What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

How do you eat Skittles?

One at a time of a handful at once? This may break our friendship if you answer incorrectly.
Sort them by color and then make a triangle out of them with the largest number as the base and then you put the left overs in a separate pile and eat them one at a time from the bottom to the top maintaining a triangle.
That’s a poor description but I found a photo.
 

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Sort them by color and then make a triangle out of them with the largest number as the base and then you put the left overs in a separate pile and eat them one at a time from the bottom to the top maintaining a triangle.
That’s a poor description but I found a photo.
It's odd that I don't do this,but I totally get it. Apparently I have found my tribe.
 
Sort them by color and then make a triangle out of them with the largest number as the base and then you put the left overs in a separate pile and eat them one at a time from the bottom to the top maintaining a triangle.
That’s a poor description but I found a photo.
Lay down....
I think we should do skittle body shots....
Can you hold still that long 😘
 
And women are not normally used in medical studies because it is too difficult to control for hormones…umm ok. So we use meds and practices not designed or tested on women. Nice.
Yesss, the gender bias in the medical community is infuriating! Women’s concerns are not taken as seriously, especially when it comes to under-prescribing painkillers, and especially especially in cases of women of color. Women of color are also so much more likely to have negative outcomes in childbirth too. And don’t even get me started on the male birth control trials that were abandoned because men couldn’t handle a fraction of the side effects caused by women’s birth control pills!

Yes, completely agree. My spouse has been through two types of unrelated cancer, and a myriad of other medical issues. The people most impressed with the longevity of our marriage through it all, are always men.

My spouse is, in general, a very good person, but when it comes to me he's a bit negligent. After my surgery last month I opted to go to a skilled nursing facility for 7 days rather than have him care for me, because the mental load of having to direct him, remind him, ask for help, was just too much. The argument is made that men just aren't as nurturing. I call bullshit. There are wonderful, caring, nurturing men out there. We just need to do a better job as a society and as parents, to encourage & celebrate those qualities in men.
Glad you and hubby are better now! 💗 It’s honestly wonderful that you had the option of recovering in a nursing facility, but I feel like that is something that is very rare, probably pretty expensive / not covered by insurance in most cases. Also, sufficient help is not really available for a lot of lower-grade chronic conditions and “invisible” disabilities.

It can be a lot for any one person to take on financial responsibilities and household chores and caring for themselves and other humans, whether they be children, aging parents or significant others. I think society tends to ingrain the need for us to be nurturing from the time that we’re little girls, in so many ways, from baby dolls to older sisters being expected to sacrifice their childhoods to take care of younger siblings, while way too many boys get served and coddled and grow up not knowing how to do their own laundry.

*Sigh* I think I may be ranting now, and am emotionally exhausted just thinking about all this and reliving the ways it’s taken effect. The bold part though So much that! ⬆️

Yes … omg.

This is why I need to put my iPad on to fall asleep at night. Otherwise it’s just a movie of my bad decisions
That’s how I got into the habit of leaving Pandora on my TV with the screen off and sleep timer on.

Ah, I see. I would argue that as well, but I doubt you would agree with me. In the very short time I have known you, I have seen a person reaching out, at times deeply empathically so, to try to encourage people who are at a low point. I don't see a villain, or an awful person. I see someone hurt, who I would love to see heal, and love the positives she brings. I am a romantic, and often a fool, but I believe that everyone is deserving of love and respect, from themselves most of all. I would love to see that in everyone in general, and you in specific.

For whatever that is worth.
That too! ⬆️

Really interesting conversation here.
Self awareness and self image and extroverts and introverts.

Not sure what my personal thoughts are.

I think I'm hyper aware of how I may come across. I'm someone who overthinks everything she writes. Who, if she receives a reaction or a reply will go back to the post and check it still comes across how it was intended.

I spend quite a lot of my time alone too with only my internal echo chamber for company. I am working on getting back into the world but it's very daunting. That isolation can make me question and doubt every single thing.

I am unkind to myself which is maybe why I try so hard to bring kindness here as much as I can and I appreciate others that do the same too.
I understand what it’s like to overthink evvvvverything all too well. My brain is a self-critical asshole as well.

What helps me in darker periods, is writing down of what I’m proud of that day. Even if I just did the dishes, I’ll write it down. Hereby you remind yourself every day the things you did, and may be positive about. In a while you create a nice list, which feels good too.

For me it helps, but I understand it may be different if your suffering a severe depression.

I like that. I do something similar…I’ll ask what was the best part of your day? Cause even on my shittiest days there was something that made me smile.
Y’know, I’ve noticed when I scroll through the “what made you smile today” type of threads, that even though some days I can think of like 5 (usually small-ish) things, there are some days I just…can’t think of one. Those days have been much more rare thanks to my honey…but some days my anxiety and/or depression will really get to me and he’s the only thing that makes me smile, and I would hate to put that burden on anyone regularly.
 
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