10 questions

[cymbidia]

1. bondage... helplessness, vulnerability
2. SM... pain
3. domination... control/ obedience... perhaps service
4. humiliation... degradation, humility or subservience... or whatever you want to call it.
5. fetish

Sandia, i've stood back and listened as you breezed in here from no place. You immediately began pulling a lot of strings. You admitted that you like to stir up trouble. You've admitted your interest in trolls and trolling. On numerous occasions, you've expressed quite plainly the fact that you don't hold our community standards with any kinda respect or tolerance just because we do. You're not going to touch the M thread, good stuff or not, and no one can make you - just because, apparently, we hold it in high regard. I've watched you try to encourage those who might not be comfortable here into a pugnacious attitude of ownership. The list goes on and on.

You seem to like games and head trips. Let's play a game, shall we?

Ten questions, Sandia, from me to you.

1. Who are you? Give us a little bio. (BTW, that's the sort of thing there's a lot of in the M thread, and in the Newbies thread too, places you've avoided in any meaningful manner, for some reason.)
2. What kind of BDSM background do you have? In other words, are you sub, switch, or dominant, Sandia - and don't duck the question this time.
3. Have you participated in BDSM sexuality in a skin-to-skin environment with another person? When? How much? What's your overall experience level with it? Is it something you want more of or not?
4. Were you any of our unregistered trolls, Sandia? Be honest. Now is the time for that.
5. What's your online experience as far as memberships in forums/chat rooms devoted to BDSM?
6. Are you registered at Lit under another nick?
7. What do you do for a living?
8. Got a particular ax to grind while you're here among us? What is it, if so , and why did you come here with it?
9. Do you think of yourself as an asshole sometimes? Why or why not?
10. Do you think of yourself as a member of this community? Why or why not?

These questions are meant sincerely and offered to you without malice of any kind. I just thought it was time for you to get to answer some questions. You ask so many of us.


edited to add that this is cym the forum member, the community member, talking - not
cymbidia
BDSM Forum Moderator.

Since a few of you seem to be having some sudden trouble discerning the two, i've decided that until it's distinct and obvious to those who are currently befuddled by such a complicated matter when i'm doing the moderator thing vs. when i'm just being a person, i'll fucking identify myself as one or the other in all my posts, okay? That way all y'all who are having the trouble can keep up with the rest of us who can already tell what moderator stuff is and what regular community member stuff is. Just consider it a little favor from me to you.

Risia and WD are free to do whatever the fuck they please about this, of course. We aren't joined at the hip.

 

[SubbieHubbie]

Actually, they sound (on the whole) like excellent questions for the newbie thread, cym. Good background on people. Would it be appropriate to copy them over there and get us newbies to answer them? Just a thought.

 

[lilfrk]

I just wanna say, just because I can, cym darlin' I love it when you get like this. Just love it.

 

[cymbidia]

It takes a whole fucking lot to get me here as you well know, but i'm here now. No doubt about it.






edited to add:
You just focus on doing the things you need to do, A.
Our hearts and thoughts are with you and those you love.

 

[lilfrk]

I do know that it takes a lot to get you to this point. And I'm sorry that it happened. I'm also getting the feeling that he's not going to answer you.









Things are slowly getting back to an even keel here. Right now this is a lovely distraction. Thank you again for your kind words.

 

[cellis]

I just wanna say, just because I can, cym darlin' I love it when you get like this. Just love it.

You are just so Domme when you get like this and I am sorry that it had to get to this point.

 

[WriterDom]

Risia and WD are free to do whatever the fuck they please about this, of course. We aren't joined at the hip.

I can think of better places to be joined.

 

[Sandia]

sigh. I'm sorry that it got to this point.

I should not respond right now, since I'm feeling hurt and angry.

But.

I'll say that I came here with good will, and hopeful that I would fit in.

I will say I've never been an unregistered except the one joking post I made on the subject. But I made it clear it was me.

I don't think I have to answer your questions when they're put in such a mean spirited way. I've never asked a question like that.

I did answer the set of questions you asked before, openly and (I hope) intelligently.

I'm sorry that it came to this.

sigh.

I'll think about it some more.

Sandia.

 

[monster666]

Sandia,

I don't think cym asked them in a mean spirited way. I think she is just trying to come to an understanding with you if she can, and it's going to take honest answers to some difficult questions.

