A ritual to transfer ownership of a submissive

MasterAnimus

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This is an idea borne out of a situation - where a submissive, a married woman, lives long distance from her dom. Over time, meetings became more and more complicated, since life happens. The last time they saw each other was about 2 years ago, and they still live out their fantasies through emails.

Dom decides, and the sub agrees, that her ownership be transferred to a dom who lives close by. Sub is thrilled by just the though of the dom going through an "interview process" to find the right dom for her, but only knowing about it at a ritual where her dom transfers ownership to the new dom. The ritual is attended by a few others, primarily as a witness to the transfer. The dom "plays" with the sub for one last time, before he watches the new dom take over. The dom gets to keep some rights to the sub, if by chance he visits the sub in her town.

I was also inspired by the orgy scene from the movie "Eyes wide shut," although the story need not involve any orgy.
 
I have difficulty with his idea because with any dom/sub relationship there has to be a lot of trust. It would be a rare sub to allow a stranger to take charge of her, without a honeymoon period.
 
This is an idea borne out of a situation - where a submissive, a married woman, lives long distance from her dom. Over time, meetings became more and more complicated, since life happens. The last time they saw each other was about 2 years ago, and they still live out their fantasies through emails.

Dom decides, and the sub agrees, that her ownership be transferred to a dom who lives close by. Sub is thrilled by just the though of the dom going through an "interview process" to find the right dom for her, but only knowing about it at a ritual where her dom transfers ownership to the new dom. The ritual is attended by a few others, primarily as a witness to the transfer. The dom "plays" with the sub for one last time, before he watches the new dom take over. The dom gets to keep some rights to the sub, if by chance he visits the sub in her town.

I was also inspired by the orgy scene from the movie "Eyes wide shut," although the story need not involve any orgy.
Have you ever watched the movie: The Story of O?

It has this same theme.
 
The idea of transferring a sub from one Dom(me) to another is interesting, IMO. The completely broken, no-self-worth sub going for something like the original post could make for a potentially hot tale for the ends of the spectrum - the very dominant and the very submissive, or those who enjoy dreams thereof.

A sub with a spine would, as Rob mentioned, likely require quite a bit extra. An introduction to a local Dom(me) via a munch or public coffee or something? Sure, I can see that. A recommendation from the current Dom that Dom#2 follows SSC guidelines over the last x years they’ve known each other? Definitely. A passing of the leash in the night at a quiet truck stop? Not so much
 
The idea of transferring a sub from one Dom(me) to another is interesting, IMO. The completely broken, no-self-worth sub going for something like the original post could make for a potentially hot tale for the ends of the spectrum - the very dominant and the very submissive, or those who enjoy dreams thereof.

A sub with a spine would, as Rob mentioned, likely require quite a bit extra. An introduction to a local Dom(me) via a munch or public coffee or something? Sure, I can see that. A recommendation from the current Dom that Dom#2 follows SSC guidelines over the last x years they’ve known each other? Definitely. A passing of the leash in the night at a quiet truck stop? Not so much
I totally get the trust issue, and again I love building this up vs "passing of the leash" (which I didn't imply). The crux of the idea is in the ritualistic way of transfer, but in no way indicating there's no building up of trust, etc. prior.

Another angle is - where the sub meets, over time, a few candidates and makes a recommendation to her Dom on whom she would prefer.
 
I totally get the trust issue, and again I love building this up vs "passing of the leash" (which I didn't imply). The crux of the idea is in the ritualistic way of transfer, but in no way indicating there's no building up of trust, etc. prior.

Another angle is - where the sub meets, over time, a few candidates and makes a recommendation to her Dom on whom she would prefer.
So, a number of meetings, including group "play dates", either separate groups watching each other but not physically interacting and/or a conjoined group over time and building trust, familiarity, etc that way? Yeah that'd make a whole lot more sense than what I had(n't) been thinking.

