Butt Plugs! Are they really worth it?

I posted in the vanilla how to area and recieved no help! So here goes.. knowing that every successful D's relationship at some point goes anal... does a butt plug help ease initial discomfort? I have ordered a starter kit..for anal which includes sm, med, and large butt plugs .. my lover and I use a beaded anal vibrator to relax, but he is very large and thick, and I want to be able to relax quickly. So we can fully enjoy the experience..Any experience you can share with me will be greatly appreciated. Just a note , I have had anal sex before, but likes to spice it up! The last time he and I had anal was 18 years ago... this is going to be a little gift for him

I would think B/Ps would help loosen you up there. They are also fun to wear outside on errands. And to just plug the ass for more sensation with other play going on.

Butt be careful.

Last year alone, 27 Doms and Dommes were killed by butt plugs launched by forceful orgasms.

WriterDom said:

Butt be careful.

Last year alone, 27 Doms and Dommes were killed by butt plugs launched by forceful orgasms.

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ROTFLMAO!!!!

Oh this day was so busy and filled with so much 'stuff' I could have done without..... I needed a great, full-on belly laugh!!!

Thanks WD!!!

~ Cait

Good news, Bad news

Good news. Butt plugs will loosen you up and help you prepare for the sex gift. Move from small, medium, large and the big event should go ok. Try leaving the plugs in for 20 to 30 minutes at least. You might want to use the largest plug on the day you give the gift so you with be relaxed (or a least used to it).

Bad news. Loosening the muscle will probably be uncomfortable.

Plus... wearing a butt plug can be fun in itself! Particularly when out in public.

Yes butt plugs do help enormously...even after wearing a plug for 15 to 20 minutes there is a definate advantage in a relaxed spincter muscle.
Enema first...15-20 minute buttplug training...sexual stimulation before being taken anally and the possiblity of a good experience increases ten fold.
you will be amazed at the difference in size from small to medium...it is huge if you are buying the better plugs. Many people never do attain the ability to use the large plugs.

Thanks for all the input...I love anal sex, but he is large enough I need to loosen up for him ! I don't mind initial pain, it will give me time to get off before we get together....


Butt be careful.

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Butt be careful.

Last year alone, 27 Doms and Dommes were killed by butt plugs launched by forceful orgasms.

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WriterDom.
please start posting *spew alerts* when U hand out these posts. or public service announcements/warnings.... something....

ah damn. LMAO

Shadowsdream said:

snip...you will be amazed at the difference in size from small to medium...it is huge if you are buying the better plugs. Many people never do attain the ability to use the large plugs.

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That is so true. Those big ones are something else!

I think the enema is the best advice ever.

Anal play does make a sub want to use the toilet. If you don't give an enema, you will lose the mood everytime they ask to go to the toilet.

Also, The sexual stimulation really does help with relaxing the spincter.

sweet T said:

knowing that every successful D's relationship at some point goes anal...

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Really? That seems kind of like a generalization. It's probably true in most cases but I wouldn't call it a universal truth!

Ebonyfire said:

Anal play does make a sub want to use the toilet. If you don't give an enema, you will lose the mood everytime they ask to go to the toilet.

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This has been happening to me recently. I frequently get enemas before anal play just because Daddy likes giving them, but there have been a few times recently when I haven't, and I've definitely noticed this effect. What's strange though is that it makes me want to pee, rather than have a bowel movement. The effect is especially noticeable with a rather large vibrating dildo...twice now I have had to stop the scene so I could pee. (We weren't in a place where I could just piss where I was, and when that's the situation I'm allowed to speak up if I have to go. It does indeed kill the mood.) I have had another experience with this recently where anal play has made me need to shit...it turned into a rather embarrassing experience that nonetheless was very intimate.

Etoile said:

This has been happening to me recently. I frequently get enemas before anal play just because Daddy likes giving them, but there have been a few times recently when I haven't, and I've definitely noticed this effect. What's strange though is that it makes me want to pee, rather than have a bowel movement. The effect is especially noticeable with a rather large vibrating dildo...twice now I have had to stop the scene so I could pee. (We weren't in a place where I could just piss where I was, and when that's the situation I'm allowed to speak up if I have to go. It does indeed kill the mood.) I have had another experience with this recently where anal play has made me need to shit...it turned into a rather embarrassing experience that nonetheless was very intimate.

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Oh yeah, and depending on the sub, it can be very humiliating, which is a good thing if that's the Dom/me's purpose.

That is one way to humble a sub, by disrupting his or her's toilet rituals.

Ebonyfire said:

Oh yeah, and depending on the sub, it can be very humiliating, which is a good thing if that's the Dom/me's purpose.

That is one way to humble a sub, by disrupting his or her's toilet rituals.

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Well, humiliation isn't really my thing -- and I am moving more into anal play with our submissive, so... enemas, here we come!

I do happen to know that some of what we do in play is humiliating for our poor submissive, but that's not the direct intention behind it (except as a punishment.) She seems to be keen on begging for more though, so she must be enjoying herself...

I'd considered enemas, but the reading here has persuaded me that I need to do more than just consider them. Thanks!

