20-Year High School Reunion...Egad, HE was there!

[Whispersecret]

My 20-Year HS Reunion was this weekend, and it was REALLY strange meeting the guy who (I think) took my virginity. I really forgot that he was in my graduating class because we went out with each other when we were freshmen, and after we broke up I didn't socialize with him. So when we saw each other on Saturday, it was really a shock.

He looked good, but his wife of two years was there, also from our graduating class. (Strange, huh?) As we were reminiscing, I was reminded of specific incidents that I had heretofore forgotten, and it was all around creepy. I felt like that was a lifetime ago, and I guess it was, but even more than that it felt like it had all happened to another person. I wondered what he felt about meeting again after all these years, and his take on our experiences together, which I don't remember with any great fondness.

Anyway, I guess I was just wondering if other people, upon going to their reunions, felt uneasy at seeing people with whom they'd experimented sexually as teens.

 

[Skibum]

That's a tough situation. I have never been confronted face to face with an old girlfriend, but I did run into the former friend who stole a girlfriend. That was awkward.

I just remembered. I did run into a former lover at the PX at Ft. Knox once. She was with her husband, who must have been surprized when his wife hugged an apparent stranger. What was really weird about it was that she had been a friend of my wife's before we got together, and my wife knew that she and I had been more than just friends. What was really weird was about a year later she called my wife and wanted to stay with us for a week while her husband was out of town.

For about two minutes I had all kinds of fantasies running through my head, then I chickened out and told my wife I would be very uncomfortable with her staying with us.

[Edited by Skibum on 07-16-2000 at 10:52 PM]

 

[CreamyLady]

I didn't have sex until I left high school, and was so miserable and hostile and inferior through high school that I've managed to miss every single reunion so far. I'm pretty sure I'll be giving the 30th a miss next year, as well.

I have run into people I went to high school with on several occasions. My only feeling when meeting them is an earnest desire to be someplace else. Sometimes, such as the time I ran into the Prom Queen, a faint sensation of being 17 again, hostile and miserable and inferior, runs along my spine.

My feeling is that it is best to look forward, and only look back from a safe distance.

 

[Isabella Thorne]

oh hey whisper ... first of all hon what do you mean "you think" he took your virginity ??? lol

... my high school renuinion made me sad .. my first boyfriend when i was in grade 9 .. i loved him so .. we lost touch as we all do over the years .. but i knew he still lived in town and was married ..

we were allowed to "request" someone's presence at this reunion so i requested him .. so he knew i wanted to see him .. but he never showed .. and there i was checking the door every 10 minutes .. asshole ..

but on the other hand i am still friends with my b/f from grade 11 ... lol

 

[Endlessly]

CL, I understand precisely what you mean.. High school was hell for me, all four years of it. My freshman year I was shy and awkward, recovering from the worst year of my life.. And the next three I went through silently accepting the fact that everyone in my 2,000-student school knew who I was, but the only people who liked me were perhaps 2 or 3 teachers.

My High School english teacher still means the world to me.. gives me books and reading lists, fatherly advice and encouragement. I honestly don't know if I'll attend any reunions.. Don't much see the point when I can go out to lunch with one of my teachers, and there's everything that was ever good about high school. *shrug*

 

[Cheyenne]

a coincidence

Just went to a high school reunion this weekend also- 25 years. I enjoyed it though, even if the one guy I really wanted to see didn't come. It was a little ackward with a few people- so easy to slip back into the cliques from so many years ago. But it was also just nice to see people and know they are well and happy.

Want to know the best part? I was not looking forward to this reunion since I don't look anything like I did at 17. I am much heavier. And I look my age, I think. But so did most of the other people! Quite a few even looked decades older than me! And it didn't matter. The "fun" part was watching the women from one popular clique who must now be anorexic since they are skin and bones, thinner than in high school even. Their uniform was skimpy sparkly dresses and spiked heels. A large percentage of them also suddenly had very bleached blond hair. After seeing how sad they looked trying to look 20 years younger than they were, I felt much better about myself.

 

[April]

Sadly, I wasn't even invited to my 10 year reunion. That's okay. There's nobody I went to school with that I really wanted to see anyway. Oh! This year is 15. Well, I guess scratch that one too.

Isabella, I've often wondered what the words to that song are, as I can't understand hardly any of it.

