how to tell if a women has an orgasm

There are two tell tale signs I learned on a show called sex inspectors.

1.) The women well develope a rash on her chest

and/or

2.) You cant touch her clit without causing her pain

So ladies you cant get away with faking it anymore
And guys if you dont see one of these two signs you aren't doing you're job

Just thought I'd post this for those who don't know

That's bullshit.

If there were Oscars to be handed out for "Best Female Performance in a Faking Role" I would stand a good chance!

Yes, there are signs, but they are different for different people. If most men were a little more into 'reading' their partner's body they would eventually learn the difference. And I'm still saying I can or could fake it with M ANY time I wanted to, and he would still not know the difference.

Yes... I'm that good! Women learn to fake the body-effects too you know, we might, in some cases be blond, but we're not stupid..

And no (by the way), I have no reason nor desire to fake things with M. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen.

i dont care how good you are you CANT make your chest break out in a rash at will. nobody can. and those are the only two deffinite signs a woman has had an orgasm. say what you want but if you get done have sex and the girl is still pasty white she didnt blow thats that.

M's girl said:

That's bullshit.

If there were Oscars to be handed out for "Best Female Performance in a Faking Role" I would stand a good chance!

Yes, there are signs, but they are different for different people. If most men were a little more into 'reading' their partner's body they would eventually learn the difference. And I'm still saying I can or could fake it with M ANY time I wanted to, and he would still not know the difference.

Yes... I'm that good! Women learn to fake the body-effects too you know, we might, in some cases be blond, but we're not stupid..

And no (by the way), I have no reason nor desire to fake things with M. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen.

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Exactly. After more than seven years, I could still fake it with my husband if I wanted to, and he knows me really, really well, and has seen and felt thousands of my real ones.

Gamer, the "rash" isn't a rash, it's called 'sex flush' and is simply mottling or redness of the skin caused by blood coming to the surface (just like flushed cheeks when you're hot). It's just one sign of arousal, not orgasm.

Every woman is different. Most get hypersensitive after orgasm, but some don't. I can continue clitoral stimulation with a high-powered vibe through orgasm, inducing multiples. I'm not faking those, and certainly not when I'm all by myself.

Don't worry about faking; worry about learning to be so damn good at pleasing your partner so she won't have to fake. Don't pressure or get caught up in her orgasm either...women either fake to save/stroke egos, or to get bad/tiring sex over with. And find some more reliable sources of information (i.e. NOT The Sex Inspectors).

ok ok ok but.........oh fuck it. i never can when a fight with a damn women in real life anyways why should in hear be any different! but you know this if we go down on you long enough you'll go up in a fit of screams one way or the other.

and im sticking by my all my previous statements!

gamer9643 said:

ok ok ok but.........oh fuck it. i never can when a fight with a damn women in real life anyways why should in hear be any different! but you know this if we go down on you long enough you'll go up in a fit of screams one way or the other.

and im sticking by my all my previous statements!

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It's not a fight. You've gotten poor information, and we're trying to give you the good stuff. Instead of sticking to the load of crap, why don't you learn what's right and move on?

You're right, if you pleasure a woman correctly and for a long enough time, she's likely going to react (though some do just lay there like a cold fish) in some way and exhibit some signs of arousal. She may even orgasm.

so if im wrong what are the signs?

gamer9643 said:

ok ok ok but.........oh fuck it. i never can when a fight with a damn women in real life anyways why should in hear be any different! but you know this if we go down on you long enough you'll go up in a fit of screams one way or the other.

and im sticking by my all my previous statements!

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And I'm going to be nasty to you and say that thát is exactly the reason why you will NEVER figure it out and why some women will fake it with you...

Confidence is great, ignorance is a deathly habit in any relationship.

There, I said it and I'm too sticking with that!

gamer9643 said:

There are two tell tale signs I learned on a show called sex inspectors.

1.) The women well develope a rash on her chest

and/or

2.) You cant touch her clit without causing her pain

So ladies you cant get away with faking it anymore
And guys if you dont see one of these two signs you aren't doing you're job

Just thought I'd post this for those who don't know

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well HOT DAMN! if i knew that, i'd eat bad clams more often!!



I think, like SweetErika said, gamer, it's more like a "blush" not actually ON the skin per se, and it's probably a sign of arousal.

