A change in personality.

[Kazaboo22]

The feeling of being submissive changes my persona.
I am normally prerty 'normal' and not looking for attention of an exhibitionist. I dress normally and enjoy relaxed conversation.
However, when I was younger a group (a couple of girls but mostly boys) I used to hang out with used to do dares for a bit of fun. I usex to do naked dares and loved the thrill and attention and more importantly the feeling of vunerability. I felt like when I was doing them it was not me. I was somehow detatched from my state of being.
Later, at university I attended a kink club several times and at first I was shy and mostly observed and chatted but later I was invited to join in. It was mild bondage and spanking / humiliation ( nothing too sexual). I was invited to either do it clothed or naked ( the latter being the best for pleasure). I did it surprisingly did it naked in room with strangers. It didn't feel like me doing it. I was in another body.

 

[cocktaildress21]

Funny. I consider myself a pseudo exhibitionist (a term of my own invention, by which I mean I like to do stuff right under people's noses, without them suspecting - going without panties under my dress being the easy example).

I have nothing of what you describe, um, not in that sense. Or maybe I have exactly the same, but I'd phrase it differently.

I definitely have two sides. When I'm with a regular guy, I'm a regular girl. But when I'm with a man I respect and whose .. I don't know, 'authority' I accept? .. then I'm embarrasingly horny and willing to do things, or let him do things, I otherwise wouldn't.

 

[Kazaboo22]

I agree with what you're saying. Maybe not so much at the time, but certainly now looking back I feel as if I am looking at another person. I too have attended kink events and play parties and in those situations it did feel like I had entered a different world, especially when it was over and I stepped out into my regular world again. The feeling was surreal.

Yes. I think at the time adrenaline and excitement take over and you are not conciously thinking about it. Afterwards it seems like another person and the event seems surreal

 

[Kazaboo22]

Funny. I consider myself a pseudo exhibitionist (a term of my own invention, by which I mean I like to do stuff right under people's noses, without them suspecting - going without panties under my dress being the easy example).

I have nothing of what you describe, um, not in that sense. Or maybe I have exactly the same, but I'd phrase it differently.

I definitely have two sides. When I'm with a regular guy, I'm a regular girl. But when I'm with a man I respect and whose .. I don't know, 'authority' I accept? .. then I'm embarrasingly horny and willing to do things, or let him do things, I otherwise wouldn't.

I think there is a thrill and excitment that goes beyond feeling horny. It's more an need to push your limits and surprise or shock people.

 

[supercollider00]

This is basically when I enter into my sub zone. It's a very powerful experience and it's sometimes like seeing yourself from a third person. It's at that tipping point that then I can really give myself and feel absolutely completely free. It's a very powerful emotion.

 

[DVS]

The feeling of being submissive changes my persona.
I am normally prerty 'normal' and not looking for attention of an exhibitionist. I dress normally and enjoy relaxed conversation.
However, when I was younger a group (a couple of girls but mostly boys) I used to hang out with used to do dares for a bit of fun. I usex to do naked dares and loved the thrill and attention and more importantly the feeling of vunerability. I felt like when I was doing them it was not me. I was somehow detatched from my state of being.
Later, at university I attended a kink club several times and at first I was shy and mostly observed and chatted but later I was invited to join in. It was mild bondage and spanking / humiliation ( nothing too sexual). I was invited to either do it clothed or naked ( the latter being the best for pleasure). I did it surprisingly did it naked in room with strangers. It didn't feel like me doing it. I was in another body.

You are just experiencing what is inside all of us, to some degree. Some find out they have this alter ego inside of them at a very early age, but some don't find out until later in life. Sometimes, it's when their sex life has become dull or mundane and they start seeking new ways to find pleasure. Many experiment with various parts of BDSM and that's when they find out they have thoughts of submission or domination.

Some people have desires through out their lives and never seek to make them happen. Some get introduced by a lover who has already experienced a kinky style of sex and so they know a little about how to trigger feelings in someone new.

Those feelings can come out a various times. A lot depends on your own desires, the situation, the place and time as well as the partner you're with and the chemistry you find together.

I found out I was dominant at a very early age. The problem with that is I didn't know what it was. I just knew what I enjoyed. As the years went along, I started understanding more and more. I sure wish I knew then, what I know now. But that was way back in the late 50s and early 60. Not until the 70s did things start to come together.

