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[euphemistic]

I have a Dom

i'm looking for an understanding but firm dominant, someone genuinely enjoyable to talk to who doesn't need to play either a macho tough guy or condescending intellectual/pseudo-intellectual, or any character at all, because he's that confident in his dominance and probably comes across as just a friendly, fun, and even gentle guy.

i'm a long time browser, first time poster. i was always able to shake off the tingles i felt when i thought or read about submission, but i'm not meeting any of my goals (educational or personal or fitness or career) anymore because i'm so overwhelmed with life, and none of the traditional methods are working. i sincerely think a man's compassionate control or at least strong guidance would calm a lot of the noise.

i'm imagining something online, at least to start, with frequent video chat check-ins (but no recording, please). at some point, i would love to meet in person for a weekend or a week or something so i can serve you with my body (and receive some accrued physical punishment ), but i can't afford to travel right now (remember what i said about not achieving professional goals? ) so i would probably need to wait on that and focus on building a solid online dynamic.

Some initial ideas of what i think this submission would look like online: i'm fully naked for all of our video call check-ins, but you're not. this helps gently remind me who's in charge at all times and keeps me vulnerable. i talk to you about my goals and you tell me the tasks, aligned with my goals and also just tasks you want to assign me. i give you access to my Google Health information so you can see if i'm following the exercise and sleep rules. You control a long-distance vibrator to either reward or punish me, maybe even when i'm in public. You instruct me to place nipple clamps or similar as a punishment during our meetings and maybe also under clothes in public. You can control what i wear or don't wear, within reason (e.g. no underwear under skirts). You can make me masturbate in front of you, or take away masturbation privileges, as punishment. This is just a start-- i need your help but i want there to be more that is satisfying to you. i really want to please you.

i am new to this but not to the feelings and i'm very serious about it even though i'm scared. i'm 37 and live in New England. i'm not thin, at about 200 pounds and 5'5", but i wear a 40G bra so there's something to enjoy. i'm bisexual.

i'm looking for someone between 27-47 years old (no exceptions), patient with me as someone new to submission and also as a neurodivergent person with actual limitations. i want someone who is a leftist and feminist, but also knows he's the boss and doesn't feel the need to apologize for that. i hope he can exercise his authority without shaming. Something like "Ok, let's see, we agreed that x, and you did y, so now we have to z." Kind but matter of fact. Clean, single. Good with banter. Thinks generative AI is for losers. i'd love it if we also shared interests like indie music and movies, history, art, and language.

i know this is specific but i think you're out there and i hope you'll message me, and we'll see where it goes. Thank you

 

[Purple_Fronds]

Good luck, I would guess you should be getting lots of interest.

 

[12packAbs]

Hey Baby - do you want to be a good girl for me ?Lets chat but make sire your in position - panties only - nipples hard - legs spread

 

[remedial]

I have a Dom

i'm looking for an understanding but firm dominant, someone genuinely enjoyable to talk to who doesn't need to play either a macho tough guy or condescending intellectual/pseudo-intellectual, or any character at all, because he's that confident in his dominance and probably comes across as just a friendly, fun, and even gentle guy.

i'm a long time browser, first time poster. i was always able to shake off the tingles i felt when i thought or read about submission, but i'm not meeting any of my goals (educational or personal or fitness or career) anymore because i'm so overwhelmed with life, and none of the traditional methods are working. i sincerely think a man's compassionate control or at least strong guidance would calm a lot of the noise.

i'm imagining something online, at least to start, with frequent video chat check-ins (but no recording, please). at some point, i would love to meet in person for a weekend or a week or something so i can serve you with my body (and receive some accrued physical punishment ), but i can't afford to travel right now (remember what i said about not achieving professional goals? ) so i would probably need to wait on that and focus on building a solid online dynamic.

