Please help.....need info on different techniques of giving a blow job

Hey, I need help. My boyfriend says that I give great head. He wants me to find out on my own different techniques to finish the blow job. He might tell me the three words I want to hear if I do. Please Please help me I really want to please this guy.

related threads

I'm not sure exactly what info you need but there are several threads on this topic:

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=8***9

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=106571

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=83544

JudyWithAFlower said:

Hey, I need help. My boyfriend says that I give great head. He wants me to find out on my own different techniques to finish the blow job. He might tell me the three words I want to hear if I do. Please Please help me I really want to please this guy.

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LOL...what are the three words you want to hear? Finish me off?
Swallow it please? God that's good? Your turn now?

Sorry, couldn't resist.

I'd recommend you check out the threads listed above, and there are even more, just search. It's fun exploring, finding what works. I'm sure he will appreciate it all.

JudyWithAFlower said:

Hey, I need help. My boyfriend says that I give great head. He wants me to find out on my own different techniques to finish the blow job. He might tell me the three words I want to hear if I do. Please Please help me I really want to please this guy.

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His telling you those three little words is dependent on you learning different techniques for blowing him?

3 Little Words

I am the boyfriend in question. I have a very long history of relationships with emotionally needy women (see thread, Pathological Liar, hump or dump?) that end in a great deal of heartache for them. I do not believe that I have changed....when I get bored with her or some new desparately lonely female comes along I will not remain faithful. Judy told me that she loves me after only having known me for 10 days and two overnight stays at her house. She is very willing sexually and a lot of fun. I have tried to tell her that I will take advantage of her if she lets me. She is convinced that she will change me. (We're both 43, you would think she knows better than to try to change people by now!)

RE: 3 little words.....what I told her was that

a man is incredibly vulnerable after a great orgasm, so much so that I might even LIE to you and say the 3 words you want to hear (emphasis on lie) [unquote]

She knows that I'm still seeing another woman, one of my ex's, frequently visit a slut, and am pursing a 23 y o and still she persists in thinking that she will change me. I told her she might get lucky and I'll die by accident before the heart break happens, then she'll only have to deal with the grief of death.

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My advice to Judy, any guy that treats you like the above posting needs to be kicked to the curb.

His 3 words should be;

"CALL NINE ELEVEN!!!'

Finish him off by biting it....

Ummm, question for the boyfriend.

If you want her to learn different techniques, why did you post first in this thread and provide her links to various threads about those techniques? Why not TALK to her and tell her what you want? Obviously you have read those threads. You know what you want, tell her.


As for how you treat her, I think the above poster said it all.

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henry0reilly said:

I am the boyfriend in question. I have a very long history of relationships with emotionally needy women (see thread, Pathological Liar, hump or dump?) that end in a great deal of heartache for them. I do not believe that I have changed....when I get bored with her or some new desparately lonely female comes along I will not remain faithful. Judy told me that she loves me after only having known me for 10 days and two overnight stays at her house. She is very willing sexually and a lot of fun. I have tried to tell her that I will take advantage of her if she lets me. She is convinced that she will change me. (We're both 43, you would think she knows better than to try to change people by now!)

RE: 3 little words.....what I told her was that

a man is incredibly vulnerable after a great orgasm, so much so that I might even LIE to you and say the 3 words you want to hear (emphasis on lie) [unquote]

She knows that I'm still seeing another woman, one of my ex's, frequently visit a slut, and am pursing a 23 y o and still she persists in thinking that she will change me. I told her she might get lucky and I'll die by accident before the heart break happens, then she'll only have to deal with the grief of death.

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After reading your previous posts, I would hope the three words are
Run Little Girl.

Co-dependent relationships feed off one another, I just dislike seeing anyone getting hurt.
Personally, I can't understand wanting to be with anyone who can't break free from one of their ex's, seeing another woman while pursuing another half this guy's age and admits to frequently visiting a slut.

