40ish and has never had an orgasm

[daddysbaby150]

Ok ladies, (and guys too I guess), I have a lit friend who just told me that his wife has NEVER had an orgasm, thru clitoral stimulation or intercourse, in her life. Now, short of calling bs, I am sad for her. I was always able to have orgasms thru clitoral stimulation, but only recently was able to orgasm thru intercourse. He says he has tried massage, oral stimulation, toys, etc with no success. They have been together for I'm guessing 15+yrs and even when dating she never orgasmed. She says she never orgasmed with previous partners either. I'm looking for any advice you may have to help him please his woman. Also, if you are a woman and have experienced the same, I would love to hear from you.

 

[Lyricalli]

Ok ladies, (and guys too I guess), I have a lit friend who just told me that his wife has NEVER had an orgasm, thru clitoral stimulation or intercourse, in her life. Now, short of calling bs, I am sad for her. I was always able to have orgasms thru clitoral stimulation, but only recently was able to orgasm thru intercourse. He says he has tried massage, oral stimulation, toys, etc with no success. They have been together for I'm guessing 15+yrs and even when dating she never orgasmed. She says she never orgasmed with previous partners either. I'm looking for any advice you may have to help him please his woman. Also, if you are a woman and have experienced the same, I would love to hear from you.

She needs to figure out how to make herself orgasm, then they can work on how he can help her orgasm.

 

[mnbreastluver]

She needs to figure out how to make herself orgasm, then they can work on how he can help her orgasm.

Agreed

 

[Misshotndeep]

She needs to figure out how to make herself orgasm, then they can work on how he can help her orgasm.

Yep. Get her some lube, a few toys and tell her to work it out till it happens. Maybe talk about anatomy too. Sometimes a very sheltered lady may not know how things are suppose to work.

 

[_Lorelei_]

She needs more alone time.
My advice is from a person who lost her virginity late but orgasmed early.
If your concern is purely for her personal orgasm she needs to forget about sex, focus on her fantasies, get herself a small toy / bullet.. get time alone and BOOM!

You are a very kind man to post a thread of concern for your 'friend's' wife. Leave her alone with a vibe and all will be well x

 

[daddysbaby150]

Thank you to all of you that responded both here and as a pm. I was shocked to hear that this is more common that I thought. Some of you got pretty detailed with your personal experiences, and I appreciate that. I have emailed him the many suggestions and opinions I received and again, appreciate all the response. At 38, I cant imagine going thru life without orgasms and anything I can do to help a fellow lady out is great.

 

[Putt88]

Control Issues

I do not think this is a simple problem. ("Thanks Captailn Obvious!")

I have dated several woman who were "non-orgasmic" and almost all of them:

1) Had control issues and could not simply relax and let loose. In fact, one or two would stop me from playing with their clit when it started to generate those pre-orgasmic sensations; basically made me stop when they sensed they were losing control of themeselves.

2) One girl actually said it "tickled" to much. Don't know if that was due to the previous reason or an actual issue for her.

3) Sexually repressed and, therefore, unable to let go and enjoy the ride. In this case, she would also be reluctant or refuse to engage in (a) masturbation to work on her reluctance, (b) seek sexual counciling, and/or (c) expand their sexual activities to explore their/other sexual stimulations.

Many woman who have this issue do not seem to believe they have any issue at all. Mores the pity! It can be a very difficult situation for all involved.

 

[bunny4med]

has she been to a doctor to make sure there are no physical issues?