue? Is it that he fears his wife will fall for you & want to leave him if he lets her see you alone? I do think that if you're committed to your SO & she's not about to kneel at your feet you're always going to have to accept a fair degree of compromise with the lady you take your inner dom out on.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Thanks to everyone who has replied to my thread. I know being farely new to this scene i have alot to learn and have been looking at different bdsm sites for info. My problem stems from my other half having no interest in this life style and my sub being married. The guy she is married to loves to watch and will participate if i let him, this being a second concern. He loves to watch and it can be a bit off putting, have any of you been through these kind of things yourself ? If so how do you get over the hang up of being watched by your subs hubby ???

I never had sex with my married sub. That's what her hubby was for. For me, she was a play partner and service slave. In otherwords, I would beat, cane, flog, mummify, spank, tie her up, whatever... she would do laundry, housework, prepare meals and drinks, and serve me...

I'm an exhibitionist. If her hubby wanted to watch a scene, rock on! More often than not he was only concerned until he was sure I was capable of pulling off the scene and then he went on about his merry business. *grins and shrugs* Different strokes for different folks.

 

[subfem1963]

There's also the 'distance domination support' thread & LadyAria's 'ask a Dom/me' thread. Posing personal questions always feels awkward but once you take the plunge you'll be glad you did & realise we're all in different models of the same boat. The only other thing I'd consider is whether your sub also posts here & can therefore get a head start on you by reading along.

Of course I'm sure she wouldn't dare...

Hiya, i am Scotshighlanders sub
I have posted on here before, and i have used the distance domination thread and found it very helpful. I do tend to read more then post though, but still it has helped me. I also read alot of the Bdsm sites and others subs journals.
You are right it is hard to ask personal questions So thankyou to you all who have offered advice to my Dom.

 

[liberatedslave]

Hi subfem

I'm happy with my Sir & don't have any issues that warrant thread starting. Also my net access is limited. I do enjoy posting & I ask advice on things when I need to. It's a really supportive forum here. May I ask what your take is on the situation SH described?

 

[subfem1963]

Hi subfem

I'm happy with my Sir & don't have any issues that warrant thread starting. Also my net access is limited. I do enjoy posting & I ask advice on things when I need to. It's a really supportive forum here. May I ask what your take is on the situation SH described?

I do understand it is hard for us both, but i class myself very lucky, i have two special men in my life. We are talking through our main concerns, and each time we meet i find it is getting easier we are both learning to relax more in each others company. And at the end of the sessions we have all enjoyed ourselves.
I guess for me it is easier i am an exhibitionist at heart.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm enjoying the av, ScotsHighlander.



Fury