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Yes, several times. If I wasn't in the mood or it was simply inconvenient, I didn't do it. Since I was only required to send an email describing what had happened, it was easy enough to type something out and send it to him.
No, I never told him. But he knew. The relationship was nothing serious, and neither of us took it to be serious. It was play. We are still friends to this day, and it's been almost 2 years.
No, I never told him. But he knew. The relationship was nothing serious, and neither of us took it to be serious. It was play. We are still friends to this day, and it's been almost 2 years.
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Reasons
That is why I do not dominate online. It is hard to control what you cannot see or feel, or what you truly do not own.
I do not use webcams either cause it is not satisfying to Me. Others may take a different view. To each his or her own.
That is why I do not dominate online. It is hard to control what you cannot see or feel, or what you truly do not own.
I do not use webcams either cause it is not satisfying to Me. Others may take a different view. To each his or her own.
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Re: Reasons
Ditto
Ebonyfire said:
Ditto
trainee_sub
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Re: Re: online relationship
The same here I have always told Him the truth even when I think he might not like my answer it seems to me that a D/s relationship is based on trust by both sides. If I dont tell him the truth how will He really get to know me.
MissTaken said:
The same here I have always told Him the truth even when I think he might not like my answer it seems to me that a D/s relationship is based on trust by both sides. If I dont tell him the truth how will He really get to know me.
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another sub in an online relationship
Whilst i respect Ebony and Shadowsdream for their preferences; for some of us, having an online relationship is the only available choice at times. Whether its due to not having the opportunity or simply because life is too busy to search for that much needed Master, a Cyber Master can be a great comfort to a submissive's mind. Giving the sub the control she /he requires, even if it is only control of the mind.
Speaking from my point of experience, misleading my Master is not fair to either one of us. How can i take Him seriously if i knowingly lie to Him? What effect does that have on my respect for Him? Granted, my Master is considerate of my working hours and the type of work that i do. He knows that at times my job takes a toll on me physically and i need my rest. Other times, He is well aware of my needs, as He knows me very well.
Through His conditioning, i find myself thinking of What would Master say/think; before i undertake anything. He is constantly with me in my mind, heart, and soul.
my point to this is; if i am going to mislead Him, what is the point of being in this type of relationship??
i would love to be able to have a R.L Master, but its not a reality at this time, so i stretch my neck out and accept the collar of Him who will be my Master.
-kym- loving, and respecting my Master via the net.
Whilst i respect Ebony and Shadowsdream for their preferences; for some of us, having an online relationship is the only available choice at times. Whether its due to not having the opportunity or simply because life is too busy to search for that much needed Master, a Cyber Master can be a great comfort to a submissive's mind. Giving the sub the control she /he requires, even if it is only control of the mind.
Speaking from my point of experience, misleading my Master is not fair to either one of us. How can i take Him seriously if i knowingly lie to Him? What effect does that have on my respect for Him? Granted, my Master is considerate of my working hours and the type of work that i do. He knows that at times my job takes a toll on me physically and i need my rest. Other times, He is well aware of my needs, as He knows me very well.
Through His conditioning, i find myself thinking of What would Master say/think; before i undertake anything. He is constantly with me in my mind, heart, and soul.
my point to this is; if i am going to mislead Him, what is the point of being in this type of relationship??
i would love to be able to have a R.L Master, but its not a reality at this time, so i stretch my neck out and accept the collar of Him who will be my Master.
-kym- loving, and respecting my Master via the net.
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Ebonyfire said:
And there are many who don't tell the truth.
Could they be said to be truly submitting on line if they aren't being honest with their Dom?
Online is a difficult arrangement, but can fill a gap for someone for whom that is the only option.
Also, for some , there "kink" per se, is on line role playing at BDSM. As difficult as it can be for real life practicioners to accept, they are now part of the group, a sub set, perhaps? Some kink out with domesticity, riding crops, leather, and now, a group kinks to on line playtime.
*shrugs*
Pardon the babbling, but you all know I tend to get on a roll and don't know when to shut up!
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Sub set, MissT?
In the past I have played online with a pet who would come home to me at the end of the day. Some days I would give him instructions to be carried out at his office. He knew better than to refuse or lie to Me because I would know once W/we saw each other that night if he had done what he was told to do.
I think not being honest in a relationship hurts that relationship.
No matter if it is nilla or D/s.
Helena
Sub set, MissT?