Be careful, also, when making observations about sexual responses to generalise...it could get you into hot water.

gamer9643 said:

There are two tell tale signs I learned on a show called sex inspectors.

2.) You cant touch her clit without causing her pain

So ladies you cant get away with faking it anymore
And guys if you dont see one of these two signs you aren't doing you're job

Just thought I'd post this for those who don't know

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and hey, if a guy thought thats how you can tell a woman's had an orgasm...then its unlikely he would get anywhere near my clit without me causing HIM pain

...and so how would we have multiples then? nooooooooo you cant take away my multiples!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hmmmmmmmmm!! I have NEVER developed a rash on my chest or elsewhere when having an orgasm. Nor have I ever heard females friends speak of this.

sorry

gamer9643 said:

ya'know what all i know is what i heard, personally im 22 and a virgin so you B!TC#E$ can bite me. i may be completely inexperianced but at least im not so rude to come of dismissing the few facts someone happens to come by. you have something i dont know about feel free to tell me but dont come in here telling me im ignorant just becausae my only source of info is tv and what i find on the net.

someone wants my opinion on a different subject i give it to them but when i have a post oh no god forbid the virgin has a thought that may be a little of track. well ladies you want to act so supperior you know what just dont post anything. you dont have something constructive to say then leave me the hell alone.

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I was going to let your post go, but no, i don't think I will.

You posted a VERY inflammatory first post, IMHO, stating "facts" about women's orgasms that, frankly, are blatantly incorrect at worst, and an outright overgeneralisation at best. And then you go on to accuse those of us who don't manifest said "signs* as faking it. Fine. You got some bad information, it happens and that's what Lit, and namely, this forum is for.

But then when you get some very knowledgable and expert advice from two very trusted and sought out advisers, you..."pooh-pooh'ed" their comments..and basically called them liars. But of course, who would know better if M's girl has had an orgasm than you.

Were all of our, especially my comments constructive...probably not.

But consider your own tone

The women shared with you PERSONAL responses that they thought would help you to understand the issue with a broader scope, and see that, you information was misguided, and frankly, could get you into trouble in the future.

But no, you continued to doggedly hold onto our claim. If only you were as quick to take on the comments of the women on this thread as you were to take the sex inspectors word as God's word on the female orgasm.

And so we got fed up with your disrespect and rudeness.

We're human.

As for calling us, or anyone for that matter, bitches, that aint gonna get you laid.

And your accusation that we would treat virgins or those with comparably less sexual experience differently is petty and immature. You will hardly ever, and I've never seen it myself, see anyone say "you're a virgin what do you know?" here.
Everyone who is open to suggestions or wants to give their own is always welcome to the boards of How To, that's why most of us hang around here. But you better give what you get. Don't expect a welcome wagon if you can't stick by the basic rules of respect. And anyway...this is Lit, someone else is ALWAYS going to be more experienced than you.

So, stick around. If, as you said, you're a virgin...and you're wanting to learn more, than do just that. LEARN. You've gotta be open to it. Don't project your insecurites on us.

And hey, do yourself a favor, listen to SweetErika, the lady knows what she's talking about.

SweetErika said:

Don't worry about faking; worry about learning to be so damn good at pleasing your partner so she won't have to fake. Don't pressure or get caught up in her orgasm either...women either fake to save/stroke egos, or to get bad/tiring sex over with. And find some more reliable sources of information (i.e. NOT The Sex Inspectors).

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Once again the wise and lovely sweet erika hit the nail on the proverbial head! (She's both lovely AND wise)...You want a hint from a guy who learned looooong ago? Learn the fine art of cunnilingus......Go there first and you won't have to worry about any "Fake" orgasms....Plus you'll get a birds and "tongue" eye view of a real live orgasm : (Plus once you've made her come that way, she's yours )

gamer9643 said:

ya'know what all i know is what i heard, personally im 22 and a virgin so you B!TC#E$ can bite me. i may be completely inexperianced but at least im not so rude to come of dismissing the few facts someone happens to come by....