As to a ritual wouldn't it depend on the symbology the Dom has built up with the sub? I mean, if they don't do leash play, then Dom 1 putting the sub on a leash, the handle of the leash in the sub's mouth, and letting them/having them crawl to Dom 2 wouldn't really work, would it? Maybe passing the sub's favorite toy - a crop or a flogger, maybe? - especially if the sub's into degradation/objectification. "Here's a new toy. Oh, heck, take 2, the sub's not much but better than nothing."

Or are you thinking more of a 'wedding vows'/negotiation scene? If that was formally done in the first relationship, perhaps having Dom 1 read the old rules, one-by-one, and the sub offering new vows to the new Dom in their place? Maybe Dom 1 "formally releases" the sub from their prior vows?

A locked collar is another possible part of a ritual. Dom 1 gives the sub the key and telling them their options - Remove the collar or present the key to another Dom they trust.

As noted above, really depends on the imagery and rituals the sub's been used to, and the rituals/symbology the new Dom expects, or at least so I'd think.
 
This is a fun idea, perhaps there’s a friendly competition between the Dominant people (who says the Dom has to be male.)

It could be like a kinky bachelor/ bachelorette
 
This is a fun idea, perhaps there’s a friendly competition between the Dominant people (who says the Dom has to be male.)

It could be like a kinky bachelor/ bachelorette
"Who Wants to Be Submissive" perhaps? :)

I wonder what the Challenges might end up being? "Most uniform red ass"? "quickest training" (requires multiple subs)? "Heavy/Light", a challenge to use a cane on a watermelon and break the rind then on a super-ripe peach and not even bruise it? "Singletail precision" - extinguish every other candle flame on a long row of lit candles that start out a reasonable distance apart but end up side-by-side?

Not sure on the sub side? "Perfect Posture" switching between various stances? "Silence" - regardless of stimulus, not making a noise. Blindfold suggested.
 
"Who Wants to Be Submissive" perhaps? :)

I wonder what the Challenges might end up being? "Most uniform red ass"? "quickest training" (requires multiple subs)? "Heavy/Light", a challenge to use a cane on a watermelon and break the rind then on a super-ripe peach and not even bruise it? "Singletail precision" - extinguish every other candle flame on a long row of lit candles that start out a reasonable distance apart but end up side-by-side?

Not sure on the sub side? "Perfect Posture" switching between various stances? "Silence" - regardless of stimulus, not making a noise. Blindfold suggested.
I would need a romantic element to it.

The real world isn’t always chains and whips.. sometimes it’s more subtle, and less painful… a red ass hurts..

Sometimes a arm around a waist, or a hand on the lower back guiding someone can be huge.
 
Long ago, I got to know a young woman online and she opened up about her kinks and her long-distance submissive relationship. We met online, but, lived in the same city. At some point several people from this online community got together for dinner so I got to meet her in person. She was surprisingly hot. (just statistically, I assumed she probably wasn't :) )

We went on a couple of dates. Knowing her kinks, I flirted a bit about bondage, but, she said that was only for her master who "owned" her and had only allowed her to go on "regular" dates.

Her master was also part of the same online community and I got to talk to him some as well. He was jealous that I got to see her in person, even though our dating was pretty casual.

He shipped a dog collar to me to delivery to her the next time I saw her. She was just out of college and living with her parents, so shipping it to her wasn't ideal. And, I'd convinced him that her putting it on herself didn't have the same symbolism as it being put on her. They were both excited.

BUT... I told them that he had to first transfer ownership of her to me so I could put it on her as her master. Then, I'd give her back to him. I argued that it wouldn't be "real" otherwise. Initially, they protested that you can't just "give" someone like that. I argued that it's not really ownership unless you can. They really wanted it all to be real - that was part of the turnon for them both. He didn't like me suggesting that if she didn't honor him giving her to someone else, then he didn't really own her. What better way for her to prove it? Otherwise it's just a game.

I assured him that I wasn't that into the kink so he didn't have much to worry about, and I assured him I'd return her to him... though, I also told him he was right to worry since he had no recourse if I reneged and trying to resume their master/slave relationship without me giving her back would just show that it was never real before.

So... (all that was context for this part :) ) he made a big ceremony out of it with a contract and a proclamation that he had written up, and declaring the collar a symbol that ownership had changed.

