50 year old virgin that I know.

[Biblackchick83]

Theres a woman that I meant online through an ex christian group on Facebook.
She is a black woman, a make up artist, who recently moved from Maryland to California. She rejected men her whole life because of her biblical/religious beliefs, (she's an Ex Jehovahs Witness like me) and she told me that she's never had sex. She said she cool with dying single and never having sex. I got another friend who I meant online who is 30, a black woman also, never had a boyfriend. She's still a Jehovahs witness but she phasing religion out of her life.
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I'm an ex Jehovah witness who an atheist/humanist. Whats crazy is that even though I no longer believe in god, I still have traditional views, like I'm bisexual but I understand why people dont agree with homosexuality, even though I do believe that gay people should be able to be together. I dont think that people should mix races, but I think that interracial sex is okay, but not interracial marriage. I think that people should stick to their kind. Ten years ago, I didnt think that race mattter, but now I think it does.

I'm not a virgin myself, but I dont have sex a lot. For women its different, we can't have sex like men. I know for most men, sex is a requirement. And I dont like meeting men online for the most part, I'll chat, but most men I meet always find a way to throw their insecurities back on me.

 

[ShyJake]

Your posts are always food for thought. Thank you.

 

[Verycurious18]

Why can't women have sex like men? I'm not sure i get what you mean when you say this. Please elaborate if you would.

 

[pplwatching]

Based on my observations of people I suspect that the reasons for your friend's lack of intimate relationships has less to do with their chosen faith and more to do with their personal needs, choices, and maybe even personalities.

People are complicated. Relationships are about a lot more than sex, even if it doesn't seem like it sometimes ;-). We seek out deeper emotional relationships with the gender that we are attracted to because of a desire to connect and bond, in addition to our biological need to reproduce. Sometimes we've just got other things going on in our lives that take priority over our personal relationships. This is true for both asexual people and very sexual people.

I've met a lot of people from all walks of faith. People do often make sexual choices based on their religious beliefs, from sexual abstinance to what sexual acts they can relax and enjoy. Sometimes our religious choices can narrow the pool of available partners. However, religion doesn't change our needs or who we are as people beneath the choices. People who want deeper relationships will still seek them out within the framework of their religios preferences. They may wait until marriage to enjoy sex, but they still court the opposite sex if it's something that's important to them.

IMHO, if your friends had wanted deeply intimate personal relationships with a man, then they would have sought that out within the bounds of their faith if that had been a priority for them. It happens all of the time. Someone who's 30 and never dated either has no desire to date (which is perfectly acceptable), has made choices that make dating a low priority, or has a personality that doesn't attract relationship partners. Still other people have no trouble attracting partners, but have personalities that sabotage relationships. I have met bitter people who claim that no one will date them because of their faith. The truth is that a person who always argues, criticizes, and pushes others away may be surprised to find that their faith has nothing to do with the reason that no one wants to get close to them.

Your 50 year old friend seems content with her choices and doesn't want an intimate relationship in her life (either emotionally or sexually). If your younger friend wants a relatiohip then she may need to look at what she can do to attract men within the framework of her religious choices.

Just my nickel's worth of thouhts.

 

[BongoGal]

Do you think that the women mentioned in the original post ever masturbate? Could it be that they have never had an orgasm?