Cock Talk

[Endless_Night]

Nor would binding them with rope for temperature play, which is something I myself would enjoy receiving.

I don't know about temperature play, but rope bunny is something that has appeal.

 

[MedicalMuse]

Welp. Can't get my picture to load and I'm afraid to search too deeply. So no picture.

Question.

Trekka did some recent posting that include a link for a Pain Slut thread. I skimmed. It reminded me of some of the chat I’d seen when I first join Lit, in BDSM.

Back then I was all *big eyes* and utterly taken aback. It seemed to be so predominant in the mix, and the pain/pleasure concept was a whole new concept. There was much talk of the different feels of pain, thuddy or stingy. How far people liked to go. Thresholds. Types of delivery. Limits. Etc.

Now, I’m curious. Out of the BDSM environ, how prevalent is liking a little pain in sex? Giving or receiving? Or both? And, you know, preferences?

Asking this question has been Hotwords pre-approved.

I love this question.
I occasionally need a little (or a lottle) of pain to get me out of my own head. I am a receiver. I can give, but it’s not what drives me.

Back in the day, there was a guy I dated, pre husband, who could make me cum just from biting my neck and holding my head still by my hair.

It’s a holdover. Thats still something that will get me instantly turned on.

 

[Endless_Night]

Nipple clamps and spankings are fun, but not painful to me.

Umm, what?!

And it’s much more likely for that to happen with another women. I can’t explain why. But with the right person and mood, I’d be willing to experiment a bit.

*looks in @aussiegeekygal's direction*

Have I mentioned how much I love the complexities of sexuality?

Hahahaha! You would LOVE me.

Just for you, I looked it up. It seems much tamer than I expected. Like furries, just with clowns

This leaves me wildly confused. Where does the pain part come in?

 

[Endless_Night]

Back in the day, there was a guy I dated, pre husband, who could make me cum just from biting my neck and holding my head still by my hair.

This is boggling. I once knew a woman whose husband could bite her ear, and she would . . . well, that^.

 

[MedicalMuse]

This is boggling. I once knew a woman whose husband could bite her ear, and she would . . . well, that^.

It takes all kinds. I dunno. It works for me. It realllllly worked back then

 

[Bbl87]

I love this question.
I occasionally need a little (or a lottle) of pain to get me out of my own head. I am a receiver. I can give, but it’s not what drives me.

Back in the day, there was a guy I dated, pre husband, who could make me cum just from biting my neck and holding my head still by my hair.

It’s a holdover. Thats still something that will get me instantly turned on.

https://c.tenor.com/Pb6dNSwnEBcAAAAC/tenor.gif

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

That said, I’m an experimentalist without many hangups or judgements. I love exploring new things. I’ve found (over and over again) that you really never know how you’ll react until you’re in the situation. And for me, it turns out the situation is everything. The right person(s), timing, environment, kink, mood, etc. Some things I was absolutely positive I was not into, were really fucking hot in the moment. Some of those are things I’ve been able to selectively repeat or even things I love now, but others were unique to that specific time and place.

This hits home. Experiencing the same sexual act with a different person or in a different place produces a completely different reaction

I’ve never really been in any type of true D/s dynamic, but I recognize I lean pretty dominant myself. I think it could be fun to give up control as an experiment, but it’s not my nature and would probably have to happen organically. And it’s much more likely for that to happen with another women. I can’t explain why. But with the right person and mood, I’d be willing to experiment a bit.

This is fascinating^
You said you can't explain it, but is it because you'd feel more safe with another woman?

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

https://c.tenor.com/Pb6dNSwnEBcAAAAC/tenor.gif

I finally found the g-spot!!!! Didn't expect it to be in the neck. Women, you are sneaky

 

[Bbl87]

I finally found the g-spot!!!! Didn't expect it to be in the neck. Women, you are sneaky

I mean, I thought I knew Muse's buttons, but I'm a life long learner.

 

[MedicalMuse]

I mean, I thought I knew Muse's buttons, but I'm a life long learner.

