Help My Gf Is A Tease

Hi me any my girl freind have been togeather now for a month and a half. we both Virgins still and havent done nothin more than kiss and hold eachother but she gets me so horny and hyped up at times i just want some info she is my 1st gf. I care for her alot and just wonna be able to read her signals correctly. any1 care to help me with a couple things. she teases me and knows all the spots and ways to turn me on takes great pleasure in doing so.

I want to be able to return the favour she knows i enjoy it when she teases me so how could i do it to her, ontop of clothin only ticklin in an option but she dont like it much and riggles alot when i do *normaly resulting in me ending up in pain to some extend a kick to the nuts and elbow in the face and the likes* what sort of signals will she give when she is turned on??

Thanx in advance its much appreciated

........abstinence?

Come back when you are old enough to be here-then we'll talk.

Higgarian said:

Hi me any my girl freind have been togeather now for a month and a half. we both Virgins still and havent done nothin more than kiss and hold eachother but she gets me so horny and hyped up at times i just want some info she is my 1st gf. I care for her alot and just wonna be able to read her signals correctly. any1 care to help me with a couple things. she teases me and knows all the spots and ways to turn me on takes great pleasure in doing so.

I want to be able to return the favour she knows i enjoy it when she teases me so how could i do it to her, ontop of clothin only ticklin in an option but she dont like it much and riggles alot when i do *normaly resulting in me ending up in pain to some extend a kick to the nuts and elbow in the face and the likes* what sort of signals will she give when she is turned on??

Thanx in advance its much appreciated

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some users from this place (lit) is sometimes rude to people that they think they are young (underage)

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CyberDrive said:

try this place son http://aaasexinfo.com/ they will answer ur question
some users from this place (lit) is sometimes rude to people that they think they are young (underage)

this site http://aaasexinfo.com/ is perfect for u and they will answer ur questions

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Here are some other great sites for the younger folk.

I don't think it's a matter of being rude - though anyone who ignores the 18+ rule shouldn't expect a warm reception - it's more exasperation over the fact that are plenty of resources for teens out there, but some choose to jeopardize our community anyway. If anyone's rude, I feel it's those who fail to follow the rules of this community, and that goes for underage posters, spammers, flooders, those who are malicious, etc.

SweetErika said:

If anyone's rude, I feel it's those who fail to follow the rules of this community, and that goes for underage posters, spammers, flooders, those who are malicious, etc.

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Just thought this was worth repeating.

I was checking this post again and, i think i came off as a prick.

if you are reading this bro, listen, sex isnt just something to do, its not 'the next step'.

its YOUR first time, its HER first time. dont just do it. make sure it means something. You can't count the number or regrets in the world, imagine actually being one of those ppl that doesnt have to feel that.

and this is all assumed you're 18. This site is awesome, truly is, make sure you respect its' rules.

Eilan said:

Just thought this was worth repeating.

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BlithereenGidyut said:

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Is that your needledick or are you flipping me off?

It's sad, really. The things one has to resort to when one can't argue coherently (that word's bigger that "ur," so you might want to look it up). Besides, I thought you were putting me on iggy.

ERm underage heh.. thats a funny 1 21 and underage for an 18+ board . yeah it may be odd to hear of a 21 yr/o virgin specialy a male 1 but heres the thing in high school it never bothered me loosin my virginity and it never did until i met my g/f we met at a work xmas do in town since then it has played on my mind alittle..

She teases me alot because she knows how thats the reason for this thread She has had a rough ish time with fellas in the past not her physicaly but the men that have been in her life through her ma have been bad 1ns im just not v good at readin signals on how hyped and horny she is hence the question i wonna know how to be able to turn her on but more so want to know how to tell if she was such as a way that she is acting or something that would be key to showing it.

As far as loosin mine goes its when she is ready to loose hers but that wont be for a lil while since i aint going to pressure her into it. She is v self contious about how she looks i thought that maybe showin her i do actually want her physicialy might help eleviat her stressin herself out about it a little. Im besoted i think she is 1 of the most stunningly good lookin girls i have ever met she which she is and makes me happy being with her. Im preparing myself tbh with you i dont know when sex will happen but i dont wonn fail her when it does but till then it would be nice to let her know some how that i DO find her atractive and the way that i thought was to tease her the same way she does me returning the favour.

Higgarian said:

ERm underage heh.. thats a funny 1 21 and underage for an 18+ board .

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Underage Litsters generally don't fill out their profiles. Your profile isn't filled out. We have no way of knowing how old you really are.

