LITEROTICA PODCAST
LIT CAMS (200 Free Tokens)ADULT TOYSVOD MOVIES

Long Distance Relationships

JennyOmanHill

JennyOmanHill

trying hard to be mindful
Joined
Nov 12, 2001
Posts
11,151
I would be very interested in hearing from anyone who has been, or plans to be, involved with someone living far far away from you.

Whether it be a favorite cyber buddy, or some "real world" someone special who is forced to live away from the home area, I would like to know any ideas or tips you could offer to help to keep a relationship like this alive..:confused:

I am at the start of such a relationship, and already sense feelings of loss and anxiousness (plus my mind "living" in two time zones at once), and yet I still maintain a very positive outlook that this will work out despite so many odds.

The internet allows for feelings of closeness with distant partners, and the phone is fine (but so expensive). Please feel free to offer any insight you can on dealing with this.

Many thanks:D
 
I've been in one long distance relationship - and positive outlook is the best way!!
They say love conquers all..
I'm also a believer in altho there are miles between the bodies the souls will always be as one.


*~* Spanks *~*
 
I dont have any experience with long distance relationships,but I wish you the best of luck and hope all goes well for you.
 
wellllll

well , it will start off fine like this
1)4 calls a week
2)2 calls a month
3)Sorry I found somebodt new...6 months later
trust me long distance don't last ........
let it go......as the saying goes
It is not what you can get forever but what you have gotten
now..........a chinese saying.....meaning irregardless whats in the future, treasure what you have now and let the future takes its course


good luck
;)
 
Thinking Positively (thru rosecolored glasses)

Spanktress said:
I've been in one long distance relationship - and positive outlook is the best way!!
They say love conquers all..
I'm also a believer in altho there are miles between the bodies the souls will always be as one.


*~* Spanks *~*
Click to expand...


:) Thank you Spanktress; positiveness is certainly a necessity, and I shall try to keep my spirits up. I do believe that love conquers all too, and I already feel that our souls are in sync.

Thanks also to lovetoread; first, for reading, and of course for your good wishes.

Thank your AsianMale for your insight too. Sounds like you have experienced this distance thing. I will also take your advice to just take each day (and hour) as it comes. I will try to get the other half of this pairing to respond as well. So far, so good...
 
Free Long Distance- Use MSN VOICE CHAT

msn voice chat IS WONDERFULL, NOT QUITE PHONE, BUT CB RADIO. it is free, allows you to talk all you want, just get a hotmail mail address, also free, then look for the chat download, and then just invite anyone else with a hotmail address, and the same chat software to join you, then anytime they are online you will know it and can have a chat using your computer mic. Its very simple, I have been using it for a cyber relation ship, and it works wonders, typing jusy is not the same as talking, in fact i prefer email, and voice chat, type chat is my last resource. Give this a try , It does have its bad days, slow connections sometimes means a 2 second delay in sound travel, but usually it works quite well. Also use a web cam to send short avi video greetings, if you are cyber buddies, this is a great way to find out what the other person looks and sounds like, a short greeting off 175k or so is easy to email, and can be very fun. You can also search the web, there are free audio/video chat sites, these I haven't tried, as I think my connection speed on dialup would be to slow, and it might be more technical for the other party to absorb, voice chat seems easy enough for anyone to setup. Hope this helps, Let me know if your having any trouble, I will do what I can to help! Peace. Mig.
 
JennyOmanHill said:
I would be very interested in hearing from anyone who has been, or plans to be, involved with someone living far far away from you.

Whether it be a favorite cyber buddy, or some "real world" someone special who is forced to live away from the home area, I would like to know any ideas or tips you could offer to help to keep a relationship like this alive..:confused:

I am at the start of such a relationship, and already sense feelings of loss and anxiousness (plus my mind "living" in two time zones at once), and yet I still maintain a very positive outlook that this will work out despite so many odds.

The internet allows for feelings of closeness with distant partners, and the phone is fine (but so expensive). Please feel free to offer any insight you can on dealing with this.

Many thanks:D
Click to expand...

It takes work. I was involved or wanted to be involved with a gal from Canada a while back. Many lies later it kinda died. First time I cried in a long time, so don't let anyone tell you it's not real.

I think it can work though. Good luck!


"How it is"

Once I thought that I knew joy
but I've never felt like this
where else but in paradise
could someone find such bliss.

Well Paradise is in your arms
and ecstacy your kiss
Pleasure is to feel your touch
and press your eager lips
Your presence love is all it takes
to bring me happiness.

Cause you've won my heart
I'm here for good
I'll love you like
no other could

You're the best that ever happened to me
trust me love and soon you'll see
no distance can ever seperate us
mere miles will never be enough

Cause I fell on my face in love with you
without you don't know what I'd do
And if any one managed to take you away
I know I'd die the very next day

Cause I love you sweetheart and thats for sure
you make my life mean so much more
without you I would surely die
I promise I'll never say "goodbye"
 
They can work, and they do work. However there are rules just like dating in real life.

