3some with couple.

[Kama2k]

I used to have sex with a woman and it was great but when her husband joins , I simply cant get it up, she blows me , does her best but it simply refuses to get up, If he leaves the room , Iam back at it again, feeling really frustrating and embarrased. Stopped seeing her because the husband felt that I dont want him to have his fun (watching). I miss having sex with her. Any idea whats wrong with me???

 

[human_male]

There's nothing wrong with you dude, it's just not your cup of tea to have another guy involved.

 

[hogjack]

Consider adding a chamber orchestra into the proceedings. A lovely song played by a well-rehearsed unit should set a different tone for the sexual machinations.

 

[Kama2k]

hey thanks

Consider adding a chamber orchestra into the proceedings. A lovely song played by a well-rehearsed unit should set a different tone for the sexual machinations.

Hey, thanks mate, i will try that next time but you dont get good orchestra here in Inja. I will out source one from Chi Ka go also that should help to balance things,lol

 

[silverwhisper]

kama: threesomes aren't for everyone, man. don't believe that the stuff you see in porn applies to everyone b/c that's a load of crap. :>

ed

 

[eyenohow]

Maybe it's not stage fright, maybe it's unclear boundaries.

 

[Kama2k]

Thanks guys

Maybe it's not stage fright, maybe it's unclear boundaries.

Thank you silver whisper and human male , for your comments , I personally feel it is more of the above, unclear boundaries. I just coudnt be my self because I kept thinking what if he feels that Iam going beyond some limit that he has in his mind etc.

 

[SweetErika]

Thank you silver whisper and human male , for your comments , I personally feel it is more of the above, unclear boundaries. I just coudnt be my self because I kept thinking what if he feels that Iam going beyond some limit that he has in his mind etc.

Not knowing the boundaries/rules or being with someone who's likely to change them is enough to negatively impact the arousal/fun for most people.

Rules should ALWAYS be discussed and agreed upon by everyone prior to an encounter, and reaffirmed or modified before subsequent sessions.

Hubby and I always work out signals ahead of time as well. For example, he'll kiss me, say, "Have fun!" and leave the room if he wants to leave me alone with the other person, and we use "yellow" if an activity makes us uncomfortable and we'd like it to slow down or change, and "red" means we want everything to stop immediately so we can talk. We tell, and encourage, our partners to use these signals, if they need to, too.

 

[WestVaCouple]

Been there.

Been there/Done that. it is just a comfort level that you have. No problem.

 

[RawAndNatural]

Its interesting that you were able to have sex with her alone first before tying MFM threesomes with them together. Most couples want only threesomes and a few with then alow sex with the woman alone.

 

[Eilan]

I can understand why everyone involved might be frustrated. This is a somewhat different situation, but. . .

My husband and I had a MFM with a guy who had trouble getting and maintaining erections. At first, we all figured it was a little "performance anxiety" because it was his first time in a threesome situation; the guy said that he tended to have this issue with new partners, anyway. My husband tried leaving the room for a few minutes, but it didn't really make things any better. Later on, we even tried having me go over to his house without my husband** and the same thing happened.

I eventually learned that this guy was taking blood pressure medicine and drinking a lot to offset the pressures of a high-stress job. I don't know if this was a part of his erectile issues or not.

Hijack over.






**I realize that I mentioned in another thread that my husband and I don't "play" alone. However, my husband was very much involved with what we were doing via webcam and IM, and we don't consider that playing alone. Depending on the rules that other couples establish, their mileage may vary.

 

[hogjack]

My husband and I had a MFM with a guy who had trouble getting and maintaining erections. .... My husband tried leaving the room for a few minutes, but it didn't really make things any better. Later on, we even tried having me go over to his house without my husband** and the same thing happened.

But we had a great time playing Uno. I thought the evening ended just fine.

 

[Eilan]

But we had a great time playing Uno. I thought the evening ended just fine.

That was Uno? Damn, I thought it was Skip-Bo!

So I guess that time I had to take my clothes off after losing that other card game we weren't playing gin rummy?

I really need to brush up on my card games.

 

[hogjack]

That was Uno? Damn, I thought it was Skip-Bo!

So I guess that time I had to take my clothes off after losing that other card game we weren't playing gin rummy?

I really need to brush up on my card games.

Ok, the card game was a ruse to get your clothes off one more time.

I was ready that time. Really. Uh, you two are so kind, generous and decent souls.

Next time poker - winner take all.