Try to understand things from her perspective by applying the same sensitivity that would would to your own, and it may help.

sigh. I'm sorry that it got to this point.

I should not respond right now, since I'm feeling hurt and angry.

But.

I'll say that I came here with good will, and hopeful that I would fit in.

I will say I've never been an unregistered except the one joking post I made on the subject. But I made it clear it was me.

I don't think I have to answer your questions when they're put in such a mean spirited way. I've never asked a question like that.

I did answer the set of questions you asked before, openly and (I hope) intelligently.

I'm sorry that it came to this.

sigh.

I'll think about it some more.

Sandia.

 

[cymbidia]

monster, you're a dear, good, sweet, incredibly kind man and i appreciate your gallant friendship more than i can say. However, troublingly, in this matter, Sandia is right.

I was mean-spirited in this post to him.
I was thoughtless and i was unkind.

I apologize, Sandia.

I had no right - real, imaginary, ethical, or moral - to dump on you the way i did, whether i was acting as just another community member or in a more officious capacity.

I'm sorry that i pushed things to come to this. I'm sorry for hurting your feelings in this particularly callous manner. I know how to manipulate meaning and how to be cruel with words. I choose not to use them in such a patently barbarous manner most of the time. Sometimes, though, my baser instincts take hold and then i lash out cruelly, paying no heed to the consequences.

For doing that to you, i ask you pardon.
cym

 

[WillowPuss]

cym ... (((hugs))) to you!
I think you had every right to ask what you did ... cos I would sure like to know too!


Sandia ... please satisfy my curiosity one one point (and I know that is what killed the cat) ... how old are you?

Sometime, I get the impression you are a mature 20's something, and then at others you act like a class clown and you seem like a teenager trying to look big.
Perhaps its just me, not liking enigmas ....?

So, pretty please ... how old are you?

 

[SubbieHubbie]

Mebbe I'm just weird, but I'm still debating whether to use them as a way of making a 'safe bio' over on the newbie thread. Given, as I mentioned there, certain professions could be lost by being too open, I found it hard to say much of anything. Yet the questions you asked, Cym, actually provide an easy and safe set to respond to in introduction, giving background on who a person is and where their head is at.

Weird is me

SH

 

[RisiaSkye]

Maybe we can diffuse the initial heat of this by making it a game everyone can play. What do you think? I'll start. I like questionnaires; they make me feel important and stuff.

1. Who are you? Give us a little bio.

I'm Risia, smartass and sometime scholar, married with no children to that lurking figure in the corner, MasterMe. I'm a grad student, teacher, writer, and reigning white trash princess of the Forum.

2. What kind of BDSM background do you have? In other words, are you sub, switch, or dominant- and don't duck the question this time.

Sheesh, okay, I'll confess: Switch, with tendencies toward aggressive Dominance w/little sadism and bottomish, often contradictory masochistic urges threaded through my submission.

3. Have you participated in BDSM sexuality in a skin-to-skin environment with another person? When? How much? What's your overall experience level with it? Is it something you want more of or not?

Yes.
Often over the last 10 years or so. Within the last hour, even.
My overall experience level is a thing of profoundly subjective opinion, but I would call myself medium experienced.
I want more. Lots more.

4. Were you any of our unregistered trolls? Be honest. Now is the time for that.

I've never trolled this forum, though I have on occasion posted something so long winded that I was timed out and an "Unregistered" got slapped on it.

5. What's your online experience as far as memberships in forums/chat rooms devoted to BDSM?

You're looking at it. I've never even really looked at another forum dedicated to this kinda talk, or lifestyle discussion of any kind, though cym did once drag me into a BDSM chatroom to see what she meant by the conventions of the convo. I don't think that whole hour I spent there qualifies me as much of an expert, however.
I read elsewhere, but I only talk about it here. This is an almost exclusively real-life phenomenon for me.

6. Are you registered at Lit under another nick?

Nope. I like having one persona. Simplicity is most enjoyable to me, in all things but analysis and sex.

7. What do you do for a living?

I write.
What I do for money, however, is teach writing.

8. Got a particular ax to grind while you're here among us? What is it, if so , and why did you come here with it?

Sometimes I get insufficient praise and offers of warm, willing bottoms to spank from fellow community members. Slowly, however, I'm learning to cope with the strain of such denial. I wouldn't have brought it up, but you did ask.

