Cock Talk

[morelikeasong]

Do you have naked friends? The ones that are naked around you and you’re naked around them without weirdness?

Yep. Less so nowadays but back when we were partying someone always seemed to be getting naked

Have you had sex in the same room as your friends?

No. Well… ok yes, once. But it was college and only half sex. I don’t count it.

Have you ever seen your best friend naked?

Yep. In fact, at her wedding I was just in I was slipping her husband dirty Polaroids of her all night

Have they seen you naked?

Yes again. It’s been a while since she’s seen full frontal but my boobs were out at the wedding a few weeks ago lol

Would being naked around your best friend be awkward, funny, normal or sexual?

Funny/normal.

Have you ever heard your best friend have sex or have they heard you?

Back in the day she had sex in the same room as me and I was so grossed out by hearing her. It’s definitely possible she’s heard me through the wall at one point, though she’s never mentioned.

Have you ever engaged in masturbation with your best friend?

Nooo. Not that kind of friend.

Do you share openly with your best friend about sexual escapades?

Yep! Not about lit stuff but IRL stuff. If I’ve had a little booze I’ll talk about anything. Except the fact that I rarely get laid. I don’t mention that part . But the fun stuff, yes we swap kinky stories

What is the most intimately sexual thing a friend has ever shared with you?

An anal beads mishap

What have you shared with them?

Nothing too scandalous but some kinky experiences

 

[LadyLascivious1]

No. Well… ok yes, once. But it was college and only half sex. I don’t count it.

Is that like “just the tip” doesn’t count as sex?

 

[hotwords229_A]

Is that like “just the tip” doesn’t count as sex?

I was wondering the same thing.
We may need a definition of what “half sex” is.

 

[deft]

Yep. In fact, at her wedding I was just in I was slipping her husband dirty Polaroids of her all night

This is insanely great.

 

[morelikeasong]

This is insanely great.

It was so fun! We saw it as a TikTok trend and decided to give it a try. Watching him look at it and then try to compose himself surrounded by friends and family was hilarious

Is that like “just the tip” doesn’t count as sex?

I was wondering the same thing.
We may need a definition of what “half sex” is.

It was more than just the tip it was the whole thing but only like… idk, six pumps? No one came or even close to it.
It was in my (freshman) college dorm room bed and he was either in his late 20s or early 30s. I think he started having an existential crisis

 

[crazychemgirl]

It was so fun! We saw it as a TikTok trend and decided to give it a try. Watching him look at it and then try to compose himself surrounded by friends and family was hilarious


It was more than just the tip it was the whole thing but only like… idk, six pumps? No one came or even close to it.
It was in my (freshman) college dorm room bed and he was either in his late 20s or early 30s. I think he started having an existential crisis

I’ve experienced this as well … more than just the tip but does it count as full sex if there was only 1 pump and that’s all it took for him?

 

[UnquietDreams]

Is that like “just the tip” doesn’t count as sex?

Having had a woman use just my tip...no, that can absolutely count as sex.

 

[UnquietDreams]

Yep. In fact, at her wedding I was just in I was slipping her husband dirty Polaroids of her all night

Now that is an addition to the wedding album you don't let everyone see...

I love this.

 

[morelikeasong]

Having had a woman use just my tip...no, that can absolutely count as sex.

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[LadyLascivious1]

It was more than just the tip it was the whole thing but only like… idk, six pumps? No one came or even close to it.
It was in my (freshman) college dorm room bed and he was either in his late 20s or early 30s. I think he started having an existential crisis

I’d say that is disappointingly unsatisfying sex, but still sex

Having had a woman use just my tip...no, that can absolutely count as sex.

Agreed!

 

[LadyLascivious1]

I’ve experienced this as well … more than just the tip but does it count as full sex if there was only 1 pump and that’s all it took for him?

Yes, just very, very bad sex.

Can you imagine if premature ejaculation sex didn’t count as sex? Would the average number of partners for men and women be closer to equal?

 

[Bbl87]

Yes, just very, very bad sex.

Can you imagine if premature ejaculation sex didn’t count as sex? Would the average number of partners for men and women be closer to equal?

Ya know, it's funny to look back...

When I first started having sex, I even used those "prolong" condoms or whatever that numbed slightly to help you last.

Nowadays, even using a condom would probably make me last an eternity if not entirely prevent me from finishing. Hell, sometimes I have to really focus to finish nowadays.

How times have changed...

 

[Bbl87]

I’ve experienced this as well … more than just the tip but does it count as full sex if there was only 1 pump and that’s all it took for him?

I mean, I didn't last long back when I gave up the ol' V-card, but this does make me feel better about 19 year old Bbl87's performance...

 

[UnquietDreams]

I mean, I didn't last long back when I gave up the ol' V-card, but this does make me feel better about 19 year old Bbl87's performance...

Yeah, but the refractory period was almost non-existent back then..

 

[Bbl87]

Yeah, but the refractory period was almost non-existent back then..

Honestly, mine is still pretty much the same. At least for now.

 

[Apisto42]

It was more than just the tip it was the whole thing but only like… idk, six pumps? No one came or even close to it.

Did he pull out and say,”I’m only giving you half of the dirty dozen cause you’re just too pretty”?

 

[Endless_Night]

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Question.

