A Higher Chat Thread

[ImmortaleAmante]

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same with me.... I am very lucky to be alive today...... so there really is no need to live any other way than grateful for life and the people in my life!!

it sure can get interesting...... there but for the Grace of God go I.... and I'll keep my struggles, rather than take someone elses..... at least mine are familar to me!!

The thing is that once you have really experienced how fragile life is you realise how precious it is and live it to the full, accepting the sturggles and sucesses, of course i have days where for awhile i forget but but it only takes something small to remind me again and my son is a constant reminder, the people you love really are more important than anything else

 

[midwestyankee]

Good afternoon, ladies.

I find myself joking once in awhile that I am grateful to wake up on the proper side of the grass each day. But, in truth, it's not a joke. Just today I nearly got broadsided as I was driving away from lunch with a friend. A second or two of different timing and I would have been the opening scene of a Six Feet Under episode. It was hardly the earth-shattering experience that some people have in facing down a terminal illness, yet it gave me pause to think through a long list of what-if's.

We say such things as, "There, but for the grace of God, go I" and yet how many of us pause to think through the enormity of such moments of grace? I'm sure I catch only one such instant in a thousand.

Ah well, let me put away the philosopher's chair and pull up a stool next to the bar instead.

 

[done_got_old]

Good afternoon, ladies.

I find myself joking once in awhile that I am grateful to wake up on the proper side of the grass each day. But, in truth, it's not a joke. Just today I nearly got broadsided as I was driving away from lunch with a friend. A second or two of different timing and I would have been the opening scene of a Six Feet Under episode. It was hardly the earth-shattering experience that some people have in facing down a terminal illness, yet it gave me pause to think through a long list of what-if's.

We say such things as, "There, but for the grace of God, go I" and yet how many of us pause to think through the enormity of such moments of grace? I'm sure I catch only one such instant in a thousand.

Ah well, let me put away the philosopher's chair and pull up a stool next to the bar instead.

An experience doesn't have to be life threatening to make us appreciate what we've got.

 

[Cathleen]

Good afternoon, ladies.

I find myself joking once in awhile that I am grateful to wake up on the proper side of the grass each day. But, in truth, it's not a joke. Just today I nearly got broadsided as I was driving away from lunch with a friend. A second or two of different timing and I would have been the opening scene of a Six Feet Under episode. It was hardly the earth-shattering experience that some people have in facing down a terminal illness, yet it gave me pause to think through a long list of what-if's.

We say such things as, "There, but for the grace of God, go I" and yet how many of us pause to think through the enormity of such moments of grace? I'm sure I catch only one such instant in a thousand.

Ah well, let me put away the philosopher's chair and pull up a stool next to the bar instead.

I was so close to the end, I had dirt in my fingernails!!! LOL I can laugh now.... actually I never really did fear death, even when I was so close.... I figure its the ultimate in love and harmony, so why wouldn't I want to go!! (and I am banking on being right about God and heaven!! LOL)

I became very ill back in 2000 and through the next two years, had numerous surgries and procedures.... at one point the treatment for one illness, put me in heart failure and when I arrived at the hospital ER the doc just was amazed I was walking, talking and laughing.... I had no idea how sick I was, and didn't really want to know, but it was important for me to know.... it was a Saturday noontime, he thought I would have been very lucky to make it to Monday. What an eye opener..... I spent two weeks at Mass General and since then spend oh so much time there!! I take handfuls of pills each day (sometimes unwillingly) but I am here!! Smarter yes, more grateful, definately....

But I agree with DGO, life altering experiences do not have to be the reason for gratitude or Grace. My background gave me enough to be grateful for.... the illnesses were/are an add on. There have been times in my life that a simple jesture has made a terrific impact upon my spirit and soul. I think it may come down to awareness and mindfulness..... of life, love, people, emotions, behaviors..... all the good stuff!!!

For awareness to me is a key to life's blessings.... there are so many blessings and I know I am unaware of multitudes of them, but those that I am aware of, I can honestly say they are in my heart and mind each day. My behaviors are guided by these blessings and awarenesses. For that I am more than grateful... I am alive and present in each day.

Gee Higher.... you're going to ban me soon..... the old adage "Banned in Boston" is springing to mind here!!!

