4 Easy Ways to Spice Up Things in the Bedroom

[Geoz]

Are you in a relationship that seems as if it is stalled in the bedroom? If so, your first thought may be to terminate the relationship. But, what if your relationship is long-term? What if you are married? What if you really do love your partner? What steps should you take then?

When it comes to being unhappy in the bedroom, it is important to know that ending a marriage or a relationship should only be used as a last approach. Instead, you will want to take steps to spice things up. Doing so may improve more than just your intimacy, but it may do wonders for your relationship in general.

As nice as it is to hear that you can and should spice things up and in the bedroom, you may be unsure as to how you should proceed. If that is the case, please continue reading on. Below, four easy ways that you can spice things up in the bedroom, are covered.

1 – Engage in Foreplay
When you do have sex, what happens? Do you and your partner get right down to business? If you do, that may be a huge problem. Unfortunately, many couples do not realize that intimacy is more than just about having sex. It is also about having a happy and healthy relationship. If you rely on sex to make your relationship succeed, there is a very good chance that it will actually fail.

If you and your partner don’t already engage in foreplay, start doing so. Also, remember that foreplay doesn’t have to start in the bedroom. Call your lover, send a text message, or a handwritten note expressing your desires to get intimate with them later on.

2 – Be Spontaneous
When you want to have sex, what do you do? If you actually take the time to ask your partner if they want to be intimate with you, you may be doing more harm than good. Asking first can make being intimate seem more like a chore than something that should bring you pleasure. The next time that you want to move to the bedroom, don’t ask first. Just lead your partner there. In fact, who needs a bedroom?

Know that being spontaneous is about more than not talking about sex first. Ways that you can be spontaneous with your partner is to have sex at a different time, date, or place.

3 – Talk About Your Fantasies
One of the biggest reasons why couples have problems with sex is because one person isn’t having their desires fulfilled. If that is the case with you? Does your partner know what you like or what you want to get out of being intimate? If not, it is time for you to let them know.

Be sure to talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies and desires. What would you like to try in the bedroom? In addition to expressing your wants, needs, and darkest fantasies, be sure to let your partner do the same. Remember that both of you should walk away from an intimate encounter pleased.

4 – Experiment in the Bedroom
Another one of the easy ways that you can spice up things in the bedroom is by experimenting. When doing so, you may be pleased with all of your options. For starters, you can try a new sex position. This may not only lead to extra pleasure, but fun and excitement. Sex toys, romantic or pornographic videos, and role playing are other good ideas for experimenting in the bedroom.
Remember that experimenting in the bedroom is a good way to spice up your intimacy, but be sure to use your best judgment. It may be a wise decision to first discuss making changes with your partner, as you will not want to make him or her feel uncomfortable.

So there you have it! You know have a few ideas on how you can go about spicing up things in the bedroom. So what are you waiting for? Get started today.

 

[GorgeousGeekGirl]

I've found your post to be like most well intentioned How To help posts, well intentioned but short on actual mechanics. People already know the general principles mentioned, but in actual practice there are so many techniques and options it's overwhelming. People are looking for specifics, which includes helpful hints or warnings. So I'm going to offer 4 specific spices.

1. Brush her hair. This is when you're in a patient mood. Brush her hair all the way out. Many women have erogenous zones on their scalps, and men love the feel of a woman's hair. When you run into a tangle, ask if she wants to work it out so you don't hurt her. For the women to get a man to do this: assign a specific time period and make a trade. "Hun, if you brush my hair for 15 minutes, I'll give you 15 minutes of oral (or other desired favor)." Make sure to keep the promise or you're never getting your hair brushed again.

2. Path of kisses: write down different non sexual body parts. Put into a hat and take turns randomly drawing the slips. Start at the body part, make a path of kisses to the groin. Make sure to take a long route. If you get belly button, don't just head straight south; go around the waist, then south

3. Make an audio recording for your lover. Praise something they did or describe something you want to do. Don't worry about how your voice sounds;
If they didnt like it, they wouldn't be seeing you

4. Take an object like a Kleenex box or dowel rod and a one minute timer. One person has to hold the object with both hands while the other does what they want. Good for ultra light bondage for people who are freaked out about actual restraints

 

[GiggLeGasm]

no offense.. but I think I read that in Teen Vogue.

I agree with the Gorgeous Geek - people need a little more direction.
Sometimes it feels a little safer if you're on a level playing field..
get out of town.. agree to try something new together.. tell each other what you miss about your sex life

 

[Rolando2]

play music like THIS

 

[kootenaychica]

I'm going to offer 4 specific spices.

1. Brush her hair.
2. Path of kisses.
3. Make an audio recording for your lover.
4. Ultra light bondage for people who are freaked out about actual restraints

These are wonderful examples you offered. Let's keep this thread going with more ideas like GGG has stated
I'll be back with mine!

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

All this reminds me of Tupperware parties and lingerie parties and retirement parties at the office. Just add a few five dollar pizzas and some 2 liter Sprite. I do more for my dogs than what I see here.

