I saw this column in 'Dear Abby' and decided to put it out there for debate. Some of these tips were by "Abby" herself, and some were examples given by readers. This is all paraphrased, so that good stuff is property of Dear Abby, and any mistakes are unmistakably mine. And of course, in most instances "He" and "She" is interchangeable...but of course, we knew that.
I got a kick out of it, mostly because it's so questionable...I was married to a man who cheated, and only ONE of these gave him away (secret email account).
Yet the man I am engaged to is a musician, on the road often, and because of the nature of his work, many of those can apply to him...but I know he's faithful.
Just thought I would throw it out for debate.
S.
SIGNS YOUR MATE IS CHEATING:
- He plays more golf, goes fishing more often, etc.
- You find birth control pills in her purse, and you've had a vasectomy.
- Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you.
- He stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
- Sets up new email account and doesn't tell you about it.
- He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Safeguard and returns smelling like Irish Spring.
- He refuses to let you take him to the airport when he's leaving town.
- He carries condoms and you are on the pill.
- Begins to delete all incoming calls from the caller ID.
- He becomes 'accusatory', asking if YOU are being true to HIM.
- Raises hypothetical questions, such as "Do you think it's possible to love more than one person at one time?"
- He buys himself new and nicer underwear.
- He insists that the child seat, toys, etc. be kept out of his car.
- She stops wearing her wedding ring.
- Has a sudden desire to be very helpful with the laundry.
- Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his neck and back.
- Suddenly wants to try new techniques, after not wanting to try anything new for a long time.
- Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but you never see the extra cash.
- Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.
- Suddenly has new friends that you never meet.
- You find out by accident that she took a vacation day or personal time off from work...but supposedly worked on those days.
- Shows a sudden interest in different types of music.
- Her coworkers are uncomfortable in your presence.
- Has a sudden preoccupation with his appearance.
- Spends an excessive amount of time on the internet, especially after you have gone to bed.
- Suddenly works long hours on weekends.
- Never seems to be at his desk when you call. Always "in a conference" or a "meeting".
- Has lots of "emergency errands"...then comes home empty-handed, saying, "they didn't have what I needed".
- Unfamiliar charges on credit card bills.
- Excessive ATM withdrawls.
- Hang-ups and 'wrong numbers' happen more often...and you have an unlisted number.
- The number one sign? Having to ask yourself the question in the FIRST place.
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I got a kick out of it, mostly because it's so questionable...I was married to a man who cheated, and only ONE of these gave him away (secret email account).
Yet the man I am engaged to is a musician, on the road often, and because of the nature of his work, many of those can apply to him...but I know he's faithful.
Just thought I would throw it out for debate.
S.
SIGNS YOUR MATE IS CHEATING:
- He plays more golf, goes fishing more often, etc.
- You find birth control pills in her purse, and you've had a vasectomy.
- Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you.
- He stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
- Sets up new email account and doesn't tell you about it.
- He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Safeguard and returns smelling like Irish Spring.
- He refuses to let you take him to the airport when he's leaving town.
- He carries condoms and you are on the pill.
- Begins to delete all incoming calls from the caller ID.
- He becomes 'accusatory', asking if YOU are being true to HIM.
- Raises hypothetical questions, such as "Do you think it's possible to love more than one person at one time?"
- He buys himself new and nicer underwear.
- He insists that the child seat, toys, etc. be kept out of his car.
- She stops wearing her wedding ring.
- Has a sudden desire to be very helpful with the laundry.
- Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his neck and back.
- Suddenly wants to try new techniques, after not wanting to try anything new for a long time.
- Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but you never see the extra cash.
- Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.
- Suddenly has new friends that you never meet.
- You find out by accident that she took a vacation day or personal time off from work...but supposedly worked on those days.
- Shows a sudden interest in different types of music.
- Her coworkers are uncomfortable in your presence.
- Has a sudden preoccupation with his appearance.
- Spends an excessive amount of time on the internet, especially after you have gone to bed.
- Suddenly works long hours on weekends.
- Never seems to be at his desk when you call. Always "in a conference" or a "meeting".
- Has lots of "emergency errands"...then comes home empty-handed, saying, "they didn't have what I needed".
- Unfamiliar charges on credit card bills.
- Excessive ATM withdrawls.
- Hang-ups and 'wrong numbers' happen more often...and you have an unlisted number.
- The number one sign? Having to ask yourself the question in the FIRST place.
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