In the past I have played online with a pet who would come home to me at the end of the day. Some days I would give him instructions to be carried out at his office. He knew better than to refuse or lie to Me because I would know once W/we saw each other that night if he had done what he was told to do.
I think not being honest in a relationship hurts that relationship.
No matter if it is nilla or D/s.
Helena
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Re: another sub in an online relationship
On another note....I for one do believe that ONLINE Domination and submission can be a deep and meaningful way to build a long term relationship and be completely satisfying to those engaged in them.
I do believe that online often leads to realtime when that is the desire and that is is a good stop gate for getting to know much about each other.
I met My slave in ICQ almost 4 years ago...I travelled from Canada to Sweden to take him to reality...if the Domination had nowhere to go but online this slave and I would have separated long ago as skin to skin is O/our need.
I have never enjoyed being married to Me computer, and online Domination does tend to control time. Add dishonesty...*yes Mistress I am putting the clothes pins on* while the sub runs back and forth to the kitchen washing the dishes.
MY-Sir's-k- said:Whilst i respect Ebony and Shadowsdream for their preferences; for some of us, having an online relationship is the only available choice at times. Whether its due to not having the opportunity or simply because life is too busy to search for that much needed Master, a Cyber Master can be a great comfort to a submissive's mind. Giving the sub the control she /he requires, even if it is only control of the mind.
Speaking from my point of experience, misleading my Master is not fair to either one of us. How can i take Him seriously if i knowingly lie to Him? What effect does that have on my respect for Him? Granted, my Master is considerate of my working hours and the type of work that i do. He knows that at times my job takes a toll on me physically and i need my rest. Other times, He is well aware of my needs, as He knows me very well.
Through His conditioning, i find myself thinking of What would Master say/think; before i undertake anything. He is constantly with me in my mind, heart, and soul.
my point to this is; if i am going to mislead Him, what is the point of being in this type of relationship??
i would love to be able to have a R.L Master, but its not a reality at this time, so i stretch my neck out and accept the collar of Him who will be my Master.
-kym- loving, and respecting my Master via the net.
On another note....I for one do believe that ONLINE Domination and submission can be a deep and meaningful way to build a long term relationship and be completely satisfying to those engaged in them.
I do believe that online often leads to realtime when that is the desire and that is is a good stop gate for getting to know much about each other.
I met My slave in ICQ almost 4 years ago...I travelled from Canada to Sweden to take him to reality...if the Domination had nowhere to go but online this slave and I would have separated long ago as skin to skin is O/our need.
I have never enjoyed being married to Me computer, and online Domination does tend to control time. Add dishonesty...*yes Mistress I am putting the clothes pins on* while the sub runs back and forth to the kitchen washing the dishes.
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Re: Re: another sub in an online relationship
Yes Mam, i do agree with the time spent sitting my arse in this chair would be better spent in a skin to skin, but at this time as i have mentioned; it isn't an option.
As for a sub saying that she/he is obeying a command, all the while running back and forth doing their domestic duties. i had to laugh at this image. Master knows me well enough that He has no worries that i shall be doing the washing up as He commands me to use the clamps or whatever! He never has any reason to doubt my obedience when it comes to pleasure Mam. Master has more than once remarked about my enjoyment with feeling the bite of the nipple clamps and sting of the cat on my skin.
One fine day Mam, i hope to be able to feel M'Lord's hand placing the clamps securely on my nipples, but until then He and i will continue to grow together over the net and in our minds.
-kym- looking forward to the day i can kneel at His feet.
Shadowsdream said:
Yes Mam, i do agree with the time spent sitting my arse in this chair would be better spent in a skin to skin, but at this time as i have mentioned; it isn't an option.
As for a sub saying that she/he is obeying a command, all the while running back and forth doing their domestic duties. i had to laugh at this image. Master knows me well enough that He has no worries that i shall be doing the washing up as He commands me to use the clamps or whatever!
He never has any reason to doubt my obedience when it comes to pleasure Mam. Master has more than once remarked about my enjoyment with feeling the bite of the nipple clamps and sting of the cat on my skin.One fine day Mam, i hope to be able to feel M'Lord's hand placing the clamps securely on my nipples, but until then He and i will continue to grow together over the net and in our minds.
-kym- looking forward to the day i can kneel at His feet.
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~~smile~~
I always enjoy your posts because I can FEEL the magic that you enjoy with your Sir!
