2nd pic post

Finding time

MasterSnatch said:
She's been busy of course, but if she gets the time to pick someone out I'm sure she will say so:)

I'm willing to bet that she will find the time to come back in every so often, but not likely as often or in as much volume as in the past. She really seems to enjoy being the exhibitionist and I don't think that will change, but unless hubby decides that he is cool with it, she will likely have to work us in when he is out doing other things and she is able to get on here alone. After being away so long, however, people change. Maybe he will find it hot and be completely cool with it. Some people, however, are dead set against this kind of thing and absolutely freak about it. It may take time for her to find out what his reaction would be and who knows what he would do if he were to find out about it himself. Just glad to see that she is still into it and not giving up on being herself.
 
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just like that....she walks out of my life forever.....damn I certainly hope not....but for her sake...lets hope he never stumbles upon this thread
 
ghostman133 said:
just like that....she walks out of my life forever.....damn I certainly hope not....but for her sake...lets hope he never stumbles upon this thread
yes let's all hope things go well for her
 
lilevilpunk said:
No I am not walking out of your life forever. You know better than that. My husband is home, and things are very very weird. He is fine, but I dont feel exactly the same way as I did before he left. Maybe I just need more time, or time alone. We havent been alone since he came home. I had 5 min to myself today and I read your poem. I cried and had to think of a reason to explain why. Which wasnt very hard because nothing has been going right since he came home. I miss you... you have no idea how much I want to be able to talk to you. You were always there for me when I needed you. You helped me through so much and for that I will be forever greatful. I would have emailed this to you but yeah...he gets into my email even after I change the passwords. I feel so bad for feeling the way I do, I wish I didnt. But things have changed and I am afraid they arent for the better.

You poor girl.

Sounds like there is much confusion in you and that you are very unsure of things, my best suggestion is this, see how the next few days go and what may happen during that time. It may help clear up things, if nothing else try to redetermine what you want in life and what it is you wish to have. If you must go out and try get some alone time, it's possible you may need that and see how it feels compared to when you are at home.

Not happy to hear that you are not, you definitely need a good friend and at least you got Ghost somewhat near by.

Remember this above all, do what makes you happy and do what you think is right, don't let anyone hurt you, get you down or make you feel less than what you are. Don't let anyone walk all over you.
 
lilevilpunk said:
No I am not walking out of your life forever. You know better than that. My husband is home, and things are very very weird. He is fine, but I dont feel exactly the same way as I did before he left. Maybe I just need more time, or time alone. We havent been alone since he came home. I had 5 min to myself today and I read your poem. I cried and had to think of a reason to explain why. Which wasnt very hard because nothing has been going right since he came home. I miss you... you have no idea how much I want to be able to talk to you. You were always there for me when I needed you. You helped me through so much and for that I will be forever greatful. I would have emailed this to you but yeah...he gets into my email even after I change the passwords. I feel so bad for feeling the way I do, I wish I didnt. But things have changed and I am afraid they arent for the better.


It strikes me that you describe a scenario where you both kind of want things to be the same as the were before he left. I doubt they can be. They can be good again, but theres been time, theres been changes, in both of you, things that are going to happen when two people are apart who are used to being together. You have grown in different directions. It doesnt mean you cant be together, and happy as ever, it will just be different. You two probably have to get to know each other again in a sense. It won't be easy, because you both have that memory of before. It will probably be hard work.

I hope you can find the place of happiness again, you are a really nice person, a cool chick and deserve it.

mr d.
 
I'm so sorry that things have turned out this way, sweetheart.

Know that you have some true friends in here, as well as your dozens and dozens of admirers.

I'd often suggest time away from Lit in a situation like yours, but in your case, it seems like Lit is your one outlet for expressing yourself. You've both been through a lot in the past months. Try to be patient with each other.

You could choose to look at it this way: you know that at one point, you both found things in each other that made you fall in love. Now, you almost get a chance to get familiar with each other all over again - to fall in love again. At least, maybe.
 
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