A broken heart

[huskie]

how long does it take for this to heal?

Cause I have NEVER had my heart broken like this.

 

[sexysecrets]

how long does it take for this to heal?

Cause I have NEVER had my heart broken like this.

I'm sorry to hear that love.. it takes a while...


broken hearts are never fun.

 

[huskie]

I cant sleep....I have been up for well over 24 hr and just got home for two vacation from working in Africa.

She's not willing to give us another try

 

[BlackCashmere]

So sorry dear- I know how horrible a very broken heart is,regardless of the circumstances...it is a deep loss and pain we feel...

Just know,,,time does heal...Believe in yourself and a higher power to heal dear...

hugs for you

 

[huskie]

So sorry dear- I know how horrible a very broken heart is,regardless of the circumstances...it is a deep loss and pain we feel...

Just know,,,time does heal...Believe in yourself and a higher power to heal dear...

hugs for you

I pray....I pray all the time now. I wish I could just cry and get out of my system so I can begin the healing process.

 

[virgin_not]

So how long does it take? To get over a broken heart seems like an unanswerable question since so many factors go into the healing of heartache. How long does it take to get over a broken heart? As long as you let it take!The trick to getting over a broken heart is to focus on you...not her! If there is no going back to that blissfully happy couple you once were, then you need to get something going in your own life for yourself. You need to set a goal, just find something to throw yourself into that has nothing to do with the cause of your broken heart.You need a life that is truly yours and a goal to focus on. You are not merely creating a distraction from the broken heart, but are breaking the cycle of living as a couple. So much of what you do on a daily basis has likely been adjusted to her schedule and her needs. All that matters now are your needs!

 

[kendra1980]

Personally...and I've just dealt with some of this, it is a grieving process. Much like having someone die that you love.

For myself I had to realize that when you have given all of yourself, and that still isn't 'enough' or 'right', then what else is there left to give?

A very wise person once told me, in regard to broken hearts, that all you have to do today, is what is must be done today. And how true that is.

I started with that, and found soon I wasn't fighting for breath every few minutes. Soon I wasn't hurting every moment...then not every hour...then there were afternoons I'd be smiling and then realize I hadn't though of it all morning.

For me it has been a couple of months, and I have found an inner peace about this all.

Don't press it, don't push it...and soon enough, one day you'll realize you've gone from heart broken to finding peace with it all.

Good luck.

 

[huskie]

So how long does it take? To get over a broken heart seems like an unanswerable question since so many factors go into the healing of heartache. How long does it take to get over a broken heart? As long as you let it take!The trick to getting over a broken heart is to focus on you...not her! If there is no going back to that blissfully happy couple you once were, then you need to get something going in your own life for yourself. You need to set a goal, just find something to throw yourself into that has nothing to do with the cause of your broken heart.You need a life that is truly yours and a goal to focus on. You are not merely creating a distraction from the broken heart, but are breaking the cycle of living as a couple. So much of what you do on a daily basis has likely been adjusted to her schedule and her needs. All that matters now are your needs!

Thank you. I think you may have help me.

 

[huskie]

Personally...and I've just dealt with some of this, it is a grieving process. Much like having someone die that you love.

For myself I had to realize that when you have given all of yourself, and that still isn't 'enough' or 'right', then what else is there left to give?

A very wise person once told me, in regard to broken hearts, that all you have to do today, is what is must be done today. And how true that is.

I started with that, and found soon I wasn't fighting for breath every few minutes. Soon I wasn't hurting every moment...then not every hour...then there were afternoons I'd be smiling and then realize I hadn't though of it all morning.

For me it has been a couple of months, and I have found an inner peace about this all.

Don't press it, don't push it...and soon enough, one day you'll realize you've gone from heart broken to finding peace with it all.

Good luck.

Thank you. This should help me as well.

Thank you all. I have been at lit for a while now.....I didn't think I would get THIS good of advise here. But you all have proved me wrong and for that I am very greatful to you all.

And I am going through that "Lossing Breath" right now? I was worried it was something worse....I need some piece in my heart to carry on now.