So you're 21. I think that the reason you were accused of being underage (and I tend to agree with those folks) is because your writing skills are at about a seventh grade level. I'm sure I'll get flamed for saying so, but c'est la vie. Is English not your native language, then? If it's not, that's fine. Just let us know, because we're not unsympathetic to that.

Now to the topic at hand. . .

You haven't been together that long; if you think there's real relationship potential here, then why rush things? If she's had a negative history with the other guys she's dated, then it's not surprising that she's a little apprehensive about having any sort of physical relationship. If you push her too hard, you just might push her away.

I du not think can hep you. pleeze be carfull not 2 breed.

Do appologise for not filling out my profile sooner. What can i say when you fill in the app for membership of a forum late on at night before you head to bed having to be at work for 5:45 am (well ok it was about 8pm but thats late when your up for 4 ish) and my litirary skills are not all that good due to personal reasons. Having a Dissability does that to you. Also using things such as IRC alot kind of makes you get used to using alot of short hand in the way you type having less time to respond to people. English is the only language i speek Spoken i would sound my age but this is not spoken its writen.

I would have taken more time with my first post on these boards if i had of expected the reply's that i did get to be flames not what i signed up here for. The people of this board seem informed on many differant subjects from some of the threads that i have read however it is Erotica in the end so the main subjects at hand would (to my knoledge anyways) of course be sex. I was never after sex tips or nothing more just general first hand knowledge from real people that do actually have their brains engaged That being the reason i posted here in the first place.

I guess it probably wasnt the best thought out first post you have ever read on these boards so as i said previously, my appologies

Talk?

Guys are not born with an innate sense of what pleases women. And all women are different, so they're a lifelong learning experience. Fumbling around with her may get get you nothing but frustration, so why not talk about it? Talking about sex can be a great turn on, so....

Higgarian said:

Hi me any my girl freind have been togeather now for a month and a half. we both Virgins still and havent done nothin more than kiss and hold eachother but she gets me so horny and hyped up at times i just want some info she is my 1st gf. I care for her alot and just wonna be able to read her signals correctly. any1 care to help me with a couple things. she teases me and knows all the spots and ways to turn me on takes great pleasure in doing so.

I want to be able to return the favour she knows i enjoy it when she teases me so how could i do it to her, ontop of clothin only ticklin in an option but she dont like it much and riggles alot when i do *normaly resulting in me ending up in pain to some extend a kick to the nuts and elbow in the face and the likes* what sort of signals will she give when she is turned on??

Thanx in advance its much appreciated

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Okay, I'm not clear about what you want tips on if she DOESN'T like the "clothing-tickling" stuff, and you can't go underneath her clothing. I suppose you might do things like kiss and lick her neck, gently rub her nipples through her bra, kiss and stroke any exposed skin, and stroke over her panties, etc. Other than those types of things or non-touching stuff like reading stories and talking, I'm really at a loss.

You should know if she's getting turned on by the pattern of her breathing (usually more rapid), moans, sighs, maybe hardening nipples (though many women can be very turned on and not have this), and body movements. If you don't know, ask for feedback: Does this feel good? How does this feel? What can I do to make you feel good? Are you enjoying this? etc.

While you're wating for things to progress, read up on womens' bodies and pleasure. Learn about the clitoris, labia, vagina, breasts, cunnilingus, the g-spot, sex, and romance. You can never have too much knowledge, and even if it doesn't work with this woman, it'll benefit you in the future. A good place to start is The Blank Manual and http://www.the-clitoris.com/ , http://www.clitical.com , and http://www.bettydodson.com are other great resources.

After reading your third post, I apologize if I came across as rude.

no need to worry about it wasnt all that bad a flame ive had far far worse . Thanx erica that kinda helps a bit. the clothing thing aint so much a problem my hands rome somewhat freely (around her uper body anyways only place i dont put my hands is well u can guess she is same with me) just she is as i said v self contous worry's about the way she looks even though many ppl say she has a figure to die for.

Im not pushing into anythings not exactly wanting to go out and get laid with her right now i just as Saguaro said fumbling round can get flustraiting its fun knowin a few little things on how to turn her on a few of her buttons to press to tease her like she does me. Thats the reason for this post what better way to find out how to have a little fun with her than from a bunch of experienced people..

Erika you said i could tell from her breathing and body movements. sorry to be a pain i know but could u elaberate what sort of body movements?? (maybe it is a rather dumb question but i dont want to mistake something she does normaly as something else).

