🧠 What Are Your Intrusive Thoughts Trying to Convince You of Today??

[Liberia]

I’m thinking that a lot of us here who are single seem to have real low self-esteem when it comes to sex, dating, Lit etc
And that we should listen instead to those around us, and to the voices we have in our heads the rest of the time, that point out that we’re fucking awesome
And right now that’s fortunately drowning out the bs that it’s sometimes difficult not to believe about myself, compounded by how a certain Lit person I let myself care about is and has been toward me

I'm sure you're an absolute babe and only deserve to be treated like one. If you want a sympathetic female voice, you can write to me.

 

[Statius]

Can I sleep through a meeting and just say 'Nothing from me' at the end

Yes

 

[Liberia]

Can I sleep through a meeting and just say 'Nothing from me' at the end

 

[MiaBabe23]

I'm sure you're an absolute babe and only deserve to be treated like one. If you want a sympathetic female voice, you can write to me.

I’m flawed for sure, but didn’t and don’t deserve to be treated so harshly
And thank you, that’s very kind of you

 

[F3x0r]

Yes

Perfect, Time for a nap then

 

[Neanderthal247]

I’m thinking that a lot of us here who are single seem to have real low self-esteem when it comes to sex, dating, Lit etc
And that we should listen instead to those around us, and to the voices we have in our heads the rest of the time, that point out that we’re fucking awesome
And right now that’s fortunately drowning out the bs that it’s sometimes difficult not to believe about myself, compounded by how a certain Lit person I let myself care about is and has been toward me

Sometimes people aren't right for each other, no matter how much you want them, it just won't work. It doesn't make you any less, it's just they don't see your value. It's okay if someone I want soooo much doesn't want me, I love me and many other people love me. My self value is most important and no one can take that away.

 

[Liberia]

Sometimes people aren't right for each other, no matter how much you want them, it just won't work. It doesn't make you any less, it's just they don't see your value. It's okay if someone I want soooo much doesn't want me, I love me and many other people love me. My self value is most important and no one can take that away.

"If we return to our old Socratic criterion, where happiness would mean being at peace with oneself, one could say that evil people have lost the ability to even ask and answer the question [of happiness], insofar as they, who are at odds with themselves, have lost the ability to become two-in-one in the dialogue of thought."

Just some amateur translated Hannah Arendt with the help of deepl, because I don't have the English version at hand.

 

[Liberia]

I’m flawed for sure, but didn’t and don’t deserve to be treated so harshly
And thank you, that’s very kind of you

No, you didn't deserve it. Go to your local bookstore and get "how to get over a boy". Treat yourself like you would your girlfriend. Would you want your girlie to be treated like that? If no, if it would make you mad, then you have your answer, sweetie.

Respect yourself, you deserve it.

 

[Liberia]

I’m flawed for sure, but didn’t and don’t deserve to be treated so harshly
And thank you, that’s very kind of you

https://www.amazon.com/How-Get-Over-Chidera-Eggerue/dp/1787134806

 

[Neanderthal247]

"If we return to our old Socratic criterion, where happiness would mean being at peace with oneself, one could say that evil people have lost the ability to even ask and answer the question [of happiness], insofar as they, who are at odds with themselves, have lost the ability to become two-in-one in the dialogue of thought."

Just some amateur translated Hannah Arendt with the help of deepl, because I don't have the English version at hand.

You making old caveman think, you know I'm a neanderthal .


Being at peace and not letting others determine what I think of myself, is a blessing and tool I have acquired through years of mental training. Of course I take criticism and dish it out to myself, but only to improve myself and never to tear myself down.

 

[MiaBabe23]

Sometimes people aren't right for each other, no matter how much you want them, it just won't work. It doesn't make you any less, it's just they don't see your value. It's okay if someone I want soooo much doesn't want me, I love me and many other people love me. My self value is most important and no one can take that away.

Sure. Completely agree
But that doesn’t excuse someone treating the other person like shit when they come to that conclusion
It makes a big difference when someone has the decency to be a bit kind, and is far more hurtful when they don’t

 

[Liberia]

You making old caveman think, you know I'm a neanderthal .


Being at peace and not letting others determine what I think of myself, is a blessing and tool I have acquired through years of mental training. Of course I take criticism and dish it out to myself, but only to improve myself and never to tear myself down.

Sure. Completely agree
But that doesn’t excuse someone treating the other person like shit when they come to that conclusion
It makes a big difference when someone has the decency to be a bit kind, and is far more hurtful when they don’t

Now I'm getting really curious. He sounds like a dick!

 

[MiaBabe23]

No, you didn't deserve it. Go to your local bookstore and get "how to get over a boy". Treat yourself like you would your girlfriend. Would you want your girlie to be treated like that? If no, if it would make you mad, then you have your answer, sweetie.

Respect yourself, you deserve it.

That’s kind, thank you
My girlie? You mean my friends? Agreed, I wouldn’t want them to be, whether female or male
And sadly, I’m well aware no answer is in a book, nor in a thousand books. But it’s a kind thought nonetheless
And I do respect myself. Caring about someone doesn’t change that

 

[MiaBabe23]

Now I'm getting really curious. He sounds like a dick!

He isn’t, no. On balance, no
But he lacks the patience or whatever else to show the basic kindness that most would, and likes to play the victim amid the fallout

 

[Statius]

He isn’t, no. On balance, no
But he lacks the patience or whatever else to show the basic kindness that most would, and likes to play the victim amid the fallout

Gaslighter. That last part.

 

[MiaBabe23]

Gaslighter. That last part.

I don’t think so… I think it’s more a case that casting himself as the victim, and/ or letting himself be is easier than acknowledging to others that he was and is unkind