DoItAgain1144
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Thanks. I will use what I wrote or something similar.Just explain it to her as you have with this post. As you've written it well.
If she still doesn't get it, I'm afraid, she's vanilla. It's amazing that she's open to suggestion (please don't let her read "50 shades of grey." I got 40 pages in and wanted to kill myself) but if she doesn't get off on the idea, then it's dead in the water and you have to accept that she's vanilla and that she won't change.
Don't pressure her or rush her. If you're a good Dominant then you will guide her and mentor her. The key is communication. Explain things to her. Let her know that a D/s dynamic is about duality.
Ultimately, though, you have to respect her decision.
Thank you. This is really helpful.Some thoughts from a woman really into orgasm denial.
If you’re not planning to do long(er) term denial from the get to, I don’t think calling it orgasm denial is a good idea. It makes it sound like you’re depriving her of something, so I understand why she would struggle to see the fun in that for her. If the plan is to give her the orgasms she likes when you have sex, just at a little later point of the sesh, maybe calling it just “teasing” or something instead of denial might work better.
I also question how much you’ll need to discuss this before doing. At the beginning the “denial” can be literally seconds or minutes. When she gets close, maybe tell her how much you love seeing her at the top of her excitement, just moments before she cums. That she looks so sexy when she is feeling so good. Try to prolong that edge a little bit, make her notice how good she feels just before having that orgasm. And then push her over the edge.
You can also have a discussion while you’re doing it and showing her what orgasm denial could be. Get her to describe how she’s feeling, maybe that’ll help her understand the appeal better. If you need some sort of a non-sexual comparison to help her see the point, maybe tell her it’s similar to when you’re cooking something you know will taste amazing. You’ll get to enjoy the aromas while it cooks and it’ll make your mouth salivate etc. And when you finally have the meal, the anticipation and care put into the cooking will make the meal taste even better.
If you’re into long(er) term denial, maybe leave that discussion until later point. Focus on talking about controlling her orgasms within each sex session first and really make it a point to tell her that you controlling her orgasms doesn’t mean she doesn’t get to have orgasms. For many women it can be difficult to cum for several reasons. The thought of having orgasms taken away might not sound too appealing.
Really, I can’t stress that enough. Make sure she understands you’re not thinking about taking away her orgasms, just rescheduling them a little.
Do it, and see if she finds it fun.how do I explain the intensity she can feel when I take her hands away, take her to the edge over and over, make her beg, make her plead for it, and then I eventually bring her over the edge. I’ve done this before with other women. It’s just different when it’s my wife. Does that make sense? She’s not as experienced in this department. But she is okay to try new things.
Anyway. Advice on how to convince her that edging her half to death is going to be fun?