49 m in the Midlands looking for ...

[old_flattop]

I am looking for some chat or company.

 

[LadyVer]

I am looking for some chat or company.

It would be helpful if your profile was filled out and that you have commented on some threads to give people a sense of what kind of person you are. Your profile doesn't have to have identifying info on it. I'm not looking for chats myself with people I don't know from the threads. Just offering some advice. Good luck!

 

[persephone82]

It would be helpful if your profile was filled out and that you have commented on some threads to give people a sense of what kind of person you are. Your profile doesn't have to have identifying info on it. I'm not looking for chats myself with people I don't know from the threads. Just offering some advise. Good luck!

LadyVer, you're always so helpful It's just so nice and lovely x

 

[LadyVer]

LadyVer, you're always so helpful It's just so nice and lovely x

Thank you. I like to see personals succeed, especially the ones that appear "normal" .

 

[old_flattop]

Thank you lady. I have done as you pointed out and now it is just to wait.o

 

[LadyVer]

Thank you lady. I have done as you pointed out and now it is just to wait.o

You're welcome. I tried to pm you but you must have your pm's turned off, which you need to turn on if you want to be contacted privately. Anyway, your sentence under "biography" wasn't finished. It's always helpful to give your relationship status. Some women don't want to play with married men. Some don't care what the status is. If you want more than just a willing female, I would advise you to fill out your profile a little more. Just saying. Good luck!

 

[ladance]

hi

You do need to turn your pms on but don't expect to be overwhelmed with replies... a lot of very discerning ladies here who like to know a little more about people before they respond.
But i'm in the uk and willing to chat ...so perhaps you'll say hello

 

[EbersMoll]

Hi FlatTop,

Don't worry, it is daunting here at first and everybody feels shy/out of their depth. I'm a straight male so probably not what you're after but by way of advice, I recommend the following randomness:

1) What's been said already by LadyVer et al about profiles is excellent advice. Just tell people a little about yourself, and what you are here for. Spend time getting it right and correct. Don't write a novel, just a few lines, and always try to use a spell checker, correct grammar and punctuation. This may be a porn site, but it's a literary porn site!

2) Post frequently, but not too frequently. Litsters get nervous of chatting with people with low post counts. A good starting point are the word games in the playground. You can get your post count up and people will start to recognise you. Try not to over-post, nor 'but-in' if two people have been swapping posts for a while in the thread. look at the recent history in the thread, the lasdt hour or so and if it looks, free, or the most recent post hasn't been answered for a few mins, then give it a go. If you are about to post to a thread for the first time, spend time looking at the original post (OP) where the 'terms' of the thread will be laid out, as well as the most recent posts so you can try to make your post relevant yet fresh.

3) Be polite, reputation is all here. So, if you cross post, just edit your post and apologise. Again it's all about being seen as a contributing member of the Lit society. When it comes to PMs most women here get a huge number of PMs daily, men get very few by comparison. If you are going to PM someone, spend time crafting it and try to make it stand out in a good way. For a brief period when I took this identity, I was confused as a woman, it was not a nice experience! Think about the recipient's reaction to what you are writing.

4) Regarding recognition, as soon as you are able, get an avatar (AV), and stick with it for a while. Again, through this AV you will start to become recognised and trusted. I would suggest not using pictures of your personal anatomy, but try to find something tasteful, unique and representative of you. Don't lurk (i.e. do keep Stealth Mode off, at least initially) You will not know when people put you on their buddy list so telling all you are on-line will up your recognition factor. And do make sure your PMs are enabled and your inbox isn't full.

5) take nothing too personally. e.g. If someone post skips you or ignores you (generally guys trying to respond to previous post from a lady) don't get too hot under the collar, they are the desperate ones. In some more chatty threads this is okay, in the more 'sequential' threads like the word games, this is less acceptable (at least that's what I think).

6) Be patient, you will not find Miss Right instantly, but there are a lot of good people here so I'm sure over time you will build up a good circle of friends.

7) Finally, most people eventually leave Lit, so be prepared to see 'lit-friends' disappear. This can be difficult, but Lit isn't real life and must always be secondary to it.

8) Finally, Finally, stay away from the General Board! There be dragons.

Hope that helps.

EM

 

[LadyVer]

Hi FlatTop,

Don't worry, it is daunting here at first and everybody feels shy/out of their depth. I'm a straight male so probably not what you're after but by way of advice, I recommend the following randomness:

1) What's been said already by LadyVer et al about profiles is excellent advice. Just tell people a little about yourself, and what you are here for. Spend time getting it right and correct. Don't write a novel, just a few lines, and always try to use a spell checker, correct grammar and punctuation. This may be a porn site, but it's a literary porn site!

2) Post frequently, but not too frequently. Litsters get nervous of chatting with people with low post counts. A good starting point are the word games in the playground. You can get your post count up and people will start to recognise you. Try not to over-post, nor 'but-in' if two people have been swapping posts for a while in the thread. look at the recent history in the thread, the lasdt hour or so and if it looks, free, or the most recent post hasn't been answered for a few mins, then give it a go. If you are about to post to a thread for the first time, spend time looking at the original post (OP) where the 'terms' of the thread will be laid out, as well as the most recent posts so you can try to make your post relevant yet fresh.

3) Be polite, reputation is all here. So, if you cross post, just edit your post and apologise. Again it's all about being seen as a contributing member of the Lit society. When it comes to PMs most women here get a huge number of PMs daily, men get very few by comparison. If you are going to PM someone, spend time crafting it and try to make it stand out in a good way. For a brief period when I took this identity, I was confused as a woman, it was not a nice experience! Think about the recipient's reaction to what you are writing.

4) Regarding recognition, as soon as you are able, get an avatar (AV), and stick with it for a while. Again, through this AV you will start to become recognised and trusted. I would suggest not using pictures of your personal anatomy, but try to find something tasteful, unique and representative of you. Don't lurk (i.e. do keep Stealth Mode off, at least initially) You will not know when people put you on their buddy list so telling all you are on-line will up your recognition factor. And do make sure your PMs are enabled and your inbox isn't full.

5) take nothing too personally. e.g. If someone post skips you or ignores you (generally guys trying to respond to previous post from a lady) don't get too hot under the collar, they are the desperate ones. In some more chatty threads this is okay, in the more 'sequential' threads like the word games, this is less acceptable (at least that's what I think).

6) Be patient, you will not find Miss Right instantly, but there are a lot of good people here so I'm sure over time you will build up a good circle of friends.

7) Finally, most people eventually leave Lit, so be prepared to see 'lit-friends' disappear. This can be difficult, but Lit isn't real life and must always be secondary to it.

8) Finally, Finally, stay away from the General Board! There be dragons.

Hope that helps.

EM

Excellent advice from a nice guy.

 

[old_flattop]

Thank you for your advice. You are most helpful. I will make my profile a little better and do as you said.