Chocochipnips
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Do you tell your friend that you slept with her ex or do you just keep it hush hush and not let it out?
A friends ex?
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strapon_tales
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Depends. Did you sleep with the ex not long after they broke up? Was there a possibility of them getting back together? I usually find it best to be honest.
Chocochipnips
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6 months
It has been about 6 months since they were together. She doesnt really talk about him that much, and it kind of just happened.
It has been about 6 months since they were together. She doesnt really talk about him that much, and it kind of just happened.
strapon_tales
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If it was just a random encounter, there's probably no point in saying anything. Despite what some people believe, you ARE allowed to date/sleep with the exes of friends.
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How did it just happen?
Chocochipnips
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once
We were both at a place and sparked a conversation. One thing led to another, so i guess it didnt just happen. But it happened and only once
We were both at a place and sparked a conversation. One thing led to another, so i guess it didnt just happen. But it happened and only once
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If it only happened once and you aren't planning on starting a relationship with that person, AND they had been broken up for a while (6 months you say?) Nah... I wouldn't feel the need to confess it. I wouldn't lie about it, but I wouldn't start the conversation either.
Then again, that's just me.
nfrrdscnnr1
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will you?
Will you get roasted of have to deal with lots of hurt feelings for not telling her when she finds out?
Will you get roasted of have to deal with lots of hurt feelings for not telling her when she finds out?
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Tell Them
I'd tell them. I had a similiar situation happen years ago. I would tell because if you all move in the same circles, even at the edges, your friend will find out. No one keeps a secret. No matter what it is, everyone has to tell someone. As a matter of fact, they may already know and they're simply waiting to see if you are going to tell them. So, after all that - was it good?
I'd tell them. I had a similiar situation happen years ago. I would tell because if you all move in the same circles, even at the edges, your friend will find out. No one keeps a secret. No matter what it is, everyone has to tell someone. As a matter of fact, they may already know and they're simply waiting to see if you are going to tell them. So, after all that - was it good?
I just find the notion that someone is "off-limits" a bit difficult to understand.
Hehe, I'll keep that in mind. She's probably not my type, anyway.
But I meant ... like that stupid "guy-code" thing: you're not allowed to date someone your friend went out with.hahah I wasn't talking to you specifically, more if any of my exes or whatever went there... nah ah!
I got ya
Can I have your sister's 'phone number now, then?
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Back to the suject.
Don't tell him but if he finds out that's fine.
You got laid, he can't blame you for that.
Don't tell him but if he finds out that's fine.
You got laid, he can't blame you for that.
subwannabe
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You can always tell later and keep it to yourself for the time being.
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I'd be interested in why the ex was an ex.
Someone I know through my job was once married to someone who had addiction issues and who also physically abused her severely enough for her to be hospitalized on several occasions.
After their divorce was final, her sister--who knew about the abuse--started dating this asshole.
Someone I know through my job was once married to someone who had addiction issues and who also physically abused her severely enough for her to be hospitalized on several occasions.
After their divorce was final, her sister--who knew about the abuse--started dating this asshole.
Lord Pmann
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What is the likelihood of your friend finding out?
That's hot. Sisters.
(okay, not really)
I'd be interested in why the ex was an ex.
Someone I know through my job was once married to someone who had addiction issues and who also physically abused her severely enough for her to be hospitalized on several occasions.
After their divorce was final, her sister--who knew about the abuse--started dating this asshole.
That's hot. Sisters.
(okay, not really)
fancytalker160
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treat it like it's a cop. if they don't ask, then don't volunteer the information, but if it's brought up don't lie.
Theoretically and technically you are able to date/fool around with your friend's ex. You are all adults and able to make decisions for yourself. But there are consequences to these actions. Not everyone will take your transgressions lightly. Drama sucks and left over feelings will very often cause problems. I just urge you to be careful.
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just saying
Which friendship do you value the most? when you decide the choice will be crystal clear.
Which friendship do you value the most? when you decide the choice will be crystal clear.
I would keep it to myself unless asked by the friend. If you think about it, it is no one's business ecept your's and the lady's. I learned at an early age to live every aspect of my life alone. Tell no one what you did, are doing or are planning on doing. Even bffs will tell your secrets to someone, someday. It is what gets most criminals convicted, their buddies squeal.
