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angelicminx

angelicminx

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I wanted to get other opinions on a topic that seems to confuse people... (maybe just me?)

Are you truly "In Love" if you have sexual desire for someone else?



Edit to the wording of my thread...

Are you truly "IN LOVE" with one person if you feel sexual desire for someone else... whether acted upon or not?
 
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Sex is not love and love is not sex, but I've always thought that if you have to ask, it's probably not love. :rose:
 
Can't say. Not enough information.

Wait a bit. If the feeling goes away, you're probably just horny. ;)
 
angelicminx said:
I wanted to get other opinions on a topic that seems to confuse people... (maybe just me?)

Are you truly "In Love" if you have sexual desire for someone else?
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No dear, you're in lust if it's purely sexual, love transends such things as 'purely sexual' into wanting to be with someone no matter what, nookie or no nookie. Mind you I must admit a good mind bending spine twisting F*** doesn't go amiss in a real love lusting ;)
 
I've always regarded love as more an action than a feeling.
But I'm dysthymic, so don't go by that. ;)
 
elizabethwest said:
You can be in lust with someone without being in love with them. ;)
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and by the same token, you can be "in love" with someone without the distraction of sex.
 
Edit to the wording of my thread...

Are you truly "IN LOVE" with one person if you feel sexual desire for someone else... whether acted upon or not?
 
angelicminx said:
Edit to the wording of my thread...

Are you truly "IN LOVE" with one person if you feel sexual desire for someone else... whether acted upon or not?
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Knew what you meant, sweets. I still gotta stick by my original statement. If you have to ask, it's probably not love. :rose:
 
minsue said:
Knew what you meant, sweets. I still gotta stick by my original statement. If you have to ask, it's probably not love. :rose:
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That's what I was thinking myself... but I have had others argue with me... thought it would be interesting to get other points of view though... ;)
 
angelicminx said:
Edit to the wording of my thread...

Are you truly "IN LOVE" with one person if you feel sexual desire for someone else... whether acted upon or not?
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Possibly.

That's what makes it so gosh darned confuzzling at times.
 
When I am "in love" (and I admit, it doesn't happen to me often…like maybe twice in 28 years), I tend to be so possessed by my desire for the person I love, that it eclipses all others. While I am with that person, I can appreciate the ascetic appeal of other people, but my "love" is all I see.

But, I am young, tenacious, and stupid and my longest relationship lasted 10 years. In that time, I loved others, but I didn't really desire anyone else.

Luck,

Yui
 
Yes. If you think you're in love, then you're in love. Whether you have to ask or not. Whether it is unrequited or not. Wether you're shagging someone else or not. If you think you are in love, then you are in love.

"I thought I was in love but..." But nothing, you were in love.

"I think I'm in love with him/her but..." But nothing, you are in love.

"How can I love someone like that?" You are in love.

"They treat me like shit and I stay with them." You are in love.

Being "in" love isn't necessarily love either. by Perdita
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Love has no boundaries. It comes in many different guises. Love just is.
 
Gauche, you are oft' too fucking subtle and brilliant for me. That's Ok. I take back my post above.

Perdita :kiss:
 
gauchecritic said:
Yes. If you think you're in love, then you're in love. Whether you have to ask or not. Whether it is unrequited or not. Wether you're shagging someone else or not. If you think you are in love, then you are in love.

"I thought I was in love but..." But nothing, you were in love.

"I think I'm in love with him/her but..." But nothing, you are in love.

"How can I love someone like that?" You are in love.

"They treat me like shit and I stay with them." You are in love.



Love has no boundaries. It comes in many different guises. Love just is.
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Simply genius.
 
It's been my experience that you can be in love with one person and still lust over another. It's just biology. When you're in love doesn't mean you're dead. I know it sounds cliche, but it's true. Humans wear clothes and drive cars but they're still wild animals with primal instincts. Grrrr. Whether or not you give into those urges is up to you. :catroar:
 
OhMissScarlett said:
It's been my experience that you can be in love with one person and still lust over another. It's just biology. When you're in love doesn't mean you're dead. I know it sounds cliche, but it's true. Humans wear clothes and drive cars but they're still wild animals with primal instincts. Grrrr. Whether or not you give into those urges is up to you. :catroar:
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You know, you do bring out in me certain "animal" urges, Miss Scarlett... :catroar:

P.S. Our cats are roaring in sync and it's sort of hypnotic...
 
OhMissScarlett said:
It's been my experience that you can be in love with one person and still lust over another. It's just biology. When you're in love doesn't mean you're dead. I know it sounds cliche, but it's true. Humans wear clothes and drive cars but they're still wild animals with primal instincts. Grrrr. Whether or not you give into those urges is up to you. :catroar:
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I can barely remember this, but being so-called "in love" generated a certain sexual obsession. I could've had someone else (or anyone else) and just didn't want them.
 
I think part of the problem with love/lust is, love attracts you to a person for different reasons, but lust kicks in to 'rev' up that love so that all best reasons to be with each other are out in force.

In reality, love is one thing, and seperate and different than lust.

It is totally possible to want to fuck someone's eyeballs out while not loving them, and on the same hand, love someone and not want to have anything sexual at all to do with them.

Usually, love of another is accompanied with lust of them as well (in the case of non-relatives...well...usually that is) and that makes the best of both worlds.

Does that help at all? I see so many better answers above, I wonder ed about even adding mine. :) :rose:
 
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