Get a grip Judy and realize you're worth more than just being another conquest of sorts and being discussed on internet boards.
(That is IF Judy is a real person and not just a new screen name oreilly has made up as another form of self gratification)

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Sunnflower said:

(That is IF Judy is a real person and not just a new screen name oreilly has made up as another form of self gratification)

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That would be my guess, although for the life of me I can't figure out why because he answered his own post.

Judy is for real

No, I didn't invent Judy. I had sent her URLs for several threads, but she seemed to think that starting the topic over again would be easier than researching them. I strongly objected to her inclusion of the "three words" portion but replies had been posted before I could get hold of her to ask her to edit it out. I replied with thread links so others would know she had the information.

"If you want her to learn different techniques, why did you post first in this thread and provide her links to various threads about those techniques? Why not TALK to her and tell her what you want? Obviously you have read those threads. You know what you want, tell her."


Of course I can tell her what I like but I thought it would be more interesting and educational for her to research it herself.

You folks telling her to run is exactly what I've been telling her since she professed her love after our second roll in the hay.

henry0reilly said:

I am the boyfriend in question.

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You, sir, are no "boyfriend". You are nothing more than a male slut.

henry0reilly said:

I have a very long history of relationships with emotionally needy women (see thread, Pathological Liar, hump or dump?) that end in a great deal of heartache for them. I do not believe that I have changed....when I get bored with her or some new desparately lonely female comes along I will not remain faithful.

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According to the following poem (from indicated thread), you seemed to have been "in love" with the pathological liar:

"Hot Pants

Mary, Mary, quite contrary, how do you pay your bills?
A hustle here, the tip jar there and selling little pills.

You liked to ride my pogo stick, it made you scream for joy,
Since we broke up I wonder now if I was just your toy.

I’ll never forget the time we spent in your bed making love,
If I find out that I'm still clean I will thank God above.

You live your life from hand to mouth, no money in the bank.
I can’t believe I fell in love with such a lying skank.

20 Feb 03"

Oh, and as I recall, she dumped your ass - either before or after you paid her bills, I'm not sure which. Or is this the slut you are still fucking? Cuious minds do want to know.

henry0reilly said:

She knows that I'm still seeing another woman, one of my ex's, frequently visit a slut, and am pursing a 23 y o and still she persists in thinking that she will change me. I told her she might get lucky and I'll die by accident before the heart break happens, then she'll only have to deal with the grief of death.

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Have you tried any form of counseling, yet? Or haven't you realized that your behavior is not normal? Oh, that's right! You're a slut, so I guess it's okay to knowingly abuse women emotionally as long as you tell them before you do it!

henry0reilly said:

You folks telling her to run is exactly what I've been telling her since she professed her love after our second roll in the hay.

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Why the fuck should we be the ones telling her this? Obviously, with her history, she isn't going to give a rat's ass what we say. Why not develop a fucking backbone and cut her loose?

You are either the world's biggest loser, or you are the pathological liar you first brought to these boards.

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henry0reilly said:

I am the boyfriend in question. I have a very long history of relationships with emotionally needy women (see thread, Pathological Liar, hump or dump?) that end in a great deal of heartache for them. I do not believe that I have changed....when I get bored with her or some new desparately lonely female comes along I will not remain faithful. Judy told me that she loves me after only having known me for 10 days and two overnight stays at her house. She is very willing sexually and a lot of fun. I have tried to tell her that I will take advantage of her if she lets me. She is convinced that she will change me. (We're both 43, you would think she knows better than to try to change people by now!)

RE: 3 little words.....what I told her was that

a man is incredibly vulnerable after a great orgasm, so much so that I might even LIE to you and say the 3 words you want to hear (emphasis on lie) [unquote]

She knows that I'm still seeing another woman, one of my ex's, frequently visit a slut, and am pursing a 23 y o and still she persists in thinking that she will change me. I told her she might get lucky and I'll die by accident before the heart break happens, then she'll only have to deal with the grief of death.

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You asshole.

Sorry but I believe you seriously deserved that.