Be close, and be honest. Let it take its own course without pushing it. These can actually offer you more than a face to face relationship because you will be more open. If you do eventually meet, and never rush the meeting, you will know more about the person than you would ever have imagined, without the superficial getting in the way.

I cannot stress honesty enough. If you lose that, you will never make it.
 
Re: Re: Long Distance Relationships

ShamelessFlirt said:


It takes work. I was involved or wanted to be involved with a gal from Canada a while back. Many lies later it kinda died. First time I cried in a long time, so don't let anyone tell you it's not real.

I think it can work though. Good luck!


"How it is"

Once I thought that I knew joy
but I've never felt like this
where else but in paradise
could someone find such bliss.

Well Paradise is in your arms
and ecstacy your kiss
Pleasure is to feel your touch
and press your eager lips
Your presence love is all it takes
to bring me happiness.

Cause you've won my heart
I'm here for good
I'll love you like
no other could

You're the best that ever happened to me
trust me love and soon you'll see
no distance can ever seperate us
mere miles will never be enough

Cause I fell on my face in love with you
without you don't know what I'd do
And if any one managed to take you away
I know I'd die the very next day

Cause I love you sweetheart and thats for sure
you make my life mean so much more
without you I would surely die
I promise I'll never say "goodbye"
Click to expand...


Shameless,
Beautiful poem.....you're such a romantic:)

Cassidy
 
some tips

LDRs are, as others have said, awfully difficult to sustain. It takes 'work' because the kind of thing that sustains a relationship--communication--doesn't seem much like work when you're around each other all the time.

Intimacy and trust are built from two main factors: proximity and self-disclosure. With one of those gone in an LDR, you gotta kick up the self-disclosure a few notches, which means talking about stuff you normally don't have to talk about when the partner is around you all the time (like what you wore that day, what you had to eat, who you talked to, etc.)

It will seem weird telling that kind of thing to your partner at first, but ya gotta talk about that 'trivial' shit. Ya just gotta. Actually, you'll find yourselves doing that a lot in the beginning...but keeping it up (so to speak) is where most people run into trouble.

Another good tip you've received is varying HOW you communicate. Email, phone, webcam, even--lord help us--LETTERS...audio tapes, videotapes...be creative!

And good luck,
Jack
 
Re: some tips

Jack Steed said:

It will seem weird telling that kind of thing to your partner at first, but ya gotta talk about that 'trivial' shit. Ya just gotta. Actually, you'll find yourselves doing that a lot in the beginning...but keeping it up (so to speak) is where most people run into trouble.
Click to expand...

What exactly is considered trivial? And what maybe would be too trivial?
 
Love your responses and ideas

Thank you ALL for your ideas and support!:)

We are definitely heading toward the MSN voice chat phase, and hopefully will have that going by the holidays (thanks Areacode).

Honesty was our number one "rule" as we started our connection (a trait I have always stressed in any close relationship, much to my Mom's distress -- some things she still doesn't want to know about!).

We recently experienced a mechanical "breakdown" (my broken PC), and we both realized from that point on how important sharing even insignificant tidbits can be.

I'm a bit surprised, but very relieved, that many of you share my hope and positiveness that this sort of LDR is quite possible. We both realize it won't be easy, but our hearts have already connected in a way that has never happened to me before in all my years!

I truly appreciate all your ideas and good wishes. Having this thread is also another way we are both addressing the questions each of us may not have thought of asking at this point.

And a special thanks to Shameless for gracing this thread with his thoughts and beautiful poetry!!
 
as pointed out earlier. communication is the key.
LDR's can work with some extra effort & consideration. i.e. missing an online 'date' without explanation. things IRL easily dealt
with by a simple phone call are often ignored
because of the extra effort to turn on puter & get on the net.
 
Long distance relationships

Thank you all, for addressing this subject...I think with the majority of people plugged in these days, it is a very relevant subject. i am in an online, VERY long distance, relationship i.e., the other side of the world.
I do think that it can work. Like otheres have stressed, honsty is super important. Can't stress it enough. I had a very bad couple of hours, trying to explain to my online love that the instant message i sent to another man did'nt mean what he thought it did. Or, to be honest, here... I had been in a relationship with this other guy just shortly before my new love. It went to his offline messages instead of where it was intended.
{There is a point in all this}...watch spreading yourself around, or even messaging others, cos you can't tell where they will end-up going. It was truly awful, and almost ended it for us. But we are ok... They can't see you in an online conversation, so they can't see the sincerity...only typed lines. Don't take ANYTHING for granted, or too lightly. Thank you for your pateince in indulging my rambling on.
Good luck in love to all!!!!!
 
in reply to lovetoread

Thank you very much for for the good wishes, lovetoread.
Very much appreciated.
espressolover:)
 
I've had one that ended badly (with a phone call) after 8 months.