Cate

 

[done_got_old]

Cate, we never know what other people are going through. It behooves us all to treat people with kindness and respect. As a teacher, I've had students come back and tell me that I was a positive force in their lives.

Today I got a call from a parent; a foster parent actually. She called to tell me that her child had just been admitted to the hospital for mental problems......depression and suicidal thoughts. This child is only 13. I'm not the advisor, but the student wanted his mom to call me because he knew I would take care of any assignments he needed to do. This is a child who has yet to get a satisfactory grade in my course.

Everyday I look at my students and realize that I might be the best part of their day. I might be the only person who shows an interest in them. I also realize that I don't know what's going on at home........be nice because it doesn't cost a dime.

I have 4 students not living with birth parents. One student lives with the grandparents because both parents are dead. She's 13. Another student also lives with grandparents; father is dead and the mother is incarcerated. I have one student who's mother is dying of cancer. I have one student who might have cancer. One who the doctors thought last week had meningitis. I have one who will undergo tests next week to find the cause of what appears to be hives. These are 13 and 14 year olds.........

I know how fragile life really is.......I could go on and on, but enough for now.

 

[Cathleen]

Cate, we never know what other people are going through. It behooves us all to treat people with kindness and respect. As a teacher, I've had students come back and tell me that I was a positive force in their lives.

Today I got a call from a parent; a foster parent actually. She called to tell me that her child had just been admitted to the hospital for mental problems......depression and suicidal thoughts. This child is only 13. I'm not the advisor, but the student wanted his mom to call me because he knew I would take care of any assignments he needed to do. This is a child who has yet to get a satisfactory grade in my course.

Everyday I look at my students and realize that I might be the best part of their day. I might be the only person who shows an interest in them. I also realize that I don't know what's going on at home........be nice because it doesn't cost a dime.

I have 4 students not living with birth parents. One student lives with the grandparents because both parents are dead. She's 13. Another student also lives with grandparents; father is dead and the mother is incarcerated. I have one student who's mother is dying of cancer. I have one student who might have cancer. One who the doctors thought last week had meningitis. I have one who will undergo tests next week to find the cause of what appears to be hives. These are 13 and 14 year olds.........

I know how fragile life really is.......I could go on and on, but enough for now.

Peace to them.... and thanks to God they have you!! I will keep them in my prayers....

amazing how tough and fragile it all really is!

 

[Kiss Me]

I was so close to the end, I had dirt in my fingernails!!! LOL I can laugh now.... actually I never really did fear death, even when I was so close.... I figure its the ultimate in love and harmony, so why wouldn't I want to go!! (and I am banking on being right about God and heaven!! LOL)

I became very ill back in 2000 and through the next two years, had numerous surgries and procedures.... at one point the treatment for one illness, put me in heart failure and when I arrived at the hospital ER the doc just was amazed I was walking, talking and laughing.... I had no idea how sick I was, and didn't really want to know, but it was important for me to know.... it was a Saturday noontime, he thought I would have been very lucky to make it to Monday. What an eye opener..... I spent two weeks at Mass General and since then spend oh so much time there!! I take handfuls of pills each day (sometimes unwillingly) but I am here!! Smarter yes, more grateful, definately....

But I agree with DGO, life altering experiences do not have to be the reason for gratitude or Grace. My background gave me enough to be grateful for.... the illnesses were/are an add on. There have been times in my life that a simple jesture has made a terrific impact upon my spirit and soul. I think it may come down to awareness and mindfulness..... of life, love, people, emotions, behaviors..... all the good stuff!!!

For awareness to me is a key to life's blessings.... there are so many blessings and I know I am unaware of multitudes of them, but those that I am aware of, I can honestly say they are in my heart and mind each day. My behaviors are guided by these blessings and awarenesses. For that I am more than grateful... I am alive and present in each day.

Gee Higher.... you're going to ban me soon..... the old adage "Banned in Boston" is springing to mind here!!!

Cate

Cate even if he tried to ban you (not that he would) he couldn't... we'd all out vote him..... I'm afraid you're stuck here now as a permanent fixture.

and I for one am glad you're still around.

 

[midwestyankee]

Cate even if he tried to ban you (not that he would) he couldn't... we'd all out vote him..... I'm afraid you're stuck here now as a permanent fixture.

and I for one am glad you're still around.