We have talked about it somewhat (somewhat after i had 1 of those websites open on my comp forgot about it she came round went to use MSN and saw it open...) we both said nothing will happen yet she wants to wait a while and i respect that. Hence why i said ontop of clothes only because i dont want her to feel under any presure or that im out for anything other than wanting to be with her.

I will give you some general teasing things that I do, and that work. These are mastered and apart of an amazing Ravin sex class. (ok so I am just full of myself today!!)


ANYWAYS...

I don't know how far you are willing to go, but a simple one is to stroke her hair, and start around her hair line on her forhead and work back. I do not know a women alive who does not love their hair stroked softly. You can also follow this up by going around her ear.

You really want to tease her, if you are kissing or just close, start with the hair thing and start kissing her neck. Learn this skill my friend. It is invaluable. Again I don't know a women who doesn't like this.

Another stop, gently glide your hand down her arms. If you want to get really going, go with her legs. Even if she is wearing clothing, you can still do this. Start lower and work up. Before you know it you will be close to her thigh. Watch her reactions and go closer. Work your way up, and I am not saying grab a hand full of her "area" but work around it. The biggest tease I have learn is to not touch a women were she wants to be touched. My girlfriend hates (but loves) when I go arond her vagina lips because it feels nice, but in the same sense, she wants me to touch her in that area.

Another thing, if you can give a good massage, try her feet. Women can orgasim from there feet. (select few) but it can be a real turn on if done right. You want to focus on the middle of her foot when doing this.

Hope this all helps. Good luck.


Ravin

Cheers that helps Ill give it a shot the hair thing i understand she does that 1 to me hell she has had me nearly fallin asleep in he arms with that 1... dunno why it makes me feel sleepy and light headed but ah well thats life also i got a realy tiklish spot top of my head that 1 is hard to explain makes me giggle like a school girl.. or muttly depending how she tickles me

Next time you're with her and aroused, pay attention to your own breathing...see how you're breathing faster, more shallow, and heavier overall? Your pulse increases, and you may take deeper breaths every once in awhile? Something similar (though maybe less obvious because women breathe slower and deeper naturally) may happen when she's aroused.

As for body movements, she may squirm, move her torso or pelvis toward you, wrap her legs around you or generally press against you, arch her back, hold you tighter, etc. If she's moving everything away from you or tries to redirect your attention to another part/activity, she may be telling you she doesn't love what you're doing or would like something else. Don't take any of this as the gospel though; some people will lie there like a cold fish no matter how aroused they are.

Bottom line: Keep talking and asking her for feedback because she's the only one who can truly tell you what's working and what isn't.

Yeah i know what you mean now i have noticed her breathing change. and the movin towards me wouldnt be the 1st time she hurt my neck when she but her arms around me pullin me close but i wasnt going to complain i like being close to her even if it hurts a little she has yet to complain about anything that i have done bar tickling her and most of the time im not even tryin to my hands might be totaly still yet it seems to tickle her around her sides and just below her arms.

Only time she pulled away from me was when i tickled her outright and a little aggressivly and she riggled to hell and back hence me getting kicked in the balls by accident... she still appologises for that 1 a month or so on hehe.

is it normal for girls to get goose bumps if turned on slightly. i kinda kissed her neck a few times 2day and i sort of noticed that if i kissed her gentaly and then blew just as gental on her neck she got goose bumps all over also got them if i stroked her thigh its probably just a stupid question but what can i say newbie here

It's fairly normal yes, the goose bumps thing but it won't happen with everyone.

From what I can discern from the things you've written? Your girl friend is not a tease. She is a virgin. She is exploring sexy moments with you. That means she trusts you to a certain extent. That is an important thing that should be treasured.

If you are simply looking to get fucked, maybe you should seek someone else out.

Thinking of a girl who isn't fucking you but who is trusting you and who is being somewhat intimate with you in that trust as a tease just really tweaks my antennae. It can lead to really bad things for you both, if you don't respect and care about her enough to see her as a nice, sincere girl who for some reason just happens to be spending time with you and trusting you.

Fury

Hey Furry thanx let me explain only reason i used the tearm tease her is because of the point she made that she had worked out that i was easy to tease she did it by accident and worked out how easily done it was so for fun she does it to me now. I see her as a very nice sincere girl. Thats what i like about her that she is realy sincere, she is my first love never cared enough about anyone to get this close to them.

