Opinions Sought…28 year old male wanting relationship with 20 year old female (she is hot… one prior lover took her virginity recently)

[Jbdotcom]

Is this because this guy wants to dominate this beautiful 20 year old…show her the way in the bedroom? Have her become his submissive after she sees his experienced ways and has her cumming all the time? Is this age gap suspecting to support these thoughts or am I just stupid?

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Just stupid.

8 years isn't much of an age difference.

 

[MiaBabe23]

I don’t know. I don’t think the issue here is the age difference, but the fact of this guy swooping in when she’s only just lost her virginity to a guy with whom the relationship has just ended.
It’s probably gonna be a rough time for her
If the guy is worthy of being her second, right now he would just be a friend, and let anything physical only evolve when she is ready and initiates it

 

[IARainman]

What? A man (any age) wanting a sexy 20 year old? Seems very suspect to me.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Is this because this guy wants to dominate this beautiful 20 year old…show her the way in the bedroom? Have her become his submissive after she sees his experienced ways and has her cumming all the time? Is this age gap suspecting to support these thoughts or am I just stupid?

An 8 year age gap is pretty significant when the younger person is under 25. A 20 year old is 5 years younger, and I don’t think it is IDEAL for a long-term and mutually beneficial relationship. It could work, but typically won’t. Fun, sexy times? Sure. Relationship-relationship? Not likely to work.

 

[dodgeboy2]

An 8 year age gap is pretty significant when the younger person is under 25. A 20 year old is 5 years younger, and I don’t think it is IDEAL for a long-term and mutually beneficial relationship. It could work, but typically won’t. Fun, sexy times? Sure. Relationship-relationship? Not likely to work.

I think an age gap is or could be something detrimental to a relationship but I honestly think, myself I was 25 when I married my wife who was 19 when I married her and we have been together for over 40 years and happy.

So I think to say as a blanket statement that it likely will not work isn't one I would make, yes is it a bit harder, maybe but just as in a same age or close to the same age couple has the same problems. If in fact theses two have large incompatibility issues then that might be an issue but not an issue any have. I say maybe if you know each other and I mean very well it might just work.

 

[KatieDoes]

Just stupid.

8 years isn't much of an age difference.

I don’t think 8 years is a big difference when it’s, say, 35/43. There’s a huge difference in life experience between 20/28, though.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I think an age gap is or could be something detrimental to a relationship but I honestly think, myself I was 25 when I married my wife who was 19 when I married her and we have been together for over 40 years and happy.

So I think to say as a blanket statement that it likely will not work isn't one I would make, yes is it a bit harder, maybe but just as in a same age or close to the same age couple has the same problems. If in fact theses two have large incompatibility issues then that might be an issue but not an issue any have. I say maybe if you know each other and I mean very well it might just work.

I didn’t make a blanket statement that it wouldn’t work. I said it isn’t likely to work. Your anecdata doesn’t refute that.

Honestly, I personally see 28 and 20 as more than concerning. I wouldn’t trust a 28 year old who would date a 20 year old. Glad you’re happy, but 25 and 19 is really damn close to problematic. What worked for your wife definitely was actually traumatic to many other 19 year old women in similar positions.

 

[boytoyjoy]

I don't think 28/20 is icky, but it's dangerous. 20 = likely to be immature by comparison. The 28yo has been grown up for a lot longer.

 

[magic_rat]

I don't think 28/20 is icky, but it's dangerous. 20 = likely to be immature by comparison. The 28yo has been grown up for a lot longer.

A 20 year old woman is likely to be way more mature than a 28 year old guy.