And she shouldn't trust you so much or be so damn willing to blow you.

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abiamarie said:

You asshole.

Sorry but I believe you seriously deserved that.

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Don't be sorry. Like you said, it was deserved... I couldn't have said it better myself.

3 words

I didn't mean for anyone to reply about the three words. I was just looking for some different techniques. I can't believe how cruel how some of you can be.

Folks, move along now, there's nothing to see here.

Just some troll posting things to feed his inexplicable inner fantasy life. Move along. Move along. Nothing to see. here. Y'all are just blocking the sidewalk.

I am afflicted with what I call the "Knight in Shiny Armor Syndrome" when I meet a woman that appears in need of being rescued I hop on my charger and proceed to use my 8" lance and a little TLC to convince her that not all men are jerks.

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For those who have not been following the soap operas, this is a quote from our illustruous Mr. Henry, from another short-running movie-of-the-week.

So, Judy, tell us...

Has he convinced you that not all men are jerks yet?



S.

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JudyWithAFlower said:

I didn't mean for anyone to reply about the three words. I was just looking for some different techniques. I can't believe how cruel how some of you can be.

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It's not cruel, it's curiosity.

I mean, the way you wrote it sounded like if you didnt find new ways, he would dump you,

"He wants me to find out on my own different techniques to finish the blow job. He might tell me the three words I want to hear if I do."

if you instantly translate that to the mind "suck him, or get dumped" is the answer

guilty, guilty, not guilty

To the charges of asshole and slut I plead guilty. As for being a troll, I would have to say no contest. I didn't mean to be a troll but have no evidence to prove it. This is not a forum that I frequent, I do hang out in the chat room here some.

Yes, I am in psychotherapy but so far have not progressed beyond the stage of examining and clarifying the issues.

As for "Mary" she dumped me for digging into her financial affairs and having evidence in hand that she had lied to me. I mentioned to someone about how she had lied about being in college....it turns out she had borrowed money for tuition from her employer and had rearranged her work schedule around the ficticious classes. Her employer found out from the person I mentioned it to. She was so embarrassed she never went back to work. She is babysitting for pocket money, SSI takes care of the bills.

Judy really seems to enjoy fellatio but has yet to get me off with it. I gave her a little analingus in hopes she would reciprocate but she didn't take the hint. I KNOW, I need to communicate more directly. She is so anxious to please me, it's unreal. She trusts me so much she gave me a key to her house. [sigh] I will try to let her down gently when the time comes. She thinks we will become life partners in spite of all my warnings that I'm not willing or able to make such a committment, but I'll probably hang around as long as she's putting out and not demanding we be exclusive.

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JudyWithAFlower said:

I didn't mean for anyone to reply about the three words. I was just looking for some different techniques. I can't believe how cruel how some of you can be.

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Sorry Judy but its not cruelty. Its a pratical attitude. You're sleeping with a time bomb and if you're really lucky you'll get off with a treatable std and not something that will kill you.

I can't speak for any of the other guys here, and perhaps I'm old fashioned, but I don't think anyone should be used the way he is using you. Quite honestly I don't even know if I could perform if I don't have an emotional connection with my partner. This guy admits he doesn't have that, he admits he is using you. Even goes as far as saying he'll dump you in a flash if something better comes along and you still want to be with him? Excuse me, but were you in school when they taught the meaning of loyalty and fidelity?

He's a walking AIDS target and I wouldn't even shake his hand without wearing a full body condom. He has issues which he needs to resolve before getting involved with anyone, and anyone that does get involved with him is by his own admission, bound to get hurt.

