1st date

[LuvAznNurses]

what do you guys think are good places or good things to do for a first date i want something creative but fun i dont really like movie theaters since you always got jackasses beside you lol. man im such a people person but if you guys could help it would be appreciated.

 

[SnoopDog]

I'd love to tell you but I never had a real date.

Snoopy

 

[SweetErika]

This is really dependent on where you live, what's available, what the weather's like, what time the date is, what kind of relationship you have (good friends, meeting off the internet, etc.), what you both like, your money situation, and several other factors.

If it's a first meeting, I'm partial to grabbing a drink at a really cozy neighborhood bar and maybe going for a walk. Being a tourist in your own city can also be fun for a date.

 

[My Own Way]

First dates are going to be kinda awkward no matter where you go....but I always like to go to dinner, someplace kinda quiet where you can chat, but not so quiet that you could hear a pin drop. That way you can slowly get to know the person you're with, I also think you can tell a lot about a person by how they treat a waitstaff when you're at a resturant.

I don't know where you are, but there's always mini-golf...kinda childish I know, but it's always fun... You could always go to an outdoor music festival, a fair, a vinyard for wine tasting, maybe even a play where there's an intermission so you can talk. My suggestion would be to check out the Arts or Local sections of your newspaper see what's going on for the week then broach the subject with your date.

Hope this helps...

 

[Bridget69]

I would choose dinner somewhere.

 

[Crimson]

i like the dinner + activity combo. do either or both of you play pool? one of the best dates i ever had was being taught how to play pool - it's intimate, competitive, and you see how patient and funny a person can be.

generally, i like dates where one person teaches the other how to do something - does anything come to mind?

Speaking of funny - comedy club? That way, even if the acts are terrible, you can both make fun of them afterwards.

as SweetErika noted, it really depends on where you live and what's available. you might want to check the local paper for happenings. if you live in a larger city, check www.citysearch.com for fun date suggestions in your area and special events.

 

[bytor2112]

first date goes like this:

get her drunk

fuck her

cum on her face

thank her for a pleasant evening...

 

[dollface007]

I recently went on a low-key first date, and I ended up really enjoying it. He invited me out for a walk on a beautiful hiking path in our town, then we went out for coffee afterwards. It barely cost any money, we were both dressed in sweatshirts and jeans, and I didn't feel any of the usual pressure to impress, physically or otherwise.

 

[LuvAznNurses]

thanks for the advice i live in the midwest so it s getting cold now. looking for like music scene things in the area. yeah i was thinking mini golf too lol but for me it usually ends up with me throw the golf club at someones head lol.

 

[hausfrau]

Meet for coffee somewhere. Quiet, not smoky or loud, no long dinner to sit through if you don't hit it off, and if you do, have another alternative at the ready

 

[FinePhilly]

Go to a musical concert or something. Now that Christmas is approaching, there are usually a lot of symphonies and things like that depending on where you live.

It takes the pressure of too much conversation off, but then you can always go somewhere afterwards and talk about the concert, which provides a nice starting point for the conversation.

Plus music is just sexy......

 

[tigerjen]

Depending on where you live:

check out an art gallery or a local museum

go to a free concert

go to a jazz club to listen to some cool tunes and
have a drink or two, and share an appetizer

when the weather is good, take a walk along a local
beach (if you are near one like I am)

attend a wine-tasting

if you both enjoy sports, go to a sporting event

 

[LemonheadLover]

I think that you also should try to find out something about the person that you are going on the date with and see if they have any input, example, the hiking/ walk thing. I have horrible allergies to trees mold etc that are found in a wooded area, a walk in the woods or a hayride ? Absolutely no fun at all for me. I sneeze continually and get a horrific headache if my eyes don't close up I am lucky. A walk on the beach? No problem! Nothing to aggrevate me there. Plus if you are going to do something outdoors it is a good idea to give your date a heads up so they don't over/ under dress for the occassion.

I personally vote for the bar/ live music scene, but that was my interests when I still dated. (yup married now)

 

[ZOOMORPH]

For a great first date I drive my pickup truck into the desert around sunset and have a few cocktails..easing her into a heavy petting scenario with old motown music...during which I casually handcuff her to the steering wheel ...maybe slowly cut her clothes off..before some extended oral preparation of her fuckhole and.... the mandatory first date video taping....then we go with the flow....last time with her ending up howling back at coyotes..while dancing naked on the tailgate..with strobe lights going....

 

[Reba67]

I wouldn't want a movie for a first date either. If it's a first date and you don't know the person yet, then you need to get to know them a bit. In a movie, other than snogging, there's nothing to "do" with each other. Not to knock snogging, but sometimes I like to know a bit more before I do that.

 

[Feral_Intelligence]

I'll admit I don't date a lot, but I have one or two ideas for dates that some people might like.

State parks are a good idea if you both like being outdoors. The price is right because they are free, at least in my state they are. There are enough people around that you or her won't feel that akward trapped feeling, but you can find secluded spots if you want to be more intimiate. They also offer a lot of options. You can go swiming, hiking, look at the scenery or even take a tour led my the park naturalist.

The other option is some kind of exibit. For instance, if you have ever heard of body world it would be a good option. Body world is a traveling exibit where dead peoples bodies have been preserved and disected. It might sound gross, but it is really cool. They are possed so that you can look at people in different motions and see how the body looks on the inside doing things.

 

[Tyr51]

First dates should be limited in time with a definate time for stopping.
This is assuming, of course, that you're looking to have more dates and not looking for a one night hook up.

If you're looking for the latter? Dinner and a lot of drinks do tend to help.

But if it's the former....


Good call on staying away from the movie. The benefit of seeing a movie, of course, is that you have something to talk about. The draw back is that you spend most of your date specifically not talking to eachother.

I am a *big* supporter of the afternoon lunch or such as a first date.

1. It is casual. There is no pressure to really dress up, and you don't worry about whether or not to bring her flowers (if this is a woman you don't know? Don't . If it's someone you knew before pretty well and want to move it to another level? Ok).
2. It is focused on conversation. If you can't hold a conversation with this person, I expect you probably do not want to date them. It makes sense the first date should allow you to converse.
3. It doesn't extend into the evening and stops at a set time. "Hi! Want to go have lunch sometime?" We all go back to work after lunch, or go to our evening plans. No one expects to get a kiss after lunch as they go to the car, and no one wonders if they are going to be asked back to your place. If it's going badly? No problem! It will be over soon and no feelings are hurt! If it's going well? Ask her to dinner (or make her dinner) on the second or third date.

First dates are about gauging general interest and chemistry. The easier the environment, the better.

Go with lunch.

 

[Davetmat]

Tyr51 said it better than i could, but its spot on!