A bisexual virgin?

Missouribiguy

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Hey guys & girls,

I have been getting this lately, so just follow what I saying. Lately, when I am on my Yahoo Messenger and chatting, I would get new guy (women are pretty scarcee on chat rooms) and I would talk to him (and show him some stuff). Anyway, I am a virgin both ways, and when I say I am bisexual, the guys are always asking me, "How do you know? You never tried it."

It's like, I know what attracts me. I like men's bodies and women's bodies. I don't need to told that I don't know what I am attractive to because I haven't had sex yet.

What do you all think? Do you think this is bullshit?
 
It's really just preference, and plenty of people who consider themselves homosexual say they knew long before they had a sexual relationship. I will add the slight disclaimer that something could seem more attractive in fantasy and might be less so in reality. Bisexual virgins (myself being one) could just be a manifestation of this.
 
Well, I do think I am becoming more open on the thought of having sex with a guy more than I was years ago. Heck, I wouldn't even mind a relationship with this person, if I like them enough. I still look at women though, and it's rather cool but very conflicting to have these thoughts, you know?
 
I don't think it's at all abnormal to know you're attracted to both sexes, without ever having been intimate with either. guys know they're attracted to girls before they lose their virginity, right? so how would it be different also being attracted to men?
 
Chicklet said:
I don't think it's at all abnormal to know you're attracted to both sexes, without ever having been intimate with either. guys know they're attracted to girls before they lose their virginity, right? so how would it be different also being attracted to men?

Indeed. But people already have a harder time accepting bisexuality. They want you to "pick a team" sometimes. :rolleyes: I find it annoying and feel like shaking them and saying "I was picked for this team before I was ever born. It's my sexual orientation, the same way others are gay or straight."
 
I don't want to eat pig shit. But how do I know I don't like it if I haven't even tried it? Well, I can smell it for one thing...

Okay, I think I picked the wrong analogy, but you see what I mean.
 
Missouribiguy said:
Hey guys & girls,

I have been getting this lately, so just follow what I saying. Lately, when I am on my Yahoo Messenger and chatting, I would get new guy (women are pretty scarcee on chat rooms) and I would talk to him (and show him some stuff). Anyway, I am a virgin both ways, and when I say I am bisexual, the guys are always asking me, "How do you know? You never tried it."

It's like, I know what attracts me. I like men's bodies and women's bodies. I don't need to told that I don't know what I am attractive to because I haven't had sex yet.

What do you all think? Do you think this is bullshit?


Missouri, I tried to send you a message but it won't let me :(
 
Missouribiguy said:
Hey guys & girls,

I have been getting this lately, so just follow what I saying. Lately, when I am on my Yahoo Messenger and chatting, I would get new guy (women are pretty scarcee on chat rooms) and I would talk to him (and show him some stuff). Anyway, I am a virgin both ways, and when I say I am bisexual, the guys are always asking me, "How do you know? You never tried it."

It's like, I know what attracts me. I like men's bodies and women's bodies. I don't need to told that I don't know what I am attractive to because I haven't had sex yet.

What do you all think? Do you think this is bullshit?

well, don't let others dictate how you should feel. i've been in your position. i was with girls all the time and i loved them but i felt curious about boyz and didn't really explore it...until i fell in love with a bisexual male....and the rest was history. nowadays, i am out and proud as a bi female and fiercely flaunting my sexuality to the dykes who hate me for being who i am and loving who i love. be yourself. do your thing. give the middle finger to the powers that be. :nana:
 
hey man, i know exactly how you feel. i've been in the same situation. its infuriating at times. of course, sometimes i wonder if they have a point, so its good to know i'm not the only one.
 
it's nice to know that other people are concerned about this as well. personally i have a GF that i love more than life itself and would never cheat on her, but i do find the idea of having sex with a man appealing. most likely i would never act on this fantasy (cause i can't convince my GF to have a threesome) i still consider myself Bi or at least Bi-curious. the thing is if this fantasy is ever acted out, i may not like it and go to being straight but i think it's best to keep my mind open about it.
 
PredatorSmile said:
well, don't let others dictate how you should feel.....be yourself. do your thing. give the middle finger to the powers that be. :nana:
Sorry I shortened your quote a bit....but
Exactly what she said. You know what is right for you. I thought I was bisexual before I had sex with either. But after I lost my virginity, I realized what I was. It is true that fantasy & reality are two totally different things.
 
Missouribiguy said:
Hey guys & girls,

I have been getting this lately, so just follow what I saying. Lately, when I am on my Yahoo Messenger and chatting, I would get new guy (women are pretty scarcee on chat rooms) and I would talk to him (and show him some stuff). Anyway, I am a virgin both ways, and when I say I am bisexual, the guys are always asking me, "How do you know? You never tried it."

It's like, I know what attracts me. I like men's bodies and women's bodies. I don't need to told that I don't know what I am attractive to because I haven't had sex yet.

What do you all think? Do you think this is bullshit?

Not to sound cliched but I've never had sex with a guy or girl to prove I was bi. Its the person they were that I fell for. If you find yourself attracted to a person beyond the basic need to stick your genitals into their genitals then its more than proving your sexuallity to someone. :cool:
 
In other words, a good personallity and if you are attracted to them more than appearance, right?
 
Missouribiguy said:
I don't think I got the messages. Could you send them again?

Haha, this is getting difficult. I can't send you messages at all because I guess you blocked them, So you just have to write me 1st. Like, just say hi or something.
 
hmm, just wondering here, but with people that never have had sex with a woman, how do you know you are straight?
 
Hehe, good point.

I think it is cause alot of people don't understand or believe in bisexuality. Do you all know what you mean?
 
the way i look at it, it's just about the same as my agnosticsim. i can go either way and i am keeping my mind open about it
 
cocktan said:
hmm, just wondering here, but with people that never have had sex with a woman, how do you know you are straight?
It goes even further: How do you know you are straight before having sex with both men and women. The same goes for gays. :D

SEVERUSMAX said:
They want you to "pick a team" sometimes.
When I was younger I thought bisexuality is something between homo- and heterosexuality and bisexuals would have a better understanding about the feeling of gays.
But when I realized my attraction for men, I realized that I understand them even less. :D
Bisexuals are not the undiceded, but we're our own team. :D
 
Little Bird said:
It goes even further: How do you know you are straight before having sex with both men and women. The same goes for gays. :D


When I was younger I thought bisexuality is something between homo- and heterosexuality and bisexuals would have a better understanding about the feeling of gays.
But when I realized my attraction for men, I realized that I understand them even less. :D
Bisexuals are not the undiceded, but we're our own team. :D

We're our own team ! You are definitely right !
 
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