24 year old virgin

[Zanders91]

Well as the title states I am 24 years old and a virgin. I haves social anxiety disorder that stops me from just having a normal conversation with someone. When it comes to a woman that I am attracted to I'll either freeze up or start talking similar like goofy.

I am not trying to make flame bait or anything along those lines I'm just taking a suggestion from my personal post.

To be honest I'm not sure what I'm looking for just trying to do something I am not comfortable with.

 

[1sickbastard]

Social interaction of any type is a skill. And like any skill, it takes practice to become proficient.
Quit worrying and just go do it. Expect to be shot down in flames a lot and don't mistake politeness, courtesy or kindness for a genuine interest/attraction.
If a woman is romantically (or sexually) interested in you, she will let you know, nor will she be put off by simply asking if she's interested.

But you have to put yourself out there and continue to do so until you're successful.

 

[may_I_please]

Social anxiety improves with practice

Are you in therapy? Experts can help

 

[Zanders91]

Social anxiety improves with practice

Are you in therapy? Experts can help

Therapy has been hit and miss for me. I am still looking for one that can actually help. The first one I had helped a lot but passed away. The last one I tried was just an ass and told me to read some self help books and quit wining basically.

 

[Zanders91]

Social interaction of any type is a skill. And like any skill, it takes practice to become proficient.
Quit worrying and just go do it. Expect to be shot down in flames a lot and don't mistake politeness, courtesy or kindness for a genuine interest/attraction.
If a woman is romantically (or sexually) interested in you, she will let you know, nor will she be put off by simply asking if she's interested.

But you have to put yourself out there and continue to do so until you're successful.

I have been trying to insert myself in social situations. But when I am in attack its not the best thing for a gathering or a party and I leave. I am still trying to work on conversing with women.

 

[tolyk]

I have been trying to insert myself in social situations. But when I am in attack its not the best thing for a gathering or a party and I leave. I am still trying to work on conversing with women.

I was socially anxious as a teen, even more so around women. One day I realized that it doesn't matter who you are talking to, male, female, gay, straight, adult, child... Treat them like another human being and just talk. After that I could really talk to anyone I wanted. I still stutter on occasion, but I chalk that up to a speech impairment.

Good luck, and if you ever need someone to chat with, I'm just a pm away

 

[1sickbastard]

I was socially anxious as a teen, even more so around women. One day I realized that it doesn't matter who you are talking to, male, female, gay, straight, adult, child... Treat them like another human being and just talk. After that I could really talk to anyone I wanted. I still stutter on occasion, but I chalk that up to a speech impairment.

Good luck, and if you ever need someone to chat with, I'm just a pm away

^^^^This.

 

[Zanders91]

I was socially anxious as a teen, even more so around women. One day I realized that it doesn't matter who you are talking to, male, female, gay, straight, adult, child... Treat them like another human being and just talk. After that I could really talk to anyone I wanted. I still stutter on occasion, but I chalk that up to a speech impairment.

Good luck, and if you ever need someone to chat with, I'm just a pm away

Thanks

 

[LadyVer]

Well as the title states I am 24 years old and a virgin. I haves social anxiety disorder that stops me from just having a normal conversation with someone. When it comes to a woman that I am attracted to I'll either freeze up or start talking similar like goofy.

I am not trying to make flame bait or anything along those lines I'm just taking a suggestion from my personal post.

To be honest I'm not sure what I'm looking for just trying to do something I am not comfortable with.

There is nothing wrong with a 24-year-old virgin. Some people are late bloomers in sex and in becoming comfortable in relating to others. I do hope this isn't the first thing you bring up when meeting people, though.

 

[xanderra]

There is nothing wrong with a 24-year-old virgin. Some people are late bloomers in sex and in becoming comfortable in relating to others. I do hope this isn't the first thing you bring up when meeting people, though.

yeah man you will be fine

 

[JennyNo1]

Therapy has been hit and miss for me. I am still looking for one that can actually help. The first one I had helped a lot but passed away. The last one I tried was just an ass and told me to read some self help books and quit wining basically.

The second one sounds like someone who needs to be reported to someone.

You're making a good start by putting yourself in an unfamiliar, uncomfortable situation here. Chatting with people here on the Playground threads is good practice.

 

[The_Nic]

Just wanted to let you know that you're not alone in your struggle. I'm a bit older then you and I also suffer from social anxiety. When I'm around women (especially those that I'm attracted to), my mind goes blank. Unfortunately it hasn't been easy. But the more I practice, the easier it gets. Lit has been a great place to practice my social skills. I have time to think of what I want to say without feeling anxious.
So I know what you're going through.