9. Do you think of yourself as an asshole sometimes? Why or why not?

Yes.
Because sometimes I'm an asshole.

10. Do you think of yourself as a member of this community? Why or why not?

Yes.
Because I am a member of this community, warts and all.
(Well, you *did* know I'm a witch. I'm bound to have a wart or two, aren't I? )

 

[Quint]

Ooh! I wanna play, too!

Before I do, I'd like to humbly offer my bum up to Risia, to abuse as she sees fit. o)

1. Who are you? Give us a little bio.

I am Quint, the occasionally playful, more often serious, always sincere devotee to the English Language and All That Jazz. I'm 18 and committed for life...to Hunny, that is, although I've gotten some really quite touching offers from the Institute. I'm introspective and I love life passionately. I'm also fond of talking.

2. What kind of BDSM background do you have?

I am quite submissive and have been ever since I started exploring skin-to-skin at the tender age of 16. I may play at Dommeing when I am with a female because it's kind of fun and I'm used to being the gentleman with girls anyway, but that is not who I consider myself and it isn't where the bulk of my passion lies.

3. Have you participated in BDSM sexuality in a skin-to-skin environment with another person? When? How much? What's your overall experience level with it? Is it something you want more of or not?

Yes, for 1/9 of my life (and growing) on an irregular but definitely present basis. Even when we aren't playing, I retrospectively realize that an awful lot of who I am in public is based on power exchange, which is a kinda neat feeling. I love being who I am, and I consider my sexuality to be a very large part of that. I never would consider a totally nilla lifestyle. I don't think such a thing is possible for me anymore.

4. Were you any of our unregistered trolls?

Nope! Never trolled and rarely said anything that I regretted later. I kind of like it here.

5. What's your online experience as far as memberships in forums/chat rooms devoted to BDSM?

::cringes:: Um, as a terribly underage newbie I would explore chatrooms and try to coerce people into having cyber with me, and I almost always wanted to be beaten (even before I had any idea what BDSM meant. Oh yes, I was SO not-legal). It was silly and fun and I might have learned something from it. Other than that embarrassing anecdote, this is and will always be my only BDSM home.

6. Are you registered at Lit under another nick?

No but I wish I were because I have a really cute name that I'd like to be known as! Quint was rather spur-of-the-moment. Yes, yes, Quintessential is a pretty neat word, but MininoMimado means "pampered pussycat" in Spanish and I just like it. Maybe you guys can start referring to me as Minnie?

7. What do you do for a living?

Right now I'm professionally on vacation, but I am a full-time student in college and otherwise unemployed, except of course for my editing and sporadic writing here.

8. Got a particular ax to grind while you're here among us? What is it, if so , and why did you come here with it?

The ax I have to grind is not with the "us" that you speak for, Cym. The Lit Community as I acknowledge it (my "us," and Cym's as well)is ideal for me, and the other "us"es can just go do something not very good for their health!

9. Do you think of yourself as an asshole sometimes? Why or why not?

I really don't and it hurts surprisingly when other people accuse me of it. I have a very thin skin and I bruise easily. I think I am considerate to those that deserve it. My only problem (which rarely shows on the Forum, where I have time and presence of mind to edit myself) is an occasional tendency to careless words, which I am REALLY trying to work on eliminating. But generally speaking? No, I'm not an asshole.

10. Do you think of yourself as a member of this community? Why or why not?

There have been moments of insecurity but to them I now say, "Bah!" I love this place. I love the interaction between people I respect and I love the constant challenge to evolve. I also believe that I contribute to this environment, which may be nothing but ego projection but I doubt it. There is give and there is take. Yes, I think that I belong here.

 

[Guest]

Well, with thanks to RisiaSkye (love your answers) for taking the plunge and going first, I'm gonna followup with my own response as I hinted earlier.

1. Who are you? Give us a little bio. (BTW, that's the sort of thing there's a lot of in the M thread, and in the Newbies thread too, places you've avoided in any meaningful manner, for some reason.)

34, male, married to a non-forum person, mostly semi-vanilla relationship but easy to pick out the more dominant, more submissive personalities. Pagan. Studying eventually to become a therapist.

2. What kind of BDSM background do you have? In other words, are you sub, switch, or dominant, Sandia - and don't duck the question this time.