I like that about you

 

[LadyLascivious1]

This hits home. Experiencing the same sexual act with a different person or in a different place produces a completely different reaction

Exactly!

This is fascinating^
You said you can't explain it, but is it because you'd feel more safe with another woman?

No, I think it’s more that I’m more flexible when it comes to women in general. Submissive men aren’t usually a turn on for me, but that’s not necessarily true with women. So I think it’s an extension of that…my boundaries are already different and so I’m more likely to try switching.

Umm, what?!

It’s all relative I think? I’m sure I’ve never experimented with the most hard core of clamps or spankings.

*looks in @aussiegeekygal's direction*

Oh my, that woman can rock a leather Domme outfit

Hahahaha! You would LOVE me.

I already love you. That would just be icing on the cake.

Also, new life goal unlocked. I SO want to know all the Enny sexual proclivities and complexities! For real.

This leaves me wildly confused. Where does the pain part come in?

Ugh, do I have to Google again?

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

No, I think it’s more that I’m more flexible when it comes to women in general. Submissive men aren’t usually a turn on for me,

But you've found sub guys a turn on a few times? I wonder what the differentiation is

but that’s not necessarily true with women. So I think it’s an extension of that…my boundaries are already different and so I’m more likely to try switching.

That makes a ton of sense. You step outside of one norm, so then what's another

Oh my, that woman can rock a leather Domme outfit

... please let this be going where my pervy mind has already jumped ahead to

 

[MedicalMuse]

Exactly!


No, I think it’s more that I’m more flexible when it comes to women in general. Submissive men aren’t usually a turn on for me, but that’s not necessarily true with women. So I think it’s an extension of that…my boundaries are already different and so I’m more likely to try switching.

For which I am extremely grateful

It’s all relative I think? I’m sure I’ve never experimented with the most hard core of clamps or spankings.


Oh my, that woman can rock a leather Domme outfit


I already love you. That would just be icing on the cake.

Also, new life goal unlocked. I SO want to know all the Enny sexual proclivities and complexities! For real.


Ugh, do I have to Google again?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Oh my, that woman can rock a leather Domme outfit

You rang?

 

[Bbl87]

You rang?

Well, umm...

I'm gonna need a few minutes... I'll be right back...

 

[UnquietDreams]

You rang?

 

[Endless_Night]

I already love you. That would just be icing on the cake.

Also, new life goal unlocked. I SO want to know all the Enny sexual proclivities and complexities! For real.

Honestly, you probably don't. I've been trying to explain to someone recently and, truthfully, I think I managed a C+ on that dissertation.

It's hopeless.

Ugh, do I have to Google again?

Well, I mean, I'm certainly not going to!

 

[Endless_Night]

You rang?

Is that link what I think it is?

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

Is that link what I think it is?

If you're anything like me it's going to make you think 'I don't love what's in her hands but based on the rest of this image I'm going to come up with a safe word'

 

[Endless_Night]

If you're anything like me it's going to make you think 'I don't love what's in her hands but based on the rest of this image I'm going to come up with a safe word'

Took a chance.

Whoa, Aussie!

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

Took a chance.

Whoa, Aussie!

Yeah, my jaw dropped too

 

[aussiegeekygal]

If you're anything like me it's going to make you think 'I don't love what's in her hands but based on the rest of this image I'm going to come up with a safe word'

I find it very hard to believe you've not been on the receiving end of a flogger

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

I find it very hard to believe you've not been on the receiving end of a flogger

Not even once. Spanked, hit with a riding crop, but never a flogger. I'd love to say that it looks like fun, but it looks super painful

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Not even once. Spanked, hit with a riding crop, but never a flogger. I'd love to say that it looks like fun, but it looks super painful

It's not that painful to be honest. Sure, it smarts a little, but that's the fun of it right?

 

[Endless_Night]

I find it very hard to believe you've not been on the receiving end of a flogger

Me, too!!!

I sorta thought that was default’s thing.