Some initial ideas of what i think this submission would look like online: i'm fully naked for all of our video call check-ins, but you're not. this helps gently remind me who's in charge at all times and keeps me vulnerable. i talk to you about my goals and you tell me the tasks, aligned with my goals and also just tasks you want to assign me. i give you access to my Google Health information so you can see if i'm following the exercise and sleep rules. You control a long-distance vibrator to either reward or punish me, maybe even when i'm in public. You instruct me to place nipple clamps or similar as a punishment during our meetings and maybe also under clothes in public. You can control what i wear or don't wear, within reason (e.g. no underwear under skirts). You can make me masturbate in front of you, or take away masturbation privileges, as punishment. This is just a start-- i need your help but i want there to be more that is satisfying to you. i really want to please you.

i am new to this but not to the feelings and i'm very serious about it even though i'm scared. i'm 37 and live in New England. i'm not thin, at about 200 pounds and 5'5", but i wear a 40G bra so there's something to enjoy. i'm bisexual.

i'm looking for someone between 27-47 years old (no exceptions), patient with me as someone new to submission and also as a neurodivergent person with actual limitations. i want someone who is a leftist and feminist, but also knows he's the boss and doesn't feel the need to apologize for that. i hope he can exercise his authority without shaming. Something like "Ok, let's see, we agreed that x, and you did y, so now we have to z." Kind but matter of fact. Clean, single. Good with banter. Thinks generative AI is for losers. i'd love it if we also shared interests like indie music and movies, history, art, and language.

i know this is specific but i think you're out there and i hope you'll message me, and we'll see where it goes. Thank you

First line of your post says you have a Dom. The two thousand words after it describe a man who clearly isn't him. Either he's not the one, or you wrote a wish as a fact because it was easier than admitting it wasn't true yet.

Either way. Noted, Now the thing that actually matters.

You said you're overwhelmed. You said the traditional methods aren't working. You said compassionate control might calm the noise. That's not submission, that's a woman whose bandwidth ran out, admitting it in a forum full of men who'd rather hear about the nipple clamps. Here's the frame I work in, and I'll be specific because you were specific:

No shaming. Ever. Not for slipped goals, not for missed workouts, not for asking. When you miss something, we reset and move. Kind, matter-of-fact. "We agreed to x, you did y, now we do z." No lecture. No disappointed sigh. No punishment-by-absence.

I don't play a character. You said you wanted a man who doesn't need to. That's the only kind I know how to be.

I need one thing from you first. Not commitment to a dynamic. Not your health data. Not a video call. Not your cup size.

The one thing that's loudest in your head this week.

That's it. One thing. And if it takes you three days to answer, that's fine too. I don't need you to be fast. I need you to be honest.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

First line of your post says you have a Dom. The two thousand words after it describe a man who clearly isn't him. Either he's not the one, or you wrote a wish as a fact because it was easier than admitting it wasn't true yet.

Either way. Noted, Now the thing that actually matters.

You said you're overwhelmed. You said the traditional methods aren't working. You said compassionate control might calm the noise. That's not submission, that's a woman whose bandwidth ran out, admitting it in a forum full of men who'd rather hear about the nipple clamps. Here's the frame I work in, and I'll be specific because you were specific:

No shaming. Ever. Not for slipped goals, not for missed workouts, not for asking. When you miss something, we reset and move. Kind, matter-of-fact. "We agreed to x, you did y, now we do z." No lecture. No disappointed sigh. No punishment-by-absence.

I don't play a character. You said you wanted a man who doesn't need to. That's the only kind I know how to be.

I need one thing from you first. Not commitment to a dynamic. Not your health data. Not a video call. Not your cup size.

The one thing that's loudest in your head this week.

That's it. One thing. And if it takes you three days to answer, that's fine too. I don't need you to be fast. I need you to be honest.

First line of her post says she has a dom. The rest of the post is very clearly stricken through and you can see that the post was edited about a week after it was posted.

Also, don’t assign tasks to people who haven’t consented to submit to you. That’s super bad form. I think you lay out a great dynamic there that will be appealing to others, but she’s under no obligation to reply, quickly or not.