FungiUg said:

Well, humiliation isn't really my thing -- and I am moving more into anal play with our submissive, so... enemas, here we come!

I do happen to know that some of what we do in play is humiliating for our poor submissive, but that's not the direct intention behind it (except as a punishment.) She seems to be keen on begging for more though, so she must be enjoying herself...

I'd considered enemas, but the reading here has persuaded me that I need to do more than just consider them. Thanks!

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I like to say you cannot be squeamish and do anal play.

I have been in the intimate situation you spoke of, and thinks an enema will be a requirement of mine from now on..

Although at the time of the incident we just moved to the shower.. T

sweet T said:

I have been in the intimate situation you spoke of, and thinks an enema will be a requirement of mine from now on..

Although at the time of the incident we just moved to the shower.. T

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Yep, sometimes you just have to improvise!

Butt plugs are my most favorite toy next to the vibrating egg... I love them... have several of them... and especially love the acrylic one that He keeps on ice!

Etoile said:

This has been happening to me recently. I frequently get enemas before anal play just because Daddy likes giving them, but there have been a few times recently when I haven't, and I've definitely noticed this effect. What's strange though is that it makes me want to pee, rather than have a bowel movement. The effect is especially noticeable with a rather large vibrating dildo...twice now I have had to stop the scene so I could pee. (We weren't in a place where I could just piss where I was, and when that's the situation I'm allowed to speak up if I have to go. It does indeed kill the mood.) I have had another experience with this recently where anal play has made me need to shit...it turned into a rather embarrassing experience that nonetheless was very intimate.

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you know i've had this problem before, with me it's ususaly just that i'm over stressed and need to relax alot more then i am, u susaly when the stress dies down that urge goes away. thier are also some exercises you can do, that exercises that general area and can lessen this need, i think they are called creegals? spelling help?

fo course sometimes if you use a vibrator long enough it just shakes things up...and i doubt i need to tell you that if it gets any worse you probably should see a dr. but sometimes it also helps if you know when you're going to play, or right before it starts up, tell him you have to go to the bathroom. it's a little bit of a mood killer then, but alot less of a mood killer then it is when you are both all hot and bothred and just want to go.

hope this helps!

I love anal play and especially like having my plugs in while do things around the house also the anal beads i have are kind of intense when i put two of the balls in and let the others sway on the outside creates a whole new effect as i can feel the balls inside being pulled by the pressure of the heavy stainless steel balls swinging on the outside..... to i have found that sometimes now depending on my mood i need the larger plugs rather than the small ones so if you get a taste for it you may end up(no pun intended) with quite a collection of them.

I just recieved my toys from Lit.. OH Boy !

If I could just get rid of the kiddies, so I can play!

yes! butt plugs definitely help a great deal as far as getting things nice and trained back there. my Master started me off with a small butt plug and would have me wear it for just 5 mins a day (which back then i found excruciating), everyday for a few weeks. then i moved on to a larger plug. then i was to wear the plug for longer and longer periods of time, eventually sleeping in a medium sized plug every other night. but Daddy taught me quickly that one can't just wear a plug, you have to work it in and out, so that the outer anal ring gets stretched as well and not just the inside. i truly thought i would never be able to have anal that wasn't excruciatingly painful with my Master, as he is also fairly long and VERY thick, but to my surprise and delight, because of all the anal training, including the plugs (he also trained me in other ways, including having me used anally by men with small cocks), anal with him is often not painful at all and in a masochistic kind of way has been quite enjoyable for me many times. but anal training is something that has to be kept up....go a month without using any plugs, and without anal sex, and your bum can revert back to its virginal state.

as for enemas, sometimes we use them, sometimes we don't....Daddy isn't the squeamish type. but he also has a rule that after using either of my nether holes, that i am to clean him thoroughly with my mouth. so that does give one a bit of an incentive to stay as clean as possible in that area.

very helpful

Ebonyfire said:

I like to say you cannot be squeamish and do anal play.

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I definitely agree with this one.

Howling_Ire said:

you know i've had this problem before, with me it's ususaly just that i'm over stressed and need to relax alot more then i am, u susaly when the stress dies down that urge goes away. thier are also some exercises you can do, that exercises that general area and can lessen this need, i think they are called creegals? spelling help?

fo course sometimes if you use a vibrator long enough it just shakes things up...and i doubt i need to tell you that if it gets any worse you probably should see a dr. but sometimes it also helps if you know when you're going to play, or right before it starts up, tell him you have to go to the bathroom. it's a little bit of a mood killer then, but alot less of a mood killer then it is when you are both all hot and bothred and just want to go.

hope this helps!

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I assume you're speaking of Kegel exercises. Yes, those work the muscle that is involved in starting and stopping the flow of urine (pubococcygeal muscle, aka PC muscle). I do those regularly but they don't necessarily lessen the feeling that you need to piss, they are better at lessening the risk that you will piss inadvertently.

As for telling Daddy in advance, that would work if I knew in advance. I don't usually. When I do, yes, I speak up.

I just received a butt plug I ordered.