More submissive, and if you wish to talk sexuality and general life purely between a sub and an equal. That said, I do take command in certain places where it is necessary (dealth with elsewhere), and could enjoy being a dom too... just not as natural to me.

3. Have you participated in BDSM sexuality in a skin-to-skin environment with another person? When? How much? What's your overall experience level with it? Is it something you want more of or not?

Yes, once - hope it happens much more, and that was soft (the result of losing a bet on a sporting event... wow, I need to lose more often!). Can up that to 3 if you wish to include light-tying/blindfoldoing (which are, after all, bonds... even if lighter than most would include under this umbrella).

4. Were you any of our unregistered trolls? Be honest. Now is the time for that.

Nope - I think I may have been posting unregistered when I first posted something on lit over a year ago, but I can't remember. Recently, the only unregistered I have posted is when I forgot to log in. Even then I followed up to say it was me.

5. What's your online experience as far as memberships in forums/chat rooms devoted to BDSM?

This is it - and a couple of roleplay stories on the SRP board under my other alias.

6. Are you registered at Lit under another nick?

Yes. The type of conversation involved on the BDSM forum has a 1/100000 chance of being risky for my spouse's job. For that reason alone I keep my id here completely private.

7. What do you do for a living?

Student and male housewife.

8. Got a particular ax to grind while you're here among us? What is it, if so , and why did you come here with it?

Never an axe to grind, sounds like too much hardwork. I sometimes wonder if some of my questions come across as pushy, inflammatory, etc. That is never my intention, but particularly where words and jargon are concerned, I have a fascination with why people use certain phrases as opposed to common, everyday words and what they mean by them

9. Do you think of yourself as an asshole sometimes? Why or why not?

No.... I think of myself as an asshole most of the time, not sometimes. Why? Well, if you want to get psychological, we could go into the effects of years of child abuse. On the other hand, I know I'm weird, and weird is what many describe as an asshole one way or another. Go figger. Now, do I view myself as deliberately offensive - no.

10. Do you think of yourself as a member of this community? Why or why not?

I'm here, for now at least I am staying, I respect the knowledge of some members of the board, the openness of all members of the board. I guess I view myself as an outside member of the community. Not so fully into the lifestyle/sexuality as to be able to class myself as a central member though.

 

[SubbieHubbie]

And THAT is an example of my screwing up and not being logged in when I post. Sorry.

 

[Cirrus]

1. Who are you? Give us a little bio. (BTW, that's the sort of thing there's a lot of in the M thread, and in the Newbies thread too, places you've avoided in any meaningful manner, for some reason.)
2. What kind of BDSM background do you have? In other words, are you sub, switch, or dominant.
3. Have you participated in BDSM sexuality in a skin-to-skin environment with another person? When? How much? What's your overall experience level with it? Is it something you want more of or not?
4. Were you any of our unregistered trolls?
5. What's your online experience as far as memberships in forums/chat rooms devoted to BDSM?
6. Are you registered at Lit under another nick?
7. What do you do for a living?
8. Got a particular ax to grind while you're here among us? What is it, if so , and why did you come here with it?
9. Do you think of yourself as an asshole sometimes? Why or why not?
10. Do you think of yourself as a member of this community? Why or why not?

In the spirit, I'll go too...

1. Check the newbies thread. Posted to it last night.
2. I don't have much background, but I've always known I'm sub...maybe, and it's a big maybe, switch under the right circumstances.
3. Yes, within the last month, about half the time we have sex, I'm a novice, so is He, and hell yes I want more!!!
4. Nope. Only ever trolled in fun, and not to hurt, and only on the GB.
5. Next to nil but I'm learning.
6. Nope.
7. I may or may not be a college student with a full time maintainence job.
8. Yes I do...why do you all have to be so experienced and friendly? HMMM?????
9. Yep, but usually not without provocation. Push me too far and you'll regret your mother ever meeting your father. On the rare occasion I take someone's head off without a reason, I always try to make it right.
10. I dunno. In time maybe I will be, but right now I just see myself on the fringes and in the learning stages.

 

[lilredwolph]

My turn,

1. Who are you? Give us a little bio.

I'm a 36 yr old sub, normally very bratty (but not here, I don't think my humor comes acrossed good in text). I am quiet and don't say much, but I am a sponge by nature and absorb everything around me.