"Sorry, I've met someone else."

OTOH, I've been involved in a LDR with someone wonderful for almost 4 years now.

Is it easy?

NO

Is it frustrating?

YES

Is it worth it? (Is any relationship?)

MOST DEFINITELY

It takes a lot of phone calls, instant messages and emails...patience, understanding, hope and love...but, I can't imagine my life without him in it, so, it is worth all the difficulties.
 
I agree

yes, i agree...it is alot of hard work...but worth every second of it..we try to talk everyday on the phone, so tht helps alot...keeps you feeling close and more connected and grounded.
Have you...or anyone else for tht matter...met your online loves yet?? I haven't been lucky like taht yet...but we're working towards that. He lives on the other side of the world from me....and believe me, sometimes that's a bit much to deal with. He is trying to get here...but since 9/11, it is extremely hard to get visa's and such...anyone else experiencing this?? Will welcome any thoughts or advice that you have...
Good luck, everyone, til then!
espressolover:)
 
Oh...I see you are still in the early stages of your relationship. I have not found love on the net, instant lust maybe,but I am weary of the other.

If I can be nosy,just how far away is he and have ya'll made plans to meet?
 
LD

Well I met me wife over the summer, but she was going to school halfway accross the country. Obviously, it worked out.
However, I have many friends/aquantences who have met people on line and had disasterous times when they finally met.

Unseen
 
Still hopefull

Wow....

I have not as yet MET my LDR, but we are planning on a meeting sometime after the holidays (unless I win the Lottery!).


I agree that honesty is the most important item in the list for dealing with any LDR.

For lovetoread: I don't blame you for being weary of a relationship through the net. I never expected to be involved AT ALL; but my heart just went with it, and, so far, I'm very glad it did.

For espressolover: communicating with my "man" has become a part of my everyday life, and I cannot feel happier about it. He travels a lot with his work, and the days I cannot reach him give me the opportunity to feel how empty my life is without him. Keep it going!

And georgia peach!: 4 years!! That's wonderful, and I share that feeling that it is definitely worth it! Sharing and understanding and HONESTY seem to be the key. Let's hope that all our LDR's keep going smoothly.

Thank you all for responding! Please keep me posted on any other LD happenings!
 
Was working on a story about just that

JennyOmanHill said:
Wow....

I have not as yet MET my LDR, but we are planning on a meeting sometime after the holidays (unless I win the Lottery!).


I agree that honesty is the most important item in the list for dealing with any LDR.


Thank you all for responding! Please keep me posted on any other LD happenings!
Click to expand...

****

I'm about finished with a story about meeting a Long Distance lover for the first time. Look for "In the flesh". I should be done by Friday, and it may even be approved by next week (the week of the 18th)
 
Re: Still hopefull

JennyOmanHill said:
Wow....

And georgia peach!: 4 years!! That's wonderful, and I share that feeling that it is definitely worth it! Sharing and understanding and HONESTY seem to be the key. Let's hope that all our LDR's keep going smoothly.

Thank you all for responding! Please keep me posted on any other LD happenings!
Click to expand...

I can't believe I left out HONESTY! :eek:

LOL...Sometimes he conveniently forgets to mention something, but that's not dishonesty. If anything, sometimes he is too honest, but we've never lied to each other about anything.

Thanks, I hope your LDR works out to be the most wonderful thing in your life too.
 
Re: Re: some tips

lovetoread said:


What exactly is considered trivial? And what maybe would be too trivial?
Click to expand...

By 'trivial stuff' I meant such things as what you wore that day, etc.--the stuff that starts getting left out of your answers to the "So, what did you do today?" question. After awhile, you just start answering, "Oh, the usual...." That's when you gotta start working harder.

~J~
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Similar threads

Jw75766
Question for DD/lg couples or people with experience in this....
Replies
5
Views
185
Jw75766
Jw75766
Saltfountain
Variations - Words edition...
25 26 27
Replies
673
Views
12K
lindi_85
lindi_85
Lord Pmann
Lord Pmann Wants to Discuss Gangbangs/Lily Phillips
2 3 4
Replies
77
Views
3K
Lord Pmann
Lord Pmann
Love_Is_Blonde
✨Highlights and Bombshells💥
35 36 37
Replies
915
Views
22K
peekingone
peekingone
PrettyLilPussy19
🌟📬THE JULY PM CHALLENGE📬 :: Year Five📮🌟
31 32 33
Replies
815
Views
20K
The_Quiet_Man
The_Quiet_Man
Back
Top