One gal I know just spent over 50K on a new Cadillac for her hubby (he had run off with an ugly blonde).

 

[GorgeousGeekGirl]

Brushing hair? That's right up there with flossing my teeth, and neither of those would count as foreplay to me.

I think all examples should come with the caveat that you should actually probably just get to know your partner first before trying such examples.

As far as hair brushing being too vanilla, some people like vanilla, especially when they are tired and stressed out. Having your lover doing something caring like that can be very arousing or relaxing. Some just aren't into being ass slammed with 14 inch dildoes by their entire family reunion, and... For those that are, probably not all the time. My Lit playmate and I have role played various scenarios ranging from " you could be deported for that" to the gentle lovemaking of a quiet rainy afternoon. If the rule of Lit is don't judge anything that doesn't hurt another (unless of course they are into that), then vanilla should be just as acceptable as anal cherry jubilee. Besides, the hair brushing is less crazy than you think; millions of women pay extra money at hair salons for a shampoo when they could do it at home for free, and good shampooers get tipped separately from stylists.

Buuuuuuut, here's 4 more ideas: (yes, there will always be a vanilla)

1. Buy a vibrator with a remote. Give the remote to your lover right before you go out. Let them tease and torture you. Very small ones are available, so the noise shouldn't be audible.

2. Naked twister. It's a classic that never goes out of style.

3. Hot mug of coffee, glass of ice water. Touch your lover with both at once, one on each nipple is really effective. The shock and confusion of both at once can really set you on edge.

4. Get a book of foreign slang like Dermo! It's street Russian, cuss words, and dirty talk. Write down on index cards naughty things to say out loud like "mne zversky yebar" (my brutal fucker). In USA, think carefully before choosing Spanish, or Tagalog in San Diego. You can get really raw right in front of people, and you may discover that you know someone who speaks that language

 

[Emerson40]

Are you in a relationship that seems as if it is stalled in the bedroom? If so, your first thought may be to terminate the relationship. But, what if your relationship is long-term? What if you are married? What if you really do love your partner? What steps should you take then?

When it comes to being unhappy in the bedroom, it is important to know that ending a marriage or a relationship should only be used as a last approach. Instead, you will want to take steps to spice things up. Doing so may improve more than just your intimacy, but it may do wonders for your relationship in general.

As nice as it is to hear that you can and should spice things up and in the bedroom, you may be unsure as to how you should proceed. If that is the case, please continue reading on. Below, four easy ways that you can spice things up in the bedroom, are covered.

1 – Engage in Foreplay
When you do have sex, what happens? Do you and your partner get right down to business? If you do, that may be a huge problem. Unfortunately, many couples do not realize that intimacy is more than just about having sex. It is also about having a happy and healthy relationship. If you rely on sex to make your relationship succeed, there is a very good chance that it will actually fail.

If you and your partner don’t already engage in foreplay, start doing so. Also, remember that foreplay doesn’t have to start in the bedroom. Call your lover, send a text message, or a handwritten note expressing your desires to get intimate with them later on.

2 – Be Spontaneous
When you want to have sex, what do you do? If you actually take the time to ask your partner if they want to be intimate with you, you may be doing more harm than good. Asking first can make being intimate seem more like a chore than something that should bring you pleasure. The next time that you want to move to the bedroom, don’t ask first. Just lead your partner there. In fact, who needs a bedroom?

Know that being spontaneous is about more than not talking about sex first. Ways that you can be spontaneous with your partner is to have sex at a different time, date, or place.

3 – Talk About Your Fantasies
One of the biggest reasons why couples have problems with sex is because one person isn’t having their desires fulfilled. If that is the case with you? Does your partner know what you like or what you want to get out of being intimate? If not, it is time for you to let them know.

Be sure to talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies and desires. What would you like to try in the bedroom? In addition to expressing your wants, needs, and darkest fantasies, be sure to let your partner do the same. Remember that both of you should walk away from an intimate encounter pleased.

4 – Experiment in the Bedroom
Another one of the easy ways that you can spice up things in the bedroom is by experimenting. When doing so, you may be pleased with all of your options. For starters, you can try a new sex position. This may not only lead to extra pleasure, but fun and excitement. Sex toys, romantic or pornographic videos, and role playing are other good ideas for experimenting in the bedroom.
Remember that experimenting in the bedroom is a good way to spice up your intimacy, but be sure to use your best judgment. It may be a wise decision to first discuss making changes with your partner, as you will not want to make him or her feel uncomfortable.

So there you have it! You know have a few ideas on how you can go about spicing up things in the bedroom. So what are you waiting for? Get started today.

Hey Geoz,

When posting the work of another writer, it is cool to mention you read / saw this someplace else, and credit the writer.

If possible, but not required, provide details or links to SOURCE.

Otherwise it looks like you are posting the work of another as your own which, on a site full of writers, could be a sensitive subject.

Unless of course you are SASSYMISS, of SASSYMISSdotCOM.

 

[CBM514]

Best way to spike things up in bed is to spice them up out of bed..take care of your woman, appreciate her in life and build the anticipation...