I agree, KMF.

Cate, with the post you just made you traded your silver wings for a set of gold. You are a fixture, a part of the foundation of this thread.

 

[Cathleen]

you are too kind..... both of you!!!

Thanks...I am happy to be here.... in all respects!!!

I don't need wings Yankee... I'm just human!!! Feet will do!!

Thank you very much!

 

[Kiss Me]

you are too kind..... both of you!!!

Thanks...I am happy to be here.... in all respects!!!

I don't need wings Yankee... I'm just human!!! Feet will do!!

Thank you very much!

We're not kind Cate...... we're just honest.

And if Yankee wants you to have wings, don't argue with the lovely man, take them...... after all why walk when you can fly????

 

[69forever]

Re: Re: Just kind of popping in....

year ago I found a quote on the back of a sugar package no less.... when people start to complain or whine about their seemingly petty troubles I remind myself (and sometimes them) of this:

Be grateful for what you have.... and be more grateful for what you do not have, that you do not want!!

things could always be more difficult, illness, family troubles..etc...... so when I find myself getting less than grateful, that is what comes to mind.

There is nothing better for the occassional trip into the pit of resentment than a dose of humility, garnished with a healthy serving of gratitude.

Hello Cate. We seem to have the same friends in more than one place...

 

[midwestyankee]

We're not kind Cate...... we're just honest.

And if Yankee wants you to have wings, don't argue with the lovely man, take them...... after all why walk when you can fly????

Cate, I was thinking in terms of a pilot's wings. They are a sign of privilege (and responsibility) earned through hard work, experience, and survival.

 

[Cathleen]

Cate, I was thinking in terms of a pilot's wings. They are a sign of privilege (and responsibility) earned through hard work, experience, and survival.

well, I guess you can see, I am stubborn.....I accept, with gratitude, the wings...... and I will fly!!! For as long as I am here on this earth.... then watch out heaven!!!! (I really am banking on going aren't I !!! LOL)

Thank you!

 

[Cathleen]

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There is nothing better for the occassional trip into the pit of resentment than a dose of humility, garnished with a healthy serving of gratitude.

Hello Cate. We seem to have the same friends in more than one place...

well that is certainly true...69.....I try not to have expectations as they lead right to resentments......and that is not good for anyone!

I do think we have some friends in common.....but this whole place is like one big friendship!!!

 

[DLL]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Just kind of popping in....

Originally posted by Cathleen
well that is certainly true...69.....I try not to have expectations as they lead right to resentments......and that is not good for anyone!

I do think we have some friends in common.....but this whole place is like one big friendship!!!

Within the quiet wondrous beauty
of each new dawn, a miracle is born.
Gently, daybreak unfolds in glorious dignity,
awakening the rested earth with the light of Hope.

And we take a moment to breathe it all in…
to think about the possibilities of today;
to plan for the potentials of tomorrow.

And, as the sun rises still more,
we realize how blessed are we to share in this miracle.
To feel the warmth of the morning's first light;
to experience the sun's divine rise;
to savor the very essence of life, itself.

And we take a moment to breathe it all in…
as we thank the Lord for painting such a lovely view.
For not only has a miracle been born,
…a New Day has begun


For You Cate

 

[Cathleen]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Just kind of popping in....

Within the quiet wondrous beauty
of each new dawn, a miracle is born.
Gently, daybreak unfolds in glorious dignity,
awakening the rested earth with the light of Hope.

And we take a moment to breathe it all in…
to think about the possibilities of today;
to plan for the potentials of tomorrow.

And, as the sun rises still more,
we realize how blessed are we to share in this miracle.
To feel the warmth of the morning's first light;
to experience the sun's divine rise;
to savor the very essence of life, itself.

And we take a moment to breathe it all in…
as we thank the Lord for painting such a lovely view.
For not only has a miracle been born,
…a New Day has begun


For You Cate

Thank you DLL... very beautiful!!!
did you write that??? Its just lovely!!

with appreciation.....

 

[69forever]

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well that is certainly true...69.....I try not to have expectations as they lead right to resentments......and that is not good for anyone!

I do think we have some friends in common.....but this whole place is like one big friendship!!!