I met her at a nearby movie theater with the collar and put it on her, then led her with a leash across the parking lot. During the movie pulled her toward me periodically. That night I just dropped her back at her parents wearing her collar. The next day, instead of giving her back, I told her I wasn't quite done with her and would come pick her up for another date.

I rented Kiss the Girls (back when you did that at Blockbuster :)) - a movie she hadn't seen, but, I knew would hit several of her kink "buttons". I toyed with her a bit in ways I knew were buttons for her... having her crawl like a dog. Pushing her off the couch mid-movie since animals aren't allowed on furniture, then calling her back on like a well-loved pet, but having her rest her head in my lap.

Not much more than that... mostly I wanted to make them both stress that I wasn't giving her back right away. I figured that was a gift to them... making their play time that much more real once I did.

In retrospect, I wish I'd played more. :)
 
Long ago, I got to know a young woman online and she opened up about her kinks and her long-distance submissive relationship. We met online, but, lived in the same city. At some point several people from this online community got together for dinner so I got to meet her in person. She was surprisingly hot. (just statistically, I assumed she probably wasn't :) )

We went on a couple of dates. Knowing her kinks, I flirted a bit about bondage, but, she said that was only for her master who "owned" her and had only allowed her to go on "regular" dates.

Her master was also part of the same online community and I got to talk to him some as well. He was jealous that I got to see her in person, even though our dating was pretty casual.

He shipped a dog collar to me to delivery to her the next time I saw her. She was just out of college and living with her parents, so shipping it to her wasn't ideal. And, I'd convinced him that her putting it on herself didn't have the same symbolism as it being put on her. They were both excited.

BUT... I told them that he had to first transfer ownership of her to me so I could put it on her as her master. Then, I'd give her back to him. I argued that it wouldn't be "real" otherwise. Initially, they protested that you can't just "give" someone like that. I argued that it's not really ownership unless you can. They really wanted it all to be real - that was part of the turnon for them both. He didn't like me suggesting that if she didn't honor him giving her to someone else, then he didn't really own her. What better way for her to prove it? Otherwise it's just a game.

I assured him that I wasn't that into the kink so he didn't have much to worry about, and I assured him I'd return her to him... though, I also told him he was right to worry since he had no recourse if I reneged and trying to resume their master/slave relationship without me giving her back would just show that it was never real before.

So... (all that was context for this part :) ) he made a big ceremony out of it with a contract and a proclamation that he had written up, and declaring the collar a symbol that ownership had changed.

I met her at a nearby movie theater with the collar and put it on her, then led her with a leash across the parking lot. During the movie pulled her toward me periodically. That night I just dropped her back at her parents wearing her collar. The next day, instead of giving her back, I told her I wasn't quite done with her and would come pick her up for another date.

I rented Kiss the Girls (back when you did that at Blockbuster :)) - a movie she hadn't seen, but, I knew would hit several of her kink "buttons". I toyed with her a bit in ways I knew were buttons for her... having her crawl like a dog. Pushing her off the couch mid-movie since animals aren't allowed on furniture, then calling her back on like a well-loved pet, but having her rest her head in my lap.

Not much more than that... mostly I wanted to make them both stress that I wasn't giving her back right away. I figured that was a gift to them... making their play time that much more real once I did.

In retrospect, I wish I'd played more. :)
This aligns closely with what I had in mind. Not that I have had a similar RL experience, but did fantasize about such a thing.
 
I would need a romantic element to it.

The real world isn’t always chains and whips.. sometimes it’s more subtle, and less painful… a red ass hurts..

Sometimes a arm around a waist, or a hand on the lower back guiding someone can be huge.
You are right on - when I first stated the plot, my idea wasn't a D/S relationship in chains/whips. In fact, far from it. To me D/S is in one's mind and can naturally flow in real life vs with any props or any bodily play. To me, it's all in one's mind. The long distance relationship in a way reflects that (and something I am familiar with) and it's more about the dynamic than any props.

I like the romance aspect very much - to me this enhances the dynamic. In a way, the Dom also experiences some mental agony of having to give up something.

Thank you for bringing forth the romance aspect.
 
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