Sleep terrors, night terrors, any info at all.

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I just had to fight my spouse for my life. We were sleeping, and all of a sudden, he just started to scream, like I've never heard screaming before, and dove onto me, trying to get something off of me (there was nothing there), and he split my lip open, and almost broke my neck. Seriously.

He eventually turned the light on and asked what the fuck happened, and I told him, and he says there was something that had jumped onto the back of my head, or there was someone wrapped around me trying to hurt me, and he was trying to save me, ... but he was still asleep, in in his sleep attacked me. Screaming the whole time. And I was screaming and struggling, and it finally ended, probably only a minute later.

We're both terrified. He's afraid he'll do it again, or that there's something terribly wrong with him. I'm afraid it'll happen again... and what I haven't told him is I haven't been so terrified since I was raped two years ago. I just can't tell him, because he's so broken about the whole thing...

I have a split lip, sprained wrist (hence this is taking way too long to type), and I think something like whiplash. My shoulders and neck are completely stiff (he was pressing down on one shoulder, and trying to yank my chin to the side, which would have broken my neck, if I hadn't hit him in the face) and I know I'm going to have a really bruised face in the morning..... and I'm scared. I can't go back to bed tonight.

Please any info would be great.
 
Tinkersquash said:
Good luck :( *warm huggles*

careful, hug me and I'll cry.

I'm kind of on edge.. this happened only an hour ago. He and I have been talking about it, and he's reading right now. And I'm not going back to that bed tonight.
 
No facts, sorry. Just a bunch of half remembered myths, a lot of sympathy and a dimly remembered TV program about it a while back.

I strongly recommend seeking professional help. After all there is a real physical risk here.
 
thanks, Debbie... I'm just so fucking terrified.... how did you deal with yours? He's got a lot of guilt he's put on himself right now, cus he hurt me...
 
MunchinMark said:
No facts, sorry. Just a bunch of half remembered myths, a lot of sympathy and a dimly remembered TV program about it a while back.

I strongly recommend seeking professional help. After all there is a real physical risk here.

we are going in the morning. We're both taking the day off to go together...
 
yeah right. last week you were bragging about how good it felt when he hit you in the face now you have problem with it. or did it get out of hand and now you need an excuse?

pick a story and stick with it.

unless this is just one more cry for attention.
 
vixenshe said:
thanks, Debbie... I'm just so fucking terrified.... how did you deal with yours? He's got a lot of guilt he's put on himself right now, cus he hurt me...

I have never hurt anyone.
But the night terrors are so real you feel what is happening.
You believe it is actually happening to you - not that you
are dreaming.

I would suggest a Drs appt and hope you get a referral
to a sleep centre to evaluate the situation and give you both advice.

I grab, cry out, thrash, struggle, talk but haven't hurt bigrednz.

For me? Sleep doesn't come easily. Maybe that is a factor.
I try to relax, meditate, focus on my breathing and think happy thoughts. My dreams often turn to what seems to be realistic
situations - I have an overactive imagination - I try to 'mould' my dreams so that I can sleep well when I do.


Good luck to you both. :rose:
 
Happened to a friend of mine almost the same way.

He punched his g/f and tried to choke her, all the while he was sleeping, except he was dreaming he was in a fight and he lashed out.

It only happened the one time, he got med's or something from the Dr.

Hope you're both okay :rose:
 
Debbie, how was going back to sleep? Did you ever have two terrors in one night? We're both exhausted, but afraid to sleep.




And troll, you fucking moron, when he slapped me, he was CONSCIOUS, and aware of what he was doing, and it was controlled. Tonight, he was having a terror, and thought I was my own attacker, and was trying to save me. Didn't know what he was doing. Moron. Fucker. Asswipe.
 
Oh, and He never has trouble sleeping. He can nap at the drop of a hat. He apparently thought he saw a spider before we slept, and thought he asked me to shine the light over there, but he never said anything, that I remember. And then this... I mean his screaming was just.. like... terrifying.
 
When I have night terrors? bigrednz and I cuddle , talk and massage each other till we fall asleep together.
 
we're just too afraid for it. He's watching infomercials on TV, and I'm sitting here, and want to go to bed, but I just can't...
 
The doc will probably prescribe a sleeping aid like Ambien or Trazedone. Most likely those will alter his brain waves during sleep to the point where it won't happen again.

Unless he has some PTSD issuses that are triggering recurrent REM problems. But if that's the case this would not be his first sleep issue.
 
Storm, he has no PTSD. Seriously. He's never had anything traumatic happen to him in his life. (what a lucky bastard). He was trying to protect me from something he saw attacking me.

Nearly broke my fucking neck. I have bruises of his hands on my face and neck.



Gonna be fun to explain at work.
 
vixenshe said:
Storm, he has no PTSD. Seriously. He's never had anything traumatic happen to him in his life. (what a lucky bastard). He was trying to protect me from something he saw attacking me.

Nearly broke my fucking neck. I have bruises of his hands on my face and neck.



Gonna be fun to explain at work.

Then it was likely a one-shot deal, if it really was night terrors. The thing is, with night terrors, they happen in stage 4 deep sleep and not rEM, and there should be no recollection of them. Other than terror feelings. Either way, a sleeping aid should fix it.
 
My hubby deals with night terrors. Or should I say WE deal with them. :)

I've had a couple of experiences of being beaten awake. Once he was digging in my ear trying to get the alien that had just gone in there out. When he's having sex dreams and acts those out, I usually don't mind, but a couple of times I ended up just laying there and letting him finish.

When we looked into the sleep center thing, we were told there are no treatments, per se, to help night terrors. Just behavior adjustments.

So...we made a few adjustments (no eating late, regular bedtime, stuff like that) and he hasn't had one in months.
 
Thank you, Countess. We wrote down the whole incident last night and are going to show it to our doc today.
 
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