Cock Talk

What else?...

*makes notes*

Seriously - would it be easier if you could get all this shit out the way when you first meet someone?

Or is it better to gradually find out..... that you've been missing out on shared kinks for months cos of reasons.
I think this is all first date stuff. Actually, it’s before first date.

In a non sexual way, I tend to subvert people’s expectations of me. It seems most people consider me to be a nice guy, polite, kind, courteous, etc. then when they find out all the juicy stuff, my penchant for dark comedy, boldness and raw sexual desires they are usually shocked (hopefully in a good way).

I have come to realize this and so, when I meet someone new, I try to throw a little of all of that ā€œdark and juicyā€ in right away so they can think this guy is not what he seems.

I think it would be great if a couple could sit down and share all their sexual proclivities right off the bat, so there are no (unpleasant) surprises and then maintain that honesty as things progress.

The problem, of course, is that people hear and think what they want to even when you flat out tell them the opposite is true.

Often, people who know me only in a public setting will say ā€œMelvin . . .ā€ (That’s not really my name, but we will pretend it is for the sake of this comment), they say, ā€œMelvin, you’re a really nice guy, you never get upset about anything, do you?ā€ To which I respond (in a monotone voice) ā€œI live in a constant state of uncontrollable rageā€. This always gets a laugh because they think I’m joking.

They think that. šŸ™‚
 
Ok Ok
I could make a number of guesses and my fingers have been everywhere and done everything. I probably have done it but never heard the term. The main thing that comes to mind is sticking a finger up urethra.
Don't everyone go first!
 
I could make a number of guesses and my fingers have been everywhere and done everything. I probably have done it but never heard the term. The main thing that comes to mind is sticking a finger up urethra.
Ouchie! I have sounder for that.
 
Ladies:
Has your male partner ever admitted to sucking a cock or being curious about it?
No.

How would (or did) you feel if he did?
Hmmm, slightly weirded out as it's never come up before.

Are you aroused by guy on guy action, but don’t want your guy involved in it?
Nope.

Would you like to see your partner with a cock in his mouth?
Nope.

A bi-guy friend surprised me once when he said an M/M/F threesome would interest him, butt a F/F/M would not. I was surprised. Personally, I don't think I've know a guy who did not find the idea of two females arousing. When asked why, he said: There's nothing there for me.

We didn't explore the reasoning further, but it's still a pretty good answer. For whatever reason, there's just nothing there for me. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø

Why does it seem like most women don’t want guy on guy?
Don't they? Based on the reaction of my lesbian girlfriends and the women on Lit I'm not sure that's a true statement. šŸ¤”

If in a ā€˜two guys and a girl’ threesome, do you only want the guys paying attention to you, or are you interested in seeing them plow each other too? (And none of that ā€œwhatever makes us all happyā€ garbage. I’m asking what you and only you want. 😁)
Hmmm. I am not sure. I mean, I would say, just paying attention to me, but that seems so situational, surely? And wildly dependent on the people involved. Too, I am not really a group sex-er. . . .

I'm going with I don't have enough information or experience to answer this question.

If your guy wanted cock, would you overthink yourself to death wondering all kinds of stuff, or would you be happy that you have a guy who is comfortable enough with you to be open?
I'd certainly want them to be open. Nothing worse than having to curtail your words and thoughts for fear of judgement. Eesh.

And, yes, I would absolute overthink, because I live to overthink. šŸ˜‚
 
From what I see on Lit there are a lot of men that identify as heterosexual that fantasize about sucking another man’s dick. These men, can in theory, get there dick sucked by their female partner but they do not have a dick to suck in their heterosexual relationships.
If you are blindfolded how would you know who is sucking your dick?
 
I think this is all first date stuff. Actually, it’s before first date.

In a non sexual way, I tend to subvert people’s expectations of me. It seems most people consider me to be a nice guy, polite, kind, courteous, etc. then when they find out all the juicy stuff, my penchant for dark comedy, boldness and raw sexual desires they are usually shocked (hopefully in a good way).

I have come to realize this and so, when I meet someone new, I try to throw a little of all of that ā€œdark and juicyā€ in right away so they can think this guy is not what he seems.

I think it would be great if a couple could sit down and share all their sexual proclivities right off the bat, so there are no (unpleasant) surprises and then maintain that honesty as things progress.

The problem, of course, is that people hear and think what they want to even when you flat out tell them the opposite is true.

Often, people who know me only in a public setting will say ā€œMelvin . . .ā€ (That’s not really my name, but we will pretend it is for the sake of this comment), they say, ā€œMelvin, you’re a really nice guy, you never get upset about anything, do you?ā€ To which I respond (in a monotone voice) ā€œI live in a constant state of uncontrollable rageā€. This always gets a laugh because they think I’m joking.

They think that. šŸ™‚
I relate to this so much. Mostly because I've tried it both ways and they only hear what they want to. 100%

Also, smiles can be deceiving.
 
Lol, this reminds me of a video I watched where the guy was blindfolded and he had to guess if the girl or the guy was giving him oral... he guessed correctly every time.
It is the opposite of a blind taste test. I would love to set that up sometime. I did have a hot sexy kiss form a trans one time. I didn't know she was a trans an at the time I didn't care. Now I wish I had pursued a closer relationship.
 
I am more interested in the answer most women won’t give (probably) for fear of being called a somethingaphobe. I am interested to hear from the women who are not into it to figure out why. I used to think it was because it could, in a way, make for a type of ā€œfeminizationā€ of the guy and most women want manly men. But now I think it has more to do with her wanting the attention on herself more than the 2 guys with each other.
I'll take a crack at it... So male on male action isn't my go to fantasy. Its not something that really does much for me other than I like the idea of a partner who doesn't have a lot of inhibitions and would try anything.

I can't pinpoint why it's not sexy to me. I can think of some theories but I have no idea what is really working in my head to not make it a big turn on.

It is so interesting to me that the thought of two men getting it on is less sexy to me than two women together because in general I'm more attracted to men. So maybe the attractiveness of men to me might depend on the interaction of men with women. It might also be that Im self centered and scenarios that do not involve my gender are less of a turn on because it is harder to feel/ imagine myself as part of the action.

But then again, Queer as Folk was pretty hot. So maybe I do like it and just not when it involves my partner? But I also don't seek out gay porn so maybe I don't like it. Now I feel like I need a psychologist to explain it to me.
 
I'll take a crack at it... So male on male action isn't my go to fantasy. Its not something that really does much for me other than I like the idea of a partner who doesn't have a lot of inhibitions and would try anything.

I can't pinpoint why it's not sexy to me. I can think of some theories but I have no idea what is really working in my head to not make it a big turn on.

It is so interesting to me that the thought of two men getting it on is less sexy to me than two women together because in general I'm more attracted to men. So maybe the attractiveness of men to me might depend on the interaction of men with women. It might also be that Im self centered and scenarios that do not involve my gender are less of a turn on because it is harder to feel/ imagine myself as part of the action.

But then again, Queer as Folk was pretty hot. So maybe I do like it and just not when it involves my partner? But I also don't seek out gay porn so maybe I don't like it. Now I feel like I need a psychologist to explain it to me.
We like what we like. You don't have to put a stamp on it. There is so much out there to choose from.
 
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