3 Questions - No Right Answers - Just Wondering

[Jay4fun2day39]

1. When looking for someone whether a friend or relationship, do you tend to look for people that are like yourself, slightly opposite or completely opposite?

2. Do you tend to judge others by what they like, and if you do, can you explain why?

3. How much does it matter to you whether a person is gay, lesbian, bi or straight, and whether or not they are open about it?

 

[Jay4fun2day39]

I'll start it off

I'll start it off

1. I tend to look for people that are mostly like me, but in some ways are just slightly the opposite. (Only because I've always been more of the "quiet" and "to himself" kind of guy) sometimes I like to be around someone a little outgoing. I have found through past experiences when choosing completely the opposite, things don't work out. Sometimes at the beginning things are a little exciting, but after a while one or the other tries to change their personality. It just doesn't work, you have to be yourself.

2. I don't judge anyone, I'm gay and masculine acting. I tend to look for friends the same way, but I do have friend that definitely act feminine. I don't do drugs, if you do....it's your life. I'm not into cross dressing, but a lot of guys look dam good when they do, and if you like to....cool. I have chatted with so many people and they ask me if I'm into something. I try to be honest and if I'm not, I get so much BS. "Why not", "You need to try it", etc. If it's something interests me, then I might try it, but when I get told I should. It feels like the are judging my opinions and they think mine are wrong. Unless you like to be judged or changed yourself, don't to go through life trying to judge and change others. Everyone is a different individual, that what makes life exciting when you meet a new person and become friends...different personalities.

3. This one makes me wonder a lot. What exactly is the hang up on people's personal sexual prefernce. I have friends that are all of the mentioned. I personally am gay, and masculine acting, and only "out" to people I trust. I feel that my sexual preference only matters those who need to know. Am I ashamed to be gay, no and never will be. At the same time I have no problems with that are totally out and want the world to know. And if I'm out somewhere and a straight friend that had no clue, sees me with some gay friends that are totally out. And all of the sudden my friend realizes I'm gay too.......Well then I guess I'll find out what kind of friend they are because I'm not changing, and I don't really care if they find out. And I could never understand some guys that say they "hate" lesbians, or some lesbians that say they "can stand" gay. Geesh, it's not like they are going to try to get into each others pants. Life is too short to worry about whether someone is gay, lesbian, bi, or straight. Look at their personality, if you like that....try to make a new friend, you can never have enough

Peace.....Enjoy life

 

[timberwolf05]

Q's

1. When looking for someone whether a friend or relationship, do you tend to look for people that are like yourself, slightly opposite or completely opposite?

*******supposedly yes, some one of my interests. there has to be something for conversation of course.


2. Do you tend to judge others by what they like, and if you do, can you explain why?

*********yes and no. i do not say hey what you like or do is wrong, per se but usually it is something i cannot relate to. "I" have very limited interests.

3. How much does it matter to you whether a person is gay, lesbian, bi or straight, and whether or not they are open about it?

******to a small point, it does not, but to another, it does. if what they do is not part of my interests there is nothing to discuss. go do whatever trips your trigger. just don't shove it down my throat and push it in my face. a lot of it is TMI......too much information.

so why the questions? someone on your ass about your stuff? if they are, tell em to go take a flying F*****.! "I" DO!

the wolf

 

[queen_of_cups]

1. When looking for someone whether a friend or relationship, do you tend to look for people that are like yourself, slightly opposite or completely opposite?

I tend not to get along well with -complete- opposites, so I tend to prefer people that have some overlap in how they approach life, or overlap in interests, but with differences, to keep things interesting. I like to learn new things from my relationships, and that's hard if two people are too similar.

2. Do you tend to judge others by what they like, and if you do, can you explain why?

Somewhat yes. There are things that I don't have much respect for and if other people are really into those things it can affect the way I view them, though I try -not- to let it. People like what they like and it doesn't necessarily speak to their worth as a person.

3. How much does it matter to you whether a person is gay, lesbian, bi or straight, and whether or not they are open about it?

A person's actual orientation isn't that important to me, but if there's a relationship beyond friendship developing, I expect a certain level of honesty about it -with me-. My friends don't have to out themselves to me if they don't want to though. I'd hope they'd trust me enough with that knowledge, but if they don't, they don't. Overall openness with -other- people about orientation - to me that's an individual decision and it doesn't affect how I relate to that person. I have friends who are out and proud, friends who are out to a circle of trusted, open-minded friends and friends who are still largely closeted. To me, that's up to them, and not really any of my business.

I'm only out bi, to open-minded friends myself, so I'd be the last to throw stones about that. People usually have very good reasons why they're out to whom they're out to and not others.

 

[Ricwilly]

1. yes
2. yes, it tells a lot about them.
3. not a bit.

 

[Jay4fun2day39]

so why the questions? someone on your ass about your stuff? if they are, tell em to go take a flying F*****.! "I" DO!

the wolf

No particular reason, just seeing if there are open minded people out there. New to this site, but in other chat rooms or sites, I find a lot of people that just either judge, or put down other people. This is the first discussion board I've found that is open to Gay, lesbian, bi and straight but curious people. Most of the other ones are mostly gay, and there seem to be a lot of "pissing contests".
A lot of people think that their opinions matter more or better than others, instead of listening to other's views on life. I was just curious what the opinions and views were of some of the member here.