 

[waterspryte]

how long does it take for this to heal?

Cause I have NEVER had my heart broken like this.

I don't know you very well at all but it seems that you have a strong network of friends to help you. That is a major part of continuing and making a new life for yourself.......to have friends to turn to. I know it may seem like an odd place to find support but I know some of the people here at Lit are truly caring and giving people who will offer all the support and understanding you need. I offer my heartfelt wishes and support and knowledge that you will emerge a stronger person from this bleak time.

 

[huskie]

I don't know you very well at all but it seems that you have a strong network of friends to help you. That is a major part of continuing and making a new life for yourself.......to have friends to turn to. I know it may seem like an odd place to find support but I know some of the people here at Lit are truly caring and giving people who will offer all the support and understanding you need. I offer my heartfelt wishes and support and knowledge that you will emerge a stronger person from this bleak time.

Thank you. that's why I came to the playground and not the GB

I am working in Africa now and will be for nearly 2 yr. she through this on me like some dear john thing. I may deserve it but I thought I was making things right and better for us.

So....I think....even though we have two wonderful kids...when I'm done here, I will move back to Atlanta. My famiely is there and this place has to many memorys and way to hard to make a living here.

 

[waterspryte]

Thank you. that's why I came to the playground and not the GB

I am working in Africa now and will be for nearly 2 yr. she through this on me like some dear john thing. I may deserve it but I thought I was making things right and better for us.

So....I think....even though we have two wonderful kids...when I'm done here, I will move back to Atlanta. My famiely is there and this place has to many memorys and way to hard to make a living here.

There comes a time that no matter how much it hurts, you need to do what is best for you. That will make a better life in the long run for your kids too. Better they have parents not together but happy (eventually) than together and miserable. I wish you all the best

 

[koalabear]

Thank you. that's why I came to the playground and not the GB

I am working in Africa now and will be for nearly 2 yr. she through this on me like some dear john thing. I may deserve it but I thought I was making things right and better for us.

So....I think....even though we have two wonderful kids...when I'm done here, I will move back to Atlanta. My famiely is there and this place has to many memorys and way to hard to make a living here.

good luck huskie.......things will work out.....just try to avoid fights and think of your great kids.

 

[Golden_Silence]

good luck huskie.......things will work out.....just try to avoid fights and think of your great kids.

I don't know you huskie... but the bear has one hell of a point... let the kids see you happy, and in turn, they will be too

 

[huskie]

I don't know you huskie... but the bear has one hell of a point... let the kids see you happy, and in turn, they will be too

I agree 100%!

So I will avoid any altercation I can. and I KNOW my wife will do the same. She is a great mother to them I never ever have to worry about that and that is a Blessing.

I am just very very hurt now.......I truly can not remember feeling such pain. Sometimes I can hardly breath....I shake? it's like my arms and face sorta go numb and then vibrate or something? It's so....weird to me?

I want to be Bitter about it....strike out....fuss and cuss about it all. But I can't. It's mostly my fault (as if I subconsiously brought it all on?).

I have got to learn to forgive I think?

 

[Golden_Silence]

I agree 100%!

So I will avoid any altercation I can. and I KNOW my wife will do the same. She is a great mother to them I never ever have to worry about that and that is a Blessing.

I am just very very hurt now.......I truly can not remember feeling such pain. Sometimes I can hardly breath....I shake? it's like my arms and face sorta go numb and then vibrate or something? It's so....weird to me?

I want to be Bitter about it....strike out....fuss and cuss about it all. But I can't. It's mostly my fault (as if I subconsiously brought it all on?).

I have got to learn to forgive I think?

You are suffering a shock, its natural.. I know its not nice, but it passes, listen to the advice above.. take from it what is right for YOU..

Right now that needs to be your focus... the rest will follow

 

[huskie]

You are suffering a shock, its natural.. I know its not nice, but it passes, listen to the advice above.. take from it what is right for YOU..

Right now that needs to be your focus... the rest will follow

yes and thank you.....it just feels like....hopeless?

 

[BlackCashmere]

Sorry you are hurting now,,,,

god bles you and hugs