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(Now I think I know why you're a virgin)

Keep speaking to women like this (and thinking about them in this way), you pimply faced twit...and the only orgasms you'll learn anything about will be your own...

gamer9643 said:

ya'know what all i know is what i heard, personally im 22 and a virgin so you B!TC#E$ can bite me. i may be completely inexperianced but at least im not so rude to come of dismissing the few facts someone happens to come by. you have something i dont know about feel free to tell me but dont come in here telling me im ignorant just becausae my only source of info is tv and what i find on the net.

someone wants my opinion on a different subject i give it to them but when i have a post oh no god forbid the virgin has a thought that may be a little of track. well ladies you want to act so supperior you know what just dont post anything. you dont have something constructive to say then leave me the hell alone.

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This is a How To forum...may I offer some unsolicted advice? Read a book called "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. It's a classic.

gamer9643 said:

There are two tell tale signs I learned on a show called sex inspectors.

1.) The women well develope a rash on her chest

and/or

2.) You cant touch her clit without causing her pain

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I think its quite hard to tell number 1 in the dark to be honest.

well Gamer,


i can usually tell by her abdominals starting to tense, her hips staring to grind and her grip on my hair tightening. Then she screams out and floods my face......mmmmmmmmmm.

as far as item #2, I can't touch her clit afterwards without her cumming again..and again...and again. I love having a multi orgasmic wife.

But that's just us, I could be wrong

Gamer,

Its not a 'rash'...its called flushing. As in "your cheeks look flushed...are you feeling feverish?"

This thread reminds me of a joke: Why do women fake orgasms? Because they think men care.

j/k

I try to please the wife every time, and usually I do. But sometimes, we're just not in-synch enough and it won't happen. when we first dated, she faked a few to make me feel good about my prowess.

But now that we COMMUNICATE we don't have that problem.

id like to apologize for earlier statements sometimes a get testy. i happen to be somewhat good looking but do to my utter lack of confidence and ability to sometimes "fly of the handle" (start cursing worse than a parrot) leaves me with only getting teased by girls ALOT.

guess thats why i sometimes have a poor atitude towards women. because sometimes i just feel like you're all just cold heartless you know whats who love nothing more then to excite me and turn me down. especially the girl in olympia sports who keeps flashing me but refuses to talk to me.

so if anyone has facts about the female orgasm besides the fact that you "excrete lubricating liquid" out of your pussy please let me know.

gamer9643 said:

id like to apologize for earlier statements sometimes a get testy. i happen to be somewhat good looking but do to my utter lack of confidence and ability to sometimes "fly of the handle" (start cursing worse than a parrot) leaves me with only getting teased by girls ALOT.

guess thats why i sometimes have a poor atitude towards women. because sometimes i just feel like you're all just cold heartless you know whats who love nothing more then to excite me and turn me down. especially the girl in olympia sports who keeps flashing me but refuses to talk to me.

so if anyone has facts about the female orgasm besides the fact that you "excrete lubricating liquid" out of your pussy please let me know.

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Your lack of experience creates an ignorance that you feed by denying the real truth when it's pointed out to you in favor of the delusions you've bought into.

You presented 'facts' which aren't facts at all, and then argued with every single woman who replied with her facts about what she has experienced. It wouldn't appear that you are open to learning anything.

This sort of attitude toward women won't get you anywhere closer to actually having one in your life.

ok i listen and understand. i thought i had the facts but aparently dont.
there are aparently many differt ways to tell if a woman has an orgasm.
please help educate this hopless excuse for a man.

Why dont' you just ask her? If she says yes, then ok. If she says no then ask her what you could do to help her cum. If she says yes but is lying then she has her reasons. The point is as a guy just don't get your pleasure and roll over and go to sleep.

Earl said:

Why dont' you just ask her? If she says yes, then ok. If she says no then ask her what you could do to help her cum. If she says yes but is lying then she has her reasons. The point is as a guy just don't get your pleasure and roll over and go to sleep.

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Exactly.

Look, gamer, as M's girl and I said, there are NO definitive ways to prove a woman has or has not had an orgasm...we can fake everything if so inclined. Focus on looking for signs of arousal and pleasure; that's going to be somewhat different for every woman, but generally things like breathing patterns, lubrication, engorged genitals, breast changes, being flushed, and verbal cues are pretty good indicators of arousal. Ask your lady what you can do, to give you lots of feedback, to show and tell you, and don't ever forget most of sex takes place between the ears.

Most women tend to bite off their mates' heads after orgasm.