In her own words her actions show what she cant put into words. She says she is no good and putting into words how she feels. I on the other hand dont have such a problem it doesnt take me as much effort to string my emotional state into words. Writing them down is a differant matter all togeather for me experssing my fealings on paper is harder than speaking them out aloud.

The trust thing comes down to both of us not just her. Let me explain something my acctions last night when i was with her. I went round to her house to keep her company while her ma was out with friends we sat playin on Final Fantasy 10 togeather im a soppy git and and always have loved the romantic part of the stories to the games hence why i own 7-X-2. We spent a couple hours playin it then went into her living room to watch a DVD well it turned half 9 when the film ended and she looked tired so we went into her room and sat talkin for a little while kissing a little cuddling up to eachother on her bed (hence when she got the goose bumps) well she ended up falling with me lay on my back her head lay on my arm with was softly gently wrapped around her neck her hand on my side and other hand in mine then fell asleep.

after a while i had let her drift off into as heavy asleep as i could gently removed my arm from round her neck area pulled myself away so as not to wake her up covered her over with a blanket put my shoes and jacket on and left her asleep on her bed let myself out makin sure the door locked behind me then headed home.

The reason i tell you this? i trust her with my full heart i have told her things about me and my past that i trust no one else with. Not freinds i have know for years not even my own family. I see alot of potential with her. She is someone i could see myself with happily for a long time. I dont know if it will be for life, Years, months, Weeks, Days or even just a few more hours but i feel closer to her than i have anyone in my life so far.

I was not lookin to meet her when i did. I met her at a work xmas due i work for a Franchise of Mcdonalds after leavin college i found myself working here for 4 years. Say what you like about the job but ive enjoyed my time there alot. She works for the same Franchisee but in a differant store. Hence how we met at the same Works xmas party.

I was in a santa suit (thats me up for fun and a good laugh will do next to anything to have a good time within reason anyways) we met talked in a club and danced around a little then exchanged phone numbers. I was never lookin for someone that night for more than anything other than to dance with. But now a month and a half on she is my GF i feel very close to her Im happier in myself for being with her. Part of me feels somewhat full for being with her as if i have found part of myself since i met her that i didnt know i was missing.

She worked out around 2 weeks after meeting me how to turn me on how to tease me and she does it because she knows to an extent i enjoy it and seems to enjoy doing it to me. That is why i posted here for advice i wanted to be able to have the same sort of fun with her she does with me knowing that she is even slightly turned on and having fun.

I do not expect to get laid out of this, Im not lookin for tips on how to seduce her into having sex. If that happens it happens an added bonus to being with her. But its not something that care to much about having never had it i cant realy miss it. Although i wont deny i have thought about what it would be like with her Im only human after all its not as if im going through the motions with her at times and it hasnt popped into my mind that yeah i would love to fuck her right here and right now. That i havent thought about nailin her to the bedposts or so to speak. At the end of the day im not ready for it myself the thought of sex with her of anyone else scares me a little if i get an erection when im with her i end up loosin it within a minute or so because of nerves.

Us having sex (assuming we ever do) could take years. I dont know what the future holds. I dont posses the 6th sence. I dont own a crystal ball so cant tell the future. I live my life only by one simple saying. Carpe Diem, Memento Mori. Sieze the day - For you only live once (well roughtly translated thats the sentiment behind it) I only live for the moment im in i do not plan to much for the future or dwell on the past. At this monent I am going out with the girl of my dreams and enjoying every second i spend with her sex is not realy an issue just making sure she enjoys our time togeather as much as i do is.

Sorry i know this post is a little long winded and probably wrote out rather crapply but as i said my english skills are not amazing but im sure u get the point. She is not the only one investing trust into the relationship we are intimate together placing what i hope is trust equaly in eachother i know i care for her alot and am pretty damn sure she does me from her actions around me and the way we are together and from from her own words.

Hi Higgarian,

Thanks for that post! I am so glad you wrote it. Now I better understand. I think it's great you truly care for her. I love the idea of you carefully untangling from her and simply covering her up while she's asleep!

I'm not against sex at all! I love it but a first time is important for you both. For a girl it can be really hard to give permission to herself to go for that.

I couldn't say yes to myself or him. I was raped the first time by someone I loved and trusted so the issue of being called a tease and being a virgin is a little sensitive for me.

Teasing can be a very hot thing that I love. I tend to tease my man constantly. I like us both to be on the edge, thinking about sex all the time.

So what help are you looking for? Being able to read her signs better? Relief?

You do masturbate right?

In any case, thanks for the long post. I happen to like long posts in general and true understanding even more so.

Fury