A little bit raped?

[MADDOG]

So your having sex, you're really wet and loving every second of it, until suddenly he starts thrusting just a little too hard and it starts to hurt.

You ask him to slow down but he doesn't listen, and continues his pace until he's finished.

Have you been raped? Or a little bit raped? Or is it all part of sex?

MADDOG

 

[Bliss]

Is that like a little bit pregnant?

continues his pace until he's finished.

Not with a broken nose, he won't!

 

[Bonnie Wee Lassie]

I agree payne. Stop mean stop why would he keep going?

 

[Cheyenne]

I think the original question is if it were rape or not. The question wasn't if the guy SHOULD have slowed down when asked.

Either partner has the right to say "stop" at any point. The other partner needs to listen. If you don't, it is rape. That's the black and white answer. But many people would probably look at this situation as the guy being one very inconsiderate lover/asshole who didn't take into account his partner's comfort or what she wanted. A broken nose would be an excellent reminder to pay attention to instructions in the future.

 

[MADDOG]

I agree payne. Stop mean stop why would he keep going?

Ahhhh, but you don't tell him to stop. You tell him to Slow down... Does that make a diffence?

MADDOG

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Once a girl invites him "in" do we really want to start legislating degrees of permission past that point? Can we? I agree that "rape" can occurr after intercourse begins, but just where the hell is THAT line?

Conversely, how many guys have "finished" only to keep going to please his mate despite a softening penis, a sated libido, and a deep desire to roll over and turn on Letterman? Or, have a woman on top "ride you hard and put away wet" with your semi-tough getting bent all out of shape? Are either of these scenarios "rape"? If they are I know a couple of old lovers I need to call.

 

[Bonnie Wee Lassie]

Good question and I think everyones views would be different on this one. I honestly don't know either way unless I was in the situation.

 

[CreamyLady]

Personally, I don't think of this scenario as rape, per se.

I think it falls into the "inconsiderate asshole won't get a second chance with ME" category, where one gets up and gets dressed in silence and leaves, no conversation, no explanations, and certainly no returned phone calls.

I think the line is crossed when the word "no" is said, and repeated, and the guy (or woman, who knows?) keeps going.

 

[Melody_lane]

See...

I told you, maddog-Some men are just assholes!

 

[*Eve*]

If she didn't say stop or no, then it's not exactly rape in my opinion. She did tell him to slow down which he should have respected but I think that she didn't indicate that she wanted him to stop.

 

[SimplySouthern]

Technically...it isn't rape. Not by law. (depending on the State.) It's all about wording.

NO and STOP ... those have the power to make it rape. SLOW DOWN makes it something he did that you didn't like. Something he should never be allowed to repeat with the same woman again and never with another woman in that town if it would piss you off like it would me.

While this man wouldn't actually be guilty of rape, he would be guilty of being an incosiderate asshole who obviously is destined to spend his lifetime with one one-night-stand after another because women will realize how lousy a lover he really is.

I'm SURE none of the men on this BB would be guilty of that.

 

[Patryn]

I don't consider it rape, since he didn't actually force anything on you except rough sex, the sex part of which you'd already consented to. I agree with the "inconsiderate asshole" camp.

 

[Always]

punch the jackass, break his nose! then castrate him. he won't go too fast anymore.

it's not rape, i don't think... i'm, not sure. it depends on how you feel.

 

[Carl East]

He would most definately be an asshole, but weather it would constitute rape, that's a tough one, and one I haven't got an answer for.

Carl.

 

[Siren]

DCL ......

 

[Skitten]

If she told him to slow down or stop then there should be no question. She wants it to be over so I guess that would constitute rape then. If she didn't say anything then it isn't.

Whether she invited him in or not when she asked him to stop it means stop! and he is a real ass if he didn't and she has every right to do something about it. It is known as a date rape then.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Iz jes sex

So your having sex, you're really wet and loving every second of it, until suddenly he starts thrusting just a little too hard and it starts to hurt.

You ask him to slow down but he doesn't listen, and continues his pace until he's finished.

Have you been raped? Or a little bit raped? Or is it all part of sex?