Expectations or a plan of action on one's own path in life doesn't lead to resentment. It's when we place expectations on others that don't happen the way we foresaw them happening that leads to resentment.

This place amazes me with fellow travelers all the time.

 

[Cathleen]

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Expectations or a plan of action on one's own path in life doesn't lead to resentment. It's when we place expectations on others that don't happen the way we foresaw them happening that leads to resentment.

This place amazes me with fellow travelers all the time.

thanks...that is exactly what I meant to say!! ..... its the expectations I place on others that lead to my resentment..... thanks for being more clear than me!!

it is a very cool place!

 

[69forever]

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thanks...that is exactly what I meant to say!! ..... its the expectations I place on others that lead to my resentment..... thanks for being more clear than me!!

it is a very cool place!

*bowing from the waist* As always my friend. There are times that you help clarify things for me as well...it's all part of the interaction and the networking of ideas and thoughts, poetry and love, friendship and caring....things that I'll always be grateful for.

 

[higherlevel4u]

Well, looking back at the posts last night, I think this thread is going just the way I would like it to. A place where we can all come and talk about anything ...... sound off if you like ..... we're all good listeners as well as talkers, and sometimes a problem shared really is a problem halved .....

So keep it up, people ..... I just wish I had more time to come and join in the discussions!

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

I have been busy for the last few weeks preparing for my sons birthday, all thats left to do now is wait until hes in bed to put all the decorations up and bake a batch of cakes for his school class. I am really excited for him and he can't wait, its so nice when they are young enough to still be like that.

Plus my daughter has her second football match today, its an away one but i have to miss it and i am so disappointed fingers crossed she does well

 

[higherlevel4u]

I have been busy for the last few weeks preparing for my sons birthday, all thats left to do now is wait until hes in bed to put all the decorations up and bake a batch of cakes for his school class. I am really excited for him and he can't wait, its so nice when they are young enough to still be like that.

Plus my daughter has her second football match today, its an away one but i have to miss it and i am so disappointed fingers crossed she does well

Yes, birthdays and Christmases are so much better when they're little ...... it loses the magic the older they get ....

And take lots of photographs of them and the events, because if you don't the moments are lost, and your memory is not very good at recalling them. You need those visual reminders to remember just how they looked at that time, because they change so quickly as they grow up .... Sometimes I look back at mine in old photographs and just can't remember them like that any more .... aaahhhhh!!

 

[Cathleen]

Good morning Amante and Higher....

Amante how old is your son on this birthday....sounds like a little dude!! The fun of those parties is terrific..... I love birthdays!! (everyones elses actually) My mother always made them so special....just the way they should be!!

Morning Higher.... glad you thought of this thread..... I really enjoy it...obviously!!

Happy April everyone!!!

Its April Fools Day here.....so watch out!!

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

Yes, birthdays and Christmases are so much better when they're little ...... it loses the magic the older they get ....

And take lots of photographs of them and the events, because if you don't the moments are lost, and your memory is not very good at recalling them. You need those visual reminders to remember just how they looked at that time, because they change so quickly as they grow up .... Sometimes I look back at mine in old photographs and just can't remember them like that any more .... aaahhhhh!!

I love taking photos, i carry a camera with me where ever i go and have one easy to reach in the house, i have over 30 albums bursting with photos and most walls and surface have some on them, i am very snap happy but your right they are wonderful to look back on, you forget more than you realise.

And of course i have a camcorder, which i use often, my daughter gets very embrassed, mind you that may have something to do with the way i dress

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

Good morning Amante and Higher....

Amante how old is your son on this birthday....sounds like a little dude!! The fun of those parties is terrific..... I love birthdays!! (everyones elses actually) My mother always made them so special....just the way they should be!!

Morning Higher.... glad you thought of this thread..... I really enjoy it...obviously!!

Happy April everyone!!!

Its April Fools Day here.....so watch out!!

He is five, so he is a big boy now actually it is a big deal, i had major probs whilst i was pregnant and we almost lost him then and then he was born very ill and has major life long health problems, has daily medication and has many educational and physical special needs, it was a fight to keep him alive for the frist few years of his life and even now a cold can land him in hospital seriously ill, so he really is a special little boy and it is a relirf he has made it to his fifth birthday so i try and make every celebration memorable