 

[Isabella Thorne]

ha ha April .. you mean Marcy Playground? ... the lyrics are in the cd which i have .. but btw if you want to check out lyrics .. most lyrics are available on the net .. just use the artists name in quotes in a search engine like this:
"Marcy Playground" + lyrics

 

[Whispersecret]

CreamyLady, I think that I won't be tempted to go to another reunion. I too felt like I was back in high school, surrounded by people who all knew and liked each other. I felt obligated to go. My husband would have thought I was nuts for not going. (He has a memory like an elephant and is very very social, unlike me.) Also, I didn't want to be old and gray later and regret not going.

But now that I've experienced it, I think I'll pass next time. It was pretty expensive ($160 for both of us) and really, not that much fun.

Isabella, to this day I'm not really sure if he took my virginity or not. We were experimenting and he only got partway in before he pulled out and came on the bed. I didn't try again until four years later because I was terrified of getting pregnant, even with condoms. It was all horribly awkward.

Is there anyone who had a great time at their high school reunion? Maybe even the popular people felt uncomfortable...

 

[CreamyLady]

I've often thought about how much fun it would be to have a party with people we really like now, and wished we went to high school with.

People who might have shared our particular angst; who may have been painfully shy, or felt grotesque because their bodies weren't finished.

People who really internalized a lot of shit, worked through it, and became fascinating, wonderful adults.

A Union, instead of Reunion, of interesting people, both enjoying the moment and looking ahead.

The Prom Queens, Jocks, Water Polo Gods and Goddesses, Cheerleaders and Immensely Popular People could all keep going to the Reunions, and reliving their Glory Days.

Also, it would be cheap. Beer, wine, pot luck, and one's most comfortable clothes -- no formal stuff you buy just to impress.

That would be a party I wouldn't miss.

 

[Gaucho]

Here's a good one. I'm coming up on my 30th reunion (to take place next summer) and I skipped the 20th, but the one thing I recall about my 10th was walking by a person I didn't recognize, only to be frozen in midstep when he spoke my name and said hi to me. I turned and said hello, unable to believe my eyes. 10 years earlier, this person had been voted by the senior class as the boy with the best body (does anyone else remember those stupid contests?) and he had richly deserved the honor. Standing in front of me at that moment, he weighed 300lbs if he weighed an ounce. I've never seen (nor do I hope to see) a more amazing transformation in my life. Only the voice was the same. After a few moments of small talk, I excused myself and headed for the bar. Even today, when I think about it, I can still hear his voice plainly, calling to me from that stranger's body.

 

[Amadeus]

Interesting question.

I went to my twenty fifth HS reunion. As some others have suggested, my first inclination was to avoid going back to revisit all those insecurities which are so painful in those years. I had said this to my wife who had not attended my school.

The first thing that happened was a beautiful blond, who I would have sworn I had never met, threw her arms around me and said "James!! Sweetheart!" We had grown up together and it really was a pleasure seeing her again. My wife said, so..... you didn't have any fun in high school eh?

The girl I had gotten most deeply involved with and had the most sex with looked great. We danced a few times and went right back to the snuggling passion of years ago, within reason, of course.

The wild thing about it was that I talked to several girls that had been transformed into wonderful surprises -- they had grown as people, they were interesting, more attractive, successful, witty, charming and fun. A couple of people who were drips remained unchanged by life, of course.

The disappointments and most boring were the men.

All in all it was terrific.

Apparently I had a better time in High School than I thought I did.

 

[CreamyLady]

Apparently I had a better time in High School than I thought I did.

I've actually spent time today, thinking about this.

In high school I read a lot; it was a solitary activity. I painted scenery for the school plays; also fairly solitary. Conversations seemed to consist of "Where's the burnt umber?" and, "So what color was T. Rex, exactly?"

I had one relatively close friend, but we didn't really click until our senior year, and she took an early graduation.

Except for Judy, I didn't interact with anyone enough to form a bond or connection, and I have no idea where she is today.

My conclusion after all this reflection was that very likely no one knows who the heck I am, and that painting scenery was fun.

I think I'll take a class in stage design at some point, and continue to miss the reunions.

 

[RonG]

My 20th is in September (Aarrgh!)

My 20th reunion is in the fall and I am dreading it. I have zero interest in seeing anyone and have successfully avoided all previous reunions. I figure if I really had any reason to stay in touch with anyone, I would have. I got out of high school, hit the road, and haven't gone back for more than a few days in the past twenty years.

I really can't think of a positive reason to go back. I don't need the validation of other people to tell me I turned out all right.

With all this negativity, why would I go? Well, the wife wants to see the people I went to school with and (gulp) she heard about my girlfriend from high school and wants to see her. I am planning to keep a razor blade handy for my wrists, just in case.