Agree with the above. Plus “shemale” is a term mostly used in porn. It is mostly considered disrespectful (at least in my circle). You’ll probably have more luck using terms like “trans women” or “mtf.”
I am a mature person. Crossdresser is still in use a great deal to describe non-transitioning men who need to present as a woman. Even if occasionally. I hate the word - I so prefer Gender Fluid or Gender Non-Conforming or even bi-gender. It seems that we have had to wait so long for more of a consciousness of people with needs like us that we should try to get with the modern program. Its not like we have any choice in the matter.
And yes She Male is totally gross and still only used for porn by cis men