Some people find out they are submissive in their 20s or 30s. Maybe a partner introduces them to it, after they have talked about different sexual interests. Sometimes, a couple stumbles onto it by accident. They both could be experimenting, and find out they both like bondage, or spanking, just by reading about it, and then trying it.

What happens in all of these situations is an inner personality comes out. It's usually quite sexual, and very driven to seek out the satisfaction it craves. In many people, it's so new and exciting, that they can get physically hurt, if they don't take care to watch what they are doing. That's how driven this inner personality can be.

Once you somewhat harness this personality, it can be quite enjoyable. You find yourself doing things you would have never dreamed of doing before. You could be an introvert and now you want to be naked and taken over someone's lap and spanked.

Maybe bondage has intrigued you. You find yourself wanting to be forced into doing things and see bondage as a way to accomplish that. Maybe you enjoy struggling in your bonds and acting as if you want to get free, but really are enjoying the struggle, because you have that desire to feel helpless against a strong partner having his way with your bound body.

After a couple has experimented for a little and maybe talked things out and found things in common, a relationship can evolve. Talking through possible scenarios, setting hard and soft limits, and deciding on safe words...even more fun can begin. Yes, safety is always primary in a sexual relationship. Actually safety is primary in any relationship, but the more you get into BDSM, the more things really require common sense and keeping a level head. DO NOT LET YOUR SEXUAL DESIRES CONTROL YOUR MIND! ALWAYS PLAY SAFE!

After you have the safety set up, the more you experiment, the more you can fine tune your desires. Maybe you like to be tied down, but certain positions are even more exciting. Maybe a little humiliation is key, so being bound in a way that keeps your helpless body quite open and available to your partner. Maybe some physical torment or sensuous touching, to keep your arousal on edge.

Maybe some sexy talk or some down right filthy talk where he whispers into your ear all of the nasty things he's going to do to your helpless body. Or, maybe he whispers into your ear that your bond and squirming body is triggering nasty desires in his mind, but he's not going to tell you what they are. He's just going to let you think about what could happen.

Of course, your mind usually works against you in such a situation. You end up thinking of all sorts of nasty things that he might do. The more you get to know each other, the easier it will be for him to trigger your inner personality to come forward. And the more you will be at ease with it coming out.

You should plan things...when to play and set up a scene, if you have specific desire that include props. You can often get ideas from reading stories and watching videos. Tell your partner if you like something you've read or seen. Sharing could end up with something similar incorporated into your sexual play.

This heightens your sexual desire even more. You'll find out that different things trigger your desires. Sometimes, it's the smallest thing. How something is said, when something is said, how a scene evolves, or even how the both of you are dressed. Go with the flow. The more you experiment, the more you will find out about what your inner personality really enjoys.

Just keep your wits about you. You'll find that this inner person inside of you is very hungry for what it wants. You will have to learn how to control the desires of this new found personality inside of you and the more reserved person you keep on the outside.

Yes, learn how to control this personality. Sure, let it breathe, but knowing when something has gone too far is also very important. Be sure to have fun, and explore. But above all, be sure to play safe.

 

[Kazaboo22]

You are just experiencing what is inside all of us, to some degree. Some find out they have this alter ego inside of them at a very early age, but some don't find out until later in life. Sometimes, it's when their sex life has become dull or mundane and they start seeking new ways to find pleasure. Many experiment with various parts of BDSM and that's when they find out they have thoughts of submission or domination.

Some people have desires through out their lives and never seek to make them happen. Some get introduced by a lover who has already experienced a kinky style of sex and so they know a little about how to trigger feelings in someone new.

Those feelings can come out a various times. A lot depends on your own desires, the situation, the place and time as well as the partner you're with and the chemistry you find together.

I found out I was dominant at a very early age. The problem with that is I didn't know what it was. I just knew what I enjoyed. As the years went along, I started understanding more and more. I sure wish I knew then, what I know now. But that was way back in the late 50s and early 60. Not until the 70s did things start to come together.

Some people find out they are submissive in their 20s or 30s. Maybe a partner introduces them to it, after they have talked about different sexual interests. Sometimes, a couple stumbles onto it by accident. They both could be experimenting, and find out they both like bondage, or spanking, just by reading about it, and then trying it.