No bad history

I can count on 2 hands and almost one foot on how many guys I've had in 43 years. I think that is a pretty good ratio.
I was a widow at age 23. Waited about 2 years before married again. Divorced to 2nd at age 39 with a separation of one year. Mental/Emotional abuse didn't start until after the 2nd child. With a the dedication I have, I tried to work things out before giving up. I am not one to give up on something. The kicker was when he (my x) brought home his supposedly best friend and had him rape me while he watched. I still remember that look in his eyes when I glanced at him for help. But that was 6 years ago. Have had counseling, over that. I spent time getting to know me again before I decided I was ready for a new bo. I wasn't looking for anyone when I met him. My bo melted me at first meeting. We saw each other almost every day for 10 days before deciding to do anything. Maybe it is possible that I should have made him wait longer before we did anything and he would appreciate me more. My mistake for professing too soon. We had talked about it and had a better understanding where each other was coming from. I think it is harder as an adult to hold back, and emotions are better understood. It shouldn't have mattered what the 3 words were. That wasn't the point of the question. I was just asking. I like giving my bo head or bj. I was just looking for different techniques. So if there is anyone out there who knows of any different that maybe they think only they have tried? Just trying to make it fun at the same time.

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JudyWithAFlower said:

I am not one to give up on something.
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Maybe it is possible that I should have made him wait longer before we did anything and he would appreciate me more. My mistake for professing too soon. We had talked about it and had a better understanding where each other was coming from.

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I'm probably beating a dead horse here, but I hope you understand that we are just concerned about you. From what you have posted and what hO has posted, I think many of us dont' believe you understand where he is coming from at all and don't want to see you end up getting hurt.

I agree with Bombi357.

Do you understand that this guy is using you?
Do you understand that he doesn't appreciate you at all, and probably wouldn't no matter how long you had made him wait?
Do you understand that no matter what you do you are not going to change how he feels about you?

If you can honestly answer yes to these questions and still want to be with this guy, then good luck to you. I'm afraid you need a lot more help than you will ever find at an internet message board.

I think Bird's Wife hit the nail on the head.

What part of his post above didn't you get?

Judy really seems to enjoy fellatio but has yet to get me off with it. I gave her a little analingus in hopes she would reciprocate but she didn't take the hint. I KNOW, I need to communicate more directly. She is so anxious to please me, it's unreal. She trusts me so much she gave me a key to her house. [sigh] I will try to let her down gently when the time comes. She thinks we will become life partners in spite of all my warnings that I'm not willing or able to make such a committment, but I'll probably hang around as long as she's putting out and not demanding we be exclusive.

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To put things politely, from what he's posted, you're a temporary fuck toy - nothing more.

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JudyWithAFlower said:

I can count on 2 hands and almost one foot on how many guys I've had in 43 years. I think that is a pretty good ratio.
I was a widow at age 23. Waited about 2 years before married again. Divorced to 2nd at age 39 with a separation of one year. Mental/Emotional abuse didn't start until after the 2nd child. With a the dedication I have, I tried to work things out before giving up. I am not one to give up on something. The kicker was when he (my x) brought home his supposedly best friend and had him rape me while he watched. I still remember that look in his eyes when I glanced at him for help. But that was 6 years ago. Have had counseling, over that. I spent time getting to know me again before I decided I was ready for a new bo. I wasn't looking for anyone when I met him. My bo melted me at first meeting. We saw each other almost every day for 10 days before deciding to do anything. Maybe it is possible that I should have made him wait longer before we did anything and he would appreciate me more. My mistake for professing too soon. We had talked about it and had a better understanding where each other was coming from. I think it is harder as an adult to hold back, and emotions are better understood. It shouldn't have mattered what the 3 words were. That wasn't the point of the question. I was just asking. I like giving my bo head or bj. I was just looking for different techniques. So if there is anyone out there who knows of any different that maybe they think only they have tried? Just trying to make it fun at the same time.

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As I told your ""bo"" in a previous thread...

THE HAND LIFE HAS DEALT YOU IS ***NOT*** A LICENSE TO ACT IRRESPONSIBLY! Period.

You are a MOTHER, for God's sake. You have children, and you have a responsibility to set an example for them, no matter what has happened to you in the past.

It is high time to get to counseling. Dump his ass while you're at it. You will never have self-respect if you don't, and after what you have been through, YOU know that better than anyone.

S.

Dear Judy

Henry