Trekka did some recent posting that include a link for a Pain Slut thread. I skimmed. It reminded me of some of the chat I’d seen when I first join Lit, in BDSM.

Back then I was all *big eyes* and utterly taken aback. It seemed to be so predominant in the mix, and the pain/pleasure concept was a whole new concept. There was much talk of the different feels of pain, thuddy or stingy. How far people liked to go. Thresholds. Types of delivery. Limits. Etc.

Now, I’m curious. Out of the BDSM environ, how prevalent is liking a little pain in sex? Giving or receiving? Or both? And, you know, preferences?

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[Bbl87]

Did he pull out and say,”I’m only giving you half of the dirty dozen cause you’re just too pretty”?

If only I had a 12 inch dick so I could use that line in another way.

I mean, I am on Lit, so I'm probably supposed to claim to have a 14 inch dick anyway, but ya.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

Back then I was all *big eyes* and utterly taken aback.

As opposed to the utterly unflappable, raunchy Enny of today

 

[Wriggle]

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Question.

Now, I’m curious. Out of the BDSM environ, how prevalent is liking a little pain in sex?

A little bit of pain never hurt anyone.

Giving or receiving?

Or both?

Both obviously, but I prefer feeling pain when my endorphins are high and I'm gentle with my pain giving - if that makes sense.

And, you know, preferences?

Biting, crescent moon marking, pinching, pulling, spanking, bollock punishment, light choking, anal penetration, sounding and clowning.

 

[hotwords229_A]

how prevalent is liking a little pain in sex?

I looked this up and I already forgot all the super smart info I read, but it had to do with brain stuff.
Continuum? Was that the word? I think so. It had to do with pleasure and pain receptors being closely related so that the feeling of both was fairly equal. Or something like that.

I’m not sure how prevalent it is, but I suspect it is fairly prevalent in many people’s sexual repertoire.

Giving or receiving? Or both?

No thanks. I prefer my sex to be not agonizing.
I mean a little rough stuff, sure, but once the whip comes out we better be doing some Indiana Jones role play or something, because I’m not in to the pain thing too much.

And, you know, preferences?

I might be more into the fun torture. Sort of like when you gently glide your fingertips over your wrist and it tickles so much it is almost orgasmic. That’s about as close to “pain” as I like to get, giving or receiving.

But I’m always up for new experiences.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

When I'm really aroused, pain and pleasure blur.

My favorite thing in those moments are some solid pussy thwacks. I melt. A good firm whallop!!

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

Question.
Now, I’m curious. Out of the BDSM environ, how prevalent is liking a little pain in sex? Giving or receiving? Or both? And, you know, preferences?

Asking this question has been Hotwords pre-approved.

I like extra stimulation during sex. And things that are normally painful, when aroused, feel more like pleasure. Pinch my nipples really hard when I'm not ready for it and it hurts. I don't like that feeling and wouldn't want it during sex. But pinch my nipples the same way when I'm about to cum and it just feels great. I think it's the same way with harder spankings, hair pulling etc. I don't actually like pain; I just like some of the things that normally feel like pain during sex because it ends up feeling like pleasure.

I think an element of suspense related to slight pain really works for me too... like knowing I'll get a smack cause his hands are caressing my ass but not knowing exactly when.

It's like liking the taste of spicy peppers in food so much that sometimes it worth it to burn your mouth eating it. I'm really just aiming for just the pleasurable sensations but sometimes some pain happens and that's okay.

As for giving... I think I would have a hard time doing anything actually painful to my partner. Even if I knew they really enjoyed it. Id try if it was someone really important to me, but I don't think I would enjoy it.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I think I would have a hard time doing anything actually painful to my partner. Even if I knew they really enjoyed it.

Agreed.

 

[UnquietDreams]

Now, I’m curious. Out of the BDSM environ, how prevalent is liking a little pain in sex?

I am generally not into pain during sex. A bit of hair pulling, gentle biting, maybe a bit of nipple play if my partner is into it is fine. And I have done wax play with a couple of partners, but usually using lower-temperature melting wax. Not massage candles by any stretch, but not excruciating pain. Ice play as well.

Giving

I have been bitten during, and that was hot. But I am not into receiving impact play.

or receiving?

Giving? I am more a pleasure dom, and I don't like impact play. However, I also get aroused by my partner's arousal, to the point where I can enjoy going beyond what I like. I had a partner who was very much into impact play. Because it turned her on so much, I had no problem spanking her ass raw when she wanted that. It wasn't as if I forced my self or did it just for her--she was so turned on by it that it turned me on. It was something she needed, even if I didn't understand why, and I could give that to her safely.

Or both? And, you know, preferences?

I have a friend whose job is a dominatrix. She specializes in impact play, some extreme. She says her clients are people who need to be broken down to face their trauma. When they are in extreme pain, beaten, abused, it gets them to a place where all of their defenses are down, and they can then face what they need to fix. Past the pain, they find their peace. She has one regular who comes in every six weeks or so, gets strapped to a St. Andrews in full leather mask and ball gag and nothing else, and takes a full ten to fifteen strokes from a leather bullwhip (they discuss the exact number beforehand). They use a piece of red cloth as the safe word, but he has never dropped it. She says the look on his face afterward is beatific. So it isn't my kink, but for some people, it is all that works. (She can also be scary as fuck. I love her.)