MY-Sir's-k- said:Yes Mam, i do agree with the time spent sitting my arse in this chair would be better spent in a skin to skin, but at this time as i have mentioned; it isn't an option.
As for a sub saying that she/he is obeying a command, all the while running back and forth doing their domestic duties. i had to laugh at this image. Master knows me well enough that He has no worries that i shall be doing the washing up as He commands me to use the clamps or whatever!
One fine day Mam, i hope to be able to feel M'Lord's hand placing the clamps securely on my nipples, but until then He and i will continue to grow together over the net and in our minds.
-kym- looking forward to the day i can kneel at His feet.
~~smile~~
I always enjoy your posts because I can FEEL the magic that you enjoy with your Sir!
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Re: Re: Re: Re: another sub in an online relationship
Thank you Mam, and please know that i have respect for you because of the wisdom you share with so many here.
Btw, this isn't the same Sir of last year, Mam. Tis another, but He is well known and respected here at Lit. He has been a blessing in my life. Agreeing to take my leash when i was in need of guidence and One to control my willing ways. He is shaping me to to serve Him in the manner He desires. i am indebted to Him for giving my life meaning and purpose once again.
-kym- thankful to Master
Shadowsdream said:
Thank you Mam, and please know that i have respect for you because of the wisdom you share with so many here.
Btw, this isn't the same Sir of last year, Mam. Tis another, but He is well known and respected here at Lit. He has been a blessing in my life. Agreeing to take my leash when i was in need of guidence and One to control my willing ways. He is shaping me to to serve Him in the manner He desires. i am indebted to Him for giving my life meaning and purpose once again.
-kym- thankful to Master
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I am so happy for you that your leash is in caring hands.
MY-Sir's-k- said:Thank you Mam, and please know that i have respect for you because of the wisdom you share with so many here.
Btw, this isn't the same Sir of last year, Mam. Tis another, but He is well known and respected here at Lit. He has been a blessing in my life. Agreeing to take my leash when i was in need of guidence and One to control my willing ways. He is shaping me to to serve Him in the manner He desires. i am indebted to Him for giving my life meaning and purpose once again.
-kym- thankful to Master
I am so happy for you that your leash is in caring hands.
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Re: another sub in an online relationship
To make this post on topic, i would never dream of lying to my Sir about things that he asked me to do. He and i have a close enough relationship that he knows what i am capable of doing, or not doing, and would never ask me to do anything outside of that scope... so why lie about something that i probably could have gotten him to drop in the first place, if i wasn't comfortable doing it?
Ok.. that sounded like a ramble, so i'll quit.
Good thread idea!!!!!
Wow kym.. how closely your situation mirrors my own! i too have a wonderful LD Sir that has been instrumental in shaping me and my goals.MY-Sir's-k- said:Thank you Mam, and please know that i have respect for you because of the wisdom you share with so many here.
Btw, this isn't the same Sir of last year, Mam. Tis another, but He is well known and respected here at Lit. He has been a blessing in my life. Agreeing to take my leash when i was in need of guidence and One to control my willing ways. He is shaping me to to serve Him in the manner He desires. i am indebted to Him for giving my life meaning and purpose once again.
-kym- thankful to Master
To make this post on topic, i would never dream of lying to my Sir about things that he asked me to do. He and i have a close enough relationship that he knows what i am capable of doing, or not doing, and would never ask me to do anything outside of that scope... so why lie about something that i probably could have gotten him to drop in the first place, if i wasn't comfortable doing it?
Ok.. that sounded like a ramble, so i'll quit.
Good thread idea!!!!!
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i have had the beautiful pleasure of having a long-term real life D/s relationship, and scattered along the way after it ended a few online relationships. i can say without a doubt, my current relationship is the most fulfilling, honest, trusting relationship i have ever had. He would sense in an instant if i was not being completely honest or upfront, not to mention He can read the subtle infliction in my voice when i am even thinking about hiding something from Him.
To all of you who are blessed to have the skin to skin contact 24/7, you have my deep appreciation for how difficult yet rewarding it can be. And to those of you who share your time online with the ones who make your heart pound, your mind soar and the soft breath in your throat catch, i am right there with you. i can't imagine where i would be without Him in my life, nor do i even want to try. He makes me stronger and more capable of achieving all i was meant to do...
Forever Solitudes...