MADDOG

That, it's just part of sex. Not slowing down when requested and continuing to hurt me during sex... bad idea, you'll come away bruised and bloody. After all, I have teeth for a reason, and *grinning toothily* I've used them. Most guys, in the interest of continuing fucking and arranging for future fucking, are intelligent enough to slow down. After all, if a girl has a bad experience you can bet your sweet little scrotal sac that you won't be sticking your outtie peepee anywhere near her in the future without scissors being involved.

On the other hand, if the girl is being hurt to the point where any good feeling cannot be recovered and she says STOP. You have to stop or it's rape. Legally and emotionally. You are now violating her body by continuing to force unwanted sex upon her. Blue balls is not lethal, it may feel like it, but no one ever went to the ER because of blue balls. It goes the other way too, if a man tells a woman to stop, she had better stop too.

By the way DCL, if she's crimpin your poor penis, tell her so she'll quit and not do it again. Moaning in pain sounds and looks just like moaning in ecstasy you know. And the same rule about faking orgasms applies here too. If that doesn't work, kick her happy lil ass out of bed. Theres plenty of us out here who'd be more than happy to make your semi tough feel good and tough.

As for continuing to pleasure your woman when you've blown your wad and wanna watch Letterman... see above under "arranging for future fucking..."

 

[Rosebud]

rape no...if she is ever with him again she needs to superglue the son of a bitches dick to his leg and then see if he slows down....

 

[Gingersnap]

THere are too many variables to answer the question. In general if all she said was slow down and did not follow up with other indicators it is understandable he might miss the request. Did she say she felt raped??

 

[firehorse]

I like lite B&D and a lot of foreplay.What if my girlfriend gets over excited and I want her to slow down?

 

[MADDOG]

Re: Iz jes sex

Originally posted by KillerMuffin

It goes the other way too, if a man tells a woman to stop, she had better stop too.
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Why on earth would any man tell a woman to stop?

OK, what about if the woman complained quite openly that he was hurting her, and it was quite clear that it was extremely painful, but never actually said "Stop", or "slow down", yet he made no attempt to make it easier on her?

Is that a big bad on his part? I would say so.

MADDOG

P.S. Melody, I'm not going to let you win this! It may not be rape... but it's definately not cool.

 

[Xander]

I'd have to agree with the rest of you. Wether or not it can be catagorised as rape is a tough one. One thing is for sure. It won't hold water in most court rooms.

However, if the guy doesn't listen to his partner, and visa versa. That is showing serious disrespect to your partner.
Male or female, that will automaticly put you in the "inconsiderable Asshole" catagory in my book.

As it has been stated before. Blue balls is not a terminal decease. And can be dealt with quite fast on your own.

 

[Gingersnap]

Maddog why the questions? If a woman is hurting and does not say stop then maybe she likes the pain or she is afraid of him or she figures he's an asshole and he wouldn't listen anyway. Need more info like does he want to hurt her? etc.

 

[Cheri]

So your having sex, you're really wet and loving every second of it, until suddenly he starts thrusting just a little too hard and it starts to hurt.

You ask him to slow down but he doesn't listen, and continues his pace until he's finished.

Have you been raped? Or a little bit raped? Or is it all part of sex?

Isn't that the time to change positions and relubricate?
Maybe I'm just too polite or I just wouldn't bother fucking some jerk.

 

[Oliver Clozoff]

Yeah, the idea that this is rape is a little much to me too. The defintion of rape (as I understand it) is simply sex without consent of both parties.

And consent in this example is mutual. The example here is of a woman expressing her wishes as to how the act occurs, not objecting to the sex itself. If every act of intercourse in which a man doesn't satisfy how a woman wants sex was rape, most of us men on planet earth would be doing time (including myself, of course. I was once only able to give a woman 17 orgasms when she wanted 18.)

And come to think of it, there would probably be a lot of women behind bars too. If it was me, I'd prosecute women for not enough writhing... insufficient writhing should be a crime! hehe

Seriously, though, good sex is about both partners wanting to please each other and being able to communicate to each other how best to do that. This hypothetical situation is example of communication gone wrong. I agree with everybody else on the board about this... if the guy won't listen to what the woman wants, she should try another guy.