2. What kind of BDSM background do you have? In other words, are you sub, switch, or dominant, .

As said above I am a sub, but with an unrealized sadistic thought pattern that I normally end up turning on myself.

3. Have you participated in BDSM sexuality in a skin-to-skin environment with another person? When? How much? What's your overall experience level with it? Is it something you want more of or not?

I always bottomed in s/m type relationships starting around 15 yrs old, at 20 I stumbled upon my 1st Dom and fell into a 7 yr collared D/s relationship with him. After that I was in a short lived relationship with another Dom, that peaked fast than fizzled, aand try as I might I couldn't find a Dom that I clicked with so at that point I climbed on to a 'Nilla train to nowhere for 7 yrs which was distine to crash, which it did almost 3 yrs ago, I found my way back to my first Dom which is where I was at until last week.

4. Were you any of our unregistered trolls, Sandia? Be honest. Now is the time for that.

Nope, never.

5. What's your online experience as far as memberships in forums/chat rooms devoted to BDSM?

None really, I don't understand it, (personally)

6. Are you registered at Lit under another nick?

No

7. What do you do for a living?

SAHM due to an injury at work 2½ yrs ago

8. Got a particular ax to grind while you're here among us? What is it, if so , and why did you come here with it?

No

9. Do you think of yourself as an asshole sometimes? Why or why not?

Yup, but I think everyone has their moments.

10. Do you think of yourself as a member of this community? Why or why not?

I kind of feel like a visitor on a Student Visa

 

[cellis]

1. Who are you? Give us a little bio. (BTW, that's the sort of thing there's a lot of in the M thread, and in the Newbies thread too, places you've avoided in any meaningful manner, for some reason.)

I am a 48 year old bi-female in a committed relationship with Himself.


2. What kind of BDSM background do you have? In other words, are you sub, switch, or dominant.

I guess you can classify me as a switch, which puts me in some pretty good company. I am submissive to Himself, but I do have this need to dominate other women. Go figure.

3. Have you participated in BDSM sexuality in a skin-to-skin environment with another person? When? How much? What's your overall experience level with it? Is it something you want more of or not?

I was doing this before I even knew it had a name. And I did not know it had a name until a couple of years ago. There was always some form of bondage in my previous relationships and I was always submissive in the past.

4. Were you any of our unregistered trolls? Be honest. Now is the time for that.

Nope. I don't think that I ever posted as unregisitered unless it might have been my very first post. I have never been a troll. Although from time to time I do lurk on the GB.


5. What's your online experience as far as memberships in forums/chat rooms devoted to BDSM?

I have a membership at alt.com that I maintain and one at bondage.com. The only chat rooms I have ever been to are the one at alt before I met himself and once when I was still looking and uncertain if Himself was the one, I went to chatropolis on cym's recommendation. I just thought if that is what I have to do to meet someone, it is never going to happen.


6. Are you registered at Lit under another nick?

No.


7. What do you do for a living?

I work for an international company that does market research. I do quality assurance/customer satisfaction surverys.


8. Got a particular ax to grind while you're here among us? What is it, if so , and why did you come here with it?

No and if I did have a problem, I have a mouth and know how to use it.


9. Do you think of yourself as an asshole sometimes? Why or why not?

Yes, aren't most of us?


10. Do you think of yourself as a member of this community? Why or why not?

Yes, I consider myself a member of this community and have since the first time i stumbled onto the old mother board, almost a year ago. I was made to feel welcome from the first. I feel this is my home.

 

[WillowPuss]

Thought I would give the questions a go. I did start my life on this forum in the New Faces thread - but I seem to know you all much better than you know me (been reading the M thread!)

OK here goes ....

1. Who are you? Give us a little bio.

Please call me willow.
I am 45; *groan* married to Robuck since Sept 77; have two kids (there birth certificates tell me they are 18 and 16 ... I am not so sure tho!); I am a frustrated teacher - by which I mean, I would love to have that formal bit of paper that would allow me to teach, but can't afford to go to uni; I started my working life as an accountant, and have done various jobs since - right now I am seeking employment; am recovering from a bout of clinical depression bought on by trying to manage my Dad who develpoed dementia and work full time and run a home and ...

God, wish you hadn't asked now, I bet!

2. What kind of BDSM background do you have? In other words, are you sub, switch, or dominant?

I am a submissive.
I haven't much of a BDSM background cos I have only recently discovered what 'it' was called. (I can be a bit slow on the uptake sometimes!)