To all of you who are blessed to have the skin to skin contact 24/7, you have my deep appreciation for how difficult yet rewarding it can be. And to those of you who share your time online with the ones who make your heart pound, your mind soar and the soft breath in your throat catch, i am right there with you. i can't imagine where i would be without Him in my life, nor do i even want to try. He makes me stronger and more capable of achieving all i was meant to do...
Forever Solitudes...
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Its not the most desirable sort of relationship to be in SierraMoon, but when one can't find the Master to take her leash in R.L, its the next best thing.
With your discription, it sounds like you are blessed with a Master who not only commands you, but is deeply concerned for you as a person too.
Lieing in any relationship is a pathway to trouble down the road. As the saying goes, what a tangled web we weave, when first we try and deceive.
i wish no webs to ensnare me with my Master and have Him loose His faith and trust in me. i value His approval far too much to throw it away because i didn't want to obey His will.
-kym- no webs in my house
SierraMoon said:Wow kym.. how closely your situation mirrors my own! i too have a wonderful LD Sir that has been instrumental in shaping me and my goals.
To make this post on topic, i would never dream of lying to my Sir about things that he asked me to do. He and i have a close enough relationship that he knows what i am capable of doing, or not doing, and would never ask me to do anything outside of that scope... so why lie about something that i probably could have gotten him to drop in the first place, if i wasn't comfortable doing it?
Ok.. that sounded like a ramble, so i'll quit.
Good thread idea!!!!!
Its not the most desirable sort of relationship to be in SierraMoon, but when one can't find the Master to take her leash in R.L, its the next best thing.
With your discription, it sounds like you are blessed with a Master who not only commands you, but is deeply concerned for you as a person too.
Lieing in any relationship is a pathway to trouble down the road. As the saying goes, what a tangled web we weave, when first we try and deceive.
i wish no webs to ensnare me with my Master and have Him loose His faith and trust in me. i value His approval far too much to throw it away because i didn't want to obey His will.
-kym- no webs in my house
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Re: another sub in an online relationship
We have been forced to trust each other even more, because we aren't with each other all the time. It has also taught both of us patience. We can't talk to each other as much as we would like to, but when we do get to talk, it is great because we realize how much we miss each other. So, the LDR thing has it's good and bad points, but without this opportunity, i wouldn't be as happy as i am today!!!
He has set some difficult tasks for me to complete, ones that i would have never done on my own, but knowing how happy and proud i make him by doing them is how i get through them.
i agree with you, kym.. in that it's not the most desirable kind of relationship to be in, but one thing that it has been good for, is forcing he and i to get to know the other without any physical things being involved.MY-Sir's-k- said:Its not the most desirable sort of relationship to be in SierraMoon, but when one can't find the Master to take her leash in R.L, its the next best thing.
With your discription, it sounds like you are blessed with a Master who not only commands you, but is deeply concerned for you as a person too.
Lieing in any relationship is a pathway to trouble down the road. As the saying goes, what a tangled web we weave, when first we try and deceive.
i wish no webs to ensnare me with my Master and have Him loose His faith and trust in me. i value His approval far too much to throw it away because i didn't want to obey His will.
-kym- no webs in my house
We have been forced to trust each other even more, because we aren't with each other all the time. It has also taught both of us patience. We can't talk to each other as much as we would like to, but when we do get to talk, it is great because we realize how much we miss each other. So, the LDR thing has it's good and bad points, but without this opportunity, i wouldn't be as happy as i am today!!!
He has set some difficult tasks for me to complete, ones that i would have never done on my own, but knowing how happy and proud i make him by doing them is how i get through them.
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i am able to understand your posistion very well SierraMoon. i've been there in the past and am currently in a somewhat similar position. Nothing wrong with a relationship like this; it can actually take effort more to make it successful than a "normal" skin to skin one.
i wish you all of the best and hope that you and your Master are able to overcome the distances that separate you.
-kym- feeling M'Lord's presence enfolding me
i wish you all of the best and hope that you and your Master are able to overcome the distances that separate you.
-kym- feeling M'Lord's presence enfolding me
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Thank you kym, and i wish the same for you and your Master!MY-Sir's-k- said:i am able to understand your posistion very well SierraMoon. i've been there in the past and am currently in a somewhat similar position. Nothing wrong with a relationship like this; it can actually take effort more to make it successful than a "normal" skin to skin one.
i wish you all of the best and hope that you and your Master are able to overcome the distances that separate you.
-kym- feeling M'Lord's presence enfolding me
btw.. please call me sierra.. everyone does!