What happens in all of these situations is an inner personality comes out. It's usually quite sexual, and very driven to seek out the satisfaction it craves. In many people, it's so new and exciting, that they can get physically hurt, if they don't take care to watch what they are doing. That's how driven this inner personality can be.

Once you somewhat harness this personality, it can be quite enjoyable. You find yourself doing things you would have never dreamed of doing before. You could be an introvert and now you want to be naked and taken over someone's lap and spanked.

Maybe bondage has intrigued you. You find yourself wanting to be forced into doing things and see bondage as a way to accomplish that. Maybe you enjoy struggling in your bonds and acting as if you want to get free, but really are enjoying the struggle, because you have that desire to feel helpless against a strong partner having his way with your bound body.

After a couple has experimented for a little and maybe talked things out and found things in common, a relationship can evolve. Talking through possible scenarios, setting hard and soft limits, and deciding on safe words...even more fun can begin. Yes, safety is always primary in a sexual relationship. Actually safety is primary in any relationship, but the more you get into BDSM, the more things really require common sense and keeping a level head. DO NOT LET YOUR SEXUAL DESIRES CONTROL YOUR MIND! ALWAYS PLAY SAFE!

After you have the safety set up, the more you experiment, the more you can fine tune your desires. Maybe you like to be tied down, but certain positions are even more exciting. Maybe a little humiliation is key, so being bound in a way that keeps your helpless body quite open and available to your partner. Maybe some physical torment or sensuous touching, to keep your arousal on edge.

Maybe some sexy talk or some down right filthy talk where he whispers into your ear all of the nasty things he's going to do to your helpless body. Or, maybe he whispers into your ear that your bond and squirming body is triggering nasty desires in his mind, but he's not going to tell you what they are. He's just going to let you think about what could happen.

Of course, your mind usually works against you in such a situation. You end up thinking of all sorts of nasty things that he might do. The more you get to know each other, the easier it will be for him to trigger your inner personality to come forward. And the more you will be at ease with it coming out.

You should plan things...when to play and set up a scene, if you have specific desire that include props. You can often get ideas from reading stories and watching videos. Tell your partner if you like something you've read or seen. Sharing could end up with something similar incorporated into your sexual play.

This heightens your sexual desire even more. You'll find out that different things trigger your desires. Sometimes, it's the smallest thing. How something is said, when something is said, how a scene evolves, or even how the both of you are dressed. Go with the flow. The more you experiment, the more you will find out about what your inner personality really enjoys.

Just keep your wits about you. You'll find that this inner person inside of you is very hungry for what it wants. You will have to learn how to control the desires of this new found personality inside of you and the more reserved person you keep on the outside.

Yes, learn how to control this personality. Sure, let it breathe, but knowing when something has gone too far is also very important. Be sure to have fun, and explore. But above all, be sure to play safe.

Thank you for the reply. Yes, it's very interesting. It is something I experimented with in the past and learned a few things I liked. I had a long break from the scene with a husband who was not interested in such kinks but now, seperated my mind has been wandering back to old advenures and maybe pastures new.

 

[Justplatonic]

This is basically when I enter into my sub zone. It's a very powerful experience and it's sometimes like seeing yourself from a third person. It's at that tipping point that then I can really give myself and feel absolutely completely free. It's a very powerful emotion.

Ditto ^^^^^ supercollider00! Sub zone, or otherwise known as the subspace. I've also been fortunate to experience it. I would speculate its not a change in personality, but rather an extension of it. You are still you, and you'll do what you want to do (it may release you from your inhibitions, but you won't do what you don't want to do), despite being outside of the moment.

 

[Kazaboo22]

Ditto ^^^^^ supercollider00! Sub zone, or otherwise known as the subspace. I've also been fortunate to experience it. I would speculate its not a change in personality, but rather an extension of it. You are still you, and you'll do what you want to do (it may release you from your inhibitions, but you won't do what you don't want to do), despite being outside of the moment.

Very true. I think deep down it is what I wanted to do but the club provided a release.

 

[Kazaboo22]

One time I can vividly recall was after being stripped and enjoying the dungeon kindly facilitated by two experienced Doms. I begged if I could blow them after I was throughly punished. This was unprovoked and people were watching but I felt I needed to thank them in some way. Afterwards I did not get dressed but spent the rest of the evening naked and decorated in semen. I felt so liberated and alive. I was safe and it was mostly couples but did get a few offers that night including one to appear in a porn movie!