3. Have you participated in BDSM sexuality in a skin-to-skin environment with another person? When? How much? What's your overall experience level with it? Is it something you want more of or not?

Yes, I have participate in skin-to-skin. Robuck, my husband, is my Dom/Master (whatever label you care to put on him). Last time was about an hour ago in a phone call! How much ... all the time.
Overall experience is not huge - as I said above ... only just found out about BDSM.
Something I want more of? ohhhhhhhhhh yesssssssssssss. (please! almost forgot me manners there!)

4. Were you any of our unregistered trolls? Be honest. Now is the time for that.

No! Absolutely not! Actually - I didn't even know what a troll was, other than that mythical creature in fairy tales. *sigh*

5. What's your online experience as far as memberships in forums/chat rooms devoted to BDSM?

I did go along to sexchat.com and bondage.com trying to find like minded people. What I found were some (not so) great pretenders. I did signed up for a couple of MSN communities before finding THIS place. Ohhhhhhh how lovely to be home!

6. Are you registered at Lit under another nick?

No.

7. What do you do for a living?

Right now ... nothing
I would love to be a published writer one day ... but right now I would settle for almost any job that brings in some much needed money.

8. Got a particular ax to grind while you're here among us? What is it, if so , and why did you come here with it?

No axe to grind here.
In general life, my only axe would be along the lines of ... why can't people just be more polite to each other, respect each other more. Good manners don't cost anything!

9. Do you think of yourself as an asshole sometimes? Why or why not?

I don't think so. I would die a thousand deaths if somebody thought that of me. But, I wonder if my definition of what an asshole is, difers from others.
But I would hate it if somebody thought me an absolute crass idiot by something I had said, written or done.

10. Do you think of yourself as a member of this community? Why or why not?

Yes. Yes please, if you will have me.
Why ... because it just feels like home. Somewhere I can be me and not hide part of me.





Apologies to all if I went on a bit much. I do do that at times ...

 

[SexyChele]

Hello all! I know it's been awhile since I've visited with y'all, but when I wandered in today, this looked too interesting to pass up!


1. Who are you? Give us a little bio. (BTW, that's the sort of thing there's a lot of in the M thread, and in the Newbies thread too, places you've avoided in any meaningful manner, for some reason.)

I'm Chele (pronounced as "shell"), and I am 42 years old, living in So Calif. I work for a govt agency, but I have always felt I'd either do better as a travel writer or chef. I am not married, and have no children. But I do have a cat who thinks he's a teenager, and two dogs who are hell bent on driving me crazy some days!

2. What kind of BDSM background do you have? In other words, are you sub, switch, or dominant.

Sub - most certainly. I have tried to be dominant a few times when asked to, but have always felt uncomfortable in the role. Plus, I always find myself asking, "What do you want me to do now?" Doesn't work well. I'm a sub, and very happy to be one.


3. Have you participated in BDSM sexuality in a skin-to-skin environment with another person? When? How much? What's your overall experience level with it? Is it something you want more of or not?

Yes, off and on over a period of 10 years. Not as often or as much as I would like, and I would still be considered a "babe in arms" compared to some here. Still, most people have a tendency to think I know much more than I actually do as I've taken the time to read and study the lifestyle, as well as talk to people who are actively involved in it.

4. Were you any of our unregistered trolls? Be honest. Now is the time for that.

Nope, never been and unregistered troll - I sign my name to everything, even things I know will get me into hot water with folks.

5. What's your online experience as far as memberships in forums/chat rooms devoted to BDSM?

There are a couple of BDSM chatrooms that I frequent on a regular basis. It's difficult for me to feel 100% comfortable because I feel everyone has more experience than me. But I try to be respectful and learn. (Which is probably why people outside the lifestyle think I know more than I have experienced)

6. Are you registered at Lit under another nick?

Yes. One name, and I made one post under that name months ago on the SRP forum. I found, even with that one post, keeping up two identities was going to be way more difficult and time-consuming than I had time for and decided to simply use this one all the time.


7. What do you do for a living?

Govt employee, working with databases and running reports. Fascinating stuff. No. Really. It is! (And I keep telling myself that every morning - maybe one day it will sink it!)


8.Got a particular ax to grind while you're here among us? What is it, if so , and why did you come here with it?

I know this was intended for another person, but no, no axe here to grind with any folks at Lit.


9. Do you think of yourself as an asshole sometimes? Why or why not?

Oh gawd YES! I can be a very emotional person, and sometimes that gets the better of me. I'll respond, either verbally or in writing, with my emotions and then think about what I said later. Chances are, I was a total asshole. Also, I can be a royal bitch when the mood settles on me.

10. Do you think of yourself as a member of this community? Why or why not?

This one is hard. I've always felt welcome here, have never had anyone say or do anything hateful to me. I feel comfortable posting here. My only problem is, I don't get to visit this forum as often as I would like, and I get to post even less. I think some of that is due to my own lack of experience and the feeling that every one else has more than me. (And I don't always want to be an asshole!) But I do have to admit that, in addition to the "Author's Hangout", this forum has a group of people who are warm and friendly, willing to accept "newbies" into their midst, answer questions, and hold intelligent conversations. It's a joy to to be here - I just wish there were more hours in the day and that I could contribute intelligently to more threads.



I know you meant this for another reason, cym, but thank you. It's nice to "meet" everyone here!

 

[lovetoread]

1. Who are you? Give us a little bio.

I am LTR,I am shacking up with my dom,a student again,a so-so writer,and a very harried person at this moment.

2. What kind of BDSM background do you have? In other words, are you sub, switch, or dominant.

I am a sub.

3. Have you participated in BDSM sexuality in a skin-to-skin environment with another person? When? How much? What's your overall experience level with it? Is it something you want more of or not?

Yes. See above. Am shaking up with my dom. I have been in this for a short time. I like learning as I go.


4. Were you any of our unregistered trolls?

Nope never been a troll. But once,there was this secret crush thread....


5. What's your online experience as far as memberships in forums/chat rooms devoted to BDSM?

This is my first,thanks.



6. Are you registered at Lit under another nick?

I am,but since I cant remember the name,does it count?



7. What do you do for a living?

I am a SAHM and part time student.


8. Got a particular ax to grind while you're here among us? What is it, if so , and why did you come here with it?

Nope no axes. When I think of one,I'll let you know.


9. Do you think of yourself as an asshole sometimes? Why or why not?

Gawd yes. I am southern,its an artform.


10. Do you think of yourself as a member of this community? Why or why not?

Yes,cause i wont leave.

 

[Todd-'o'-Vision]

Oh, oh, oh can I play to?

1. Who are you? Give us a little bio.

Todd Brian Forgrave, Woodstock, New Brunswick.

Ages 1-17 Militaristic Athiest
Ages 18-27 Wierd Fundamental Christian
Ages 1-27 {and counting} Virgin in every sense of the word.

2. What kind of BDSM background do you have? In other words, are you sub, switch, or dominant, Sandia - and don't duck the question this time.

I tried to tie up and spank Cym on another thread
I had RisiaSky Spank me on another thread.
I think I would be a no-pian-recieved Sub or a no pain given Dom.

3. Have you participated in BDSM sexuality in a skin-to-skin environment with another person? When? How much? What's your overall experience level with it? Is it something you want more of or not?

Nope
Never
None
Zilch
Maybe a little more as long as it don't hurt

4. Were you any of our unregistered trolls, Sandia? Be honest. Now is the time for that.

Nope I post under a registered nick at all times.

5. What's your online experience as far as memberships in forums/chat rooms devoted to BDSM?

Just here

6. Are you registered at Lit under another nick?

Yes,
God the Father
bobtoad777
Todd{bf}{-'o'-Vision}
Owen

7. What do you do for a living?

Just what I wanna for how much I wanna do it for.

8. Got a particular ax to grind while you're here among us? What is it, if so , and why did you come here with it?

Yeah, I do, Why won't any of the hot women in this forum take a vaacation and come to my house and train me? or at least send me a two way plane ticket for me to go to them for training.

9. Do you think of yourself as an asshole sometimes? Why or why not?

I have one but I never try to be one.

But I have often been told that at least assholes are useful once in a while.

10. Do you think of yourself as a member of this community? Why or why not?

Maybe an inside lurker, relgion/christianity setter righter.


So what do I win?

 

[SierraMoon]

ok, here goes...

1. Who are you? Give us a little bio.

i am sierra, single, 35 year old sub from Michigan, new to the BDSM world, but am learning fairly fast, i think....

2. What kind of BDSM background do you have? In other words, are you sub, switch, or dominant

sub, with some switch tendencies, i'm told...

3. Have you participated in BDSM sexuality in a skin-to-skin environment with another person? When? How much? What's your overall experience level with it? Is it something you want more of or not?

yes, i've been skin to skin.... only twice, so far, but want much more of it!!

4. Were you any of our unregistered trolls ? Be honest. Now is the time for that.

Have never trolled.. didn't even know what it was, til a month or so back.... and, only been unregistered, when i didn't realize i wasn't logged in...

5. What's your online experience as far as memberships in forums/chat rooms devoted to BDSM?

i have personals on both alt and bondage.com, but don't belong to any other forums/chatrooms.... tried bondage's chat once, and couldn't follow it... so, haven't been back.

6. Are you registered at Lit under another nick?

nope.. just this one... i'll always be sierra

7. What do you do for a living?

unemployed right now, playing nanny to my friend's 2 daughters

8. Got a particular ax to grind while you're here among us? What is it, if so , and why did you come here with it?

nope.. no axes to grind here... i'm very laid back, and like the way this forum is run

9. Do you think of yourself as an asshole sometimes? Why or why not?

i can be a sarcastic asshole in rl, but try not to bring that attitude in here

10. Do you think of yourself as a member of this community? Why or why not?

i hope i am considered a member of this community, i love everyone here, and have learned so much from all of you!! This is honestly my home away from home...

edited to add... one of these days, i will get this quote thing down pat...... maybe

 

[monster666]

my stuff

1. Who are you? Give us a little bio. (BTW, that's the sort of thing there's a lot of in the M thread, and in the Newbies thread too, places you've avoided in any meaningful manner, for some reason.)

44 year old male, married to a very vanilla woman. I live in New England, and I am writing this in Austin, TX, which I am visiting for the first time this week. I have one of those jobs no one can describe, including myself. I stay awfully busy at work, so I must be earning my paycheck somehow. I am in the information technology business.

2. What kind of BDSM background do you have? In other words, are you sub, switch, or dominant.

This is hard; my first experiences occured before I could even identify them as BDSM because I had no clue what it was - as early as childhood masturbation.

Since then I have been switch/sub, but have been drawn more to sub in the bedroom, where her excitement and desire drive me, even if she's unaware of it. Pain is nice, but it's not all about the pain for me.

I am dominate in the workplace because being submissive always seems to affect my paycheck in a manner I don't much care for. But that's not BDSM.

3. Have you participated in BDSM sexuality in a skin-to-skin environment with another person? When? How much? What's your overall experience level with it? Is it something you want more of or not?

Uh huh. How much? Some. Not as much as others. Skin to skin with other people started about 24 years ago and has been sporadic since then, due to my inablility to marry anyone with even a vanilla swirl.

4. Were you any of our unregistered trolls? Be honest. Now is the time for that.

Nope. My very first post at lit was unregistered because I was so clueless about how the software here worked. Being the IT ace I am, I figured it out, registered quickly and posted to let people know it was me posting. In my haste, I couldn't come up with a better nick than Monster666. So much for for inventiveness.

5. What's your online experience as far as memberships in forums/chat rooms devoted to BDSM?

A long time ago, on an internet far far away, there was usenet. On usenet, was alt.sex.bondage . On alt.sex.bondage was all kinds of stuff that made me sweat. For that matter, all of alt.sex was a pretty cool place to hang and toss off ideas, until the WWW and spam. I miss what it was, and for that reason alone, I know how important mods are.

6. Are you registered at Lit under another nick?

Nope. One stupid moniker should be enough for anyone.


7. What do you do for a living?

Beats me. See #1.


8.Got a particular ax to grind while you're here among us? What is it, if so , and why did you come here with it?

Nah, not really. And I can't even think of a unique smart-assed reply to this one after reading all the other replies.

9. Do you think of yourself as an asshole sometimes? Why or why not?

Yep. At times, I am a certifiable, USDA #1 top choice ass, with a big hole staring right out the middle. Anyone who says they aren't an asshole at times is an asshole who needs an asshole 12-step program.

I try not to be. I go day by day.

10. Do you think of yourself as a member of this community? Why or why not?

Yes. Why? I feel a kinship